Taking a break from swinging

[njbm 2,901]

We are taking a break from swinging. We are going out to dinner with a couple with whom we have previously played. If we were playing, we would be happy to play with them. Do we owe them any greater explanation than that we are taking a break? We don’t want them to think it’s about them. 

[ROCKlandCpl 452]

Is there an expectation for play or have you dined with them before. An explanation might be needed if they press. They should take your explanation without pressure for additional reasons. 

[Idahocouple6969 294]

If it comes up I would just say"We are just taking a break." Friends won't push it.  

 

You don't owe anyone an explanation unless you want to give one.

[realcplub2 513]

8 hours ago, njbm said:

We are taking a break from swinging. We are going out to dinner with a couple with whom we have previously played. If we were playing, we would be happy to play with them. Do we owe them any greater explanation than that we are taking a break? We don’t want them to think it’s about them. 

Its totally you .. We had good friends we made in the lifestyle ghost us, and we had another couple explain they were having issues and asked us to understand, we certainly did, and stepped back.. months went by and the next contact was to ask if Mr Real would come for a 3some.. and we politely explained the same we do when the flip side occurs.. you want one you get both.. And then they broke up, he was screwing around outside the relationship

 

Courtesy sure, but there are times when it happens and if they are truly friends of yours they will respect it and step back...  

Edited February 24, 2022 by realcplub2
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[njbm 2,901]

We had a very pleasant dinner out. No one discussed swinging. We did make tentative plans for pickleball.  I think that neither couple are hard core swingers. With the pandemic, we are happy for any human contact.