People only looking for women!

[enhancer 1,586]

Big pet peeve of ours is people online that are only looking for another woman hitting her up when we state clearly that we are a couple that only play together!  The answer to this is always going to be fuckoff. No need to be respectful of people that are not respectful of us.
 

We get that many men are creeps and don’t bother reading any part of a profile before sending a message,  but we would expect better from couples.

 

If a couple that states that they are only looking for a woman sends a message, friends request or flirt they have instantly ruined any chance of interest on our part even when they inevitably change their profile to include couples once they realize women are not going to be lined up to join them.  Bridge has been burnt beyond repair.  There is nothing that special about any couples out there that the wives from other couples are going to ditch their partner to be with them.  Figure this shit out if you want to get anywhere in this lifestyle.

 

A side note on this is in our experience the single unicorn women out there are more likely to want to join a couple where the man also shares his wife with other couples, because the chances of drama or less likely in an equal relationship.   This is what we have been told by the women that have contacted and played with us in the past anyways.

[couplers 4,718]

3 hours ago, enhancer said:

in our experience the single unicorn women out there are more likely to want to join a couple where the man also shares his wife with other couples, because the chances of drama or less likely in an equal relationship.   This is what we have been told by the women that have contacted and played with us in the past anyways

This is understandable.  I have found, however, that single women are often eager to hook up with married men, especially with the wife's agreement.  The wife watching is not as easy, and participating even less so.  But the bisexual unicorns are out there.

[cplnluv1 874]

This was us, looking for a woman only, not knowing how to go about finding a woman. We thought join a site put an ad up and horny women would be more than willing. Reality was quickly learned, Unicorns are extremely rare. What wasn’t rare was men looking to get laid. Single men, married men, men posting as women looking for pictures and overall weirdos. We changed our want and our post to couple looking for a couple that only wants women play. That matched our real want, a couple like us. What we got were the same single men, meetings set up where only the man showed, and again weirdos. Our thoughts changed after much talk, couple with a bi woman. We realized most men want to participate. It was difficult to change our wants, and even then we got the same men posing as couples, and men writing as a woman. 
We started over with a new profile on a swinging site. New ID, new description, new site. Same fakes. 
Fast forward, we have heard the same problems from others. It’s frustrating, yet fun now. It’s like getting a call about my car warranty, or my Amazon account, except all of those are fakes. 

[njbm 2,901]

31 minutes ago, cplnluv1 said:

This was us, looking for a woman only, not knowing how to go about finding a woman. We thought join a site put an ad up and horny women would be more than willing. Reality was quickly learned, Unicorns are extremely rare. What wasn’t rare was men looking to get laid. Single men, married men, men posting as women looking for pictures and overall weirdos. We changed our want and our post to couple looking for a couple that only wants women play. That matched our real want, a couple like us. What we got were the same single men, meetings set up where only the man showed, and again weirdos. Our thoughts changed after much talk, couple with a bi woman. We realized most men want to participate. It was difficult to change our wants, and even then we got the same men posing as couples, and men writing as a woman. 
We started over with a new profile on a swinging site. New ID, new description, new site. Same fakes. 
Fast forward, we have heard the same problems from others. It’s frustrating, yet fun now. It’s like getting a call about my car warranty, or my Amazon account, except all of those are fakes. 

We have been on SLS for about seven years. We like to play as a couple with couples. We see the usual suspects come up in our searches. Few are couples who actually play, fewer still are in our age group (over 60). It’s a limited group of actual lifestylers. Most of our recent (pre-pandemic) play has been on cruises. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

There's a reason that they are called unicorns. I can only guess that some people looking for them start looking where there most likely aren't any to be found out of desperation. Easy enough to block those people who don't or can't read...

[ROCKlandCpl 452]

Whether looking for a woman or a pair the results were the same. We didn’t have restrictions on our posting because we were testing the waters. Thinking back we weren’t looking for single men, single women or bi/bi couples. I know we had to be physically attractive to us. We wanted ages close to ours. We got single men, men saying they had partners and as others stated Fakes. 
We didn’t know what to expect and how others acted on first meetings. I couldn’t just meet for sex with strangers. So many just wanted immediate sex, no pre-meets. That was a red flag for us. We wanted to meet and get to know first. We contacted a couple, she wrote back with a sweet non sexual response. We made a date, no pressure meeting. It worked. They asked what we were looking for which made us think more. She asked if I was comfy with certain things, I wasn’t sure. 
We weren’t looking for a unicorn, didn’t find a unicorn, but with work found a fabulous first. 

[Billygoat 445]

Recent exchange on swingtown: 

 

we think you’re hot.

thanks

we are hoping for a threesome

I’ve done many threesomes, have you?

no.  We are new to all this and would like to try having one.

have you been to any LS parties.

not yet.  Not sure about that.  Really want a threesome

well the best is to meet some time and talk.  Make sure everyone is comfortable and discuss limitations, likes and no go activities.

oh sure we understand.  Really excited. What kind of things like rules

yes, limitations for you and her.  Best to know before anything starts.  Will this be soft or full swing event.

?????

involve penetration or just manual or oral play

all of it we are open.  Just want threesome.

well I am not bi but not shy.

ok

and I do not participate in anal.

ok

i am clean, clipped and snipped

??

circumcised and vasectomy.  Tested and clean

you are a guy.

yes husband here.

no.  I just want two women.

yeah.  Don’t we all.  You only asked for a threesome.

just women 

np. Good luck

 

 

supposedly late 40s couple.  Husband calls all th shots.  Wanted to meet solo to check things out then involve his wife.  The vibe wasn’t right so I had a little fun.  Lol

 

 

[BillyandDebbie 301]

We just joined one of the swinging meet sites reluctantly. Our friends insisted that we meet other people and not depend on visiting them as our only swing mates. Filling out the profile together we put in many restrictions that we didn’t have with our friends. Couple, same room, no bi play, condoms, no anal, and many more no. In capital letters NO SINGLE MEN. We emphasized again in the profile NO SINGLE MEN. How clear can we make it?  It is very difficult for us to just post looking to meet a couple, we made Debbie the screener. It was only posted very recently and we are getting correspondence very similar to what Billygoat posted. 
The reason I posted this is because we aren’t looking for a woman, we want a nice couple and we still get crazy men contacting us, it isn’t saved for any type of posting.