sexual desire

[NEWTOTHIS34 23]

Hello all,

Just an honest from the heart post.

My wife and I have chatted about same room sex and is has said she would be happy to do that in the right situation but no more than that. She said she is aroused by swinging type situations and we role play a bit but said she wouldn't do it in reality. 

So my question or rather some clarity is this as I have no one else I can talk to about this in person. If I happen to be in a busy supermarket for example I would say 1 out of every 2 women between 21 - 50 I feel a sexual attraction to and would love to have sex with. Obviously thats impossible but thats how it is. My wife and I are pretty open about things and I have said this to her and she says that is not normal and somethings wrong with me. What do others think? Sometimes I feel pretty alone and feel like what is wrong with me.

I don't think I should have to feel this way and wont want to be around people who think anything sexual or any man who has sexual desire to another woman is dirt.

 

Another topic or some thoughts on something else I would appreciate some thoughts on is this. 

I have had this my whole life and I am so sick and tired of being called derogatory terms or looked down on for being open about sexual things by men and women. For example the latest thing a very good looking woman wrote a tweet on twitter whos in my friend twitter network and she referenced herself to being female by saying "Having a vagina....." I tweeted back in reply to he post and also said I am sure you have a beautiful vagina. Well the numerous comments back from men and women with derogatory terms such as "creep" and many other awful things. Why can being open about something like that cause someone to be verbally abused and slandered like some kind of creep etc. Why does anything to do with a body part or anything sexwise cause others to totally trash them and call them a creep etc. 

Also even this, 3 days ago while out at a amusement park a good looking lady had a short skirt on and was on a ride and due to the position of the ride she was unable to cross her legs. I happened to notice and she happened to notice me notice. She looked very annoyed like I was some kind of creep and immediately put a jumper inbetween her legs. Same thing happened a couple of weeks ago when a woman with a low cut top of leaned over in front of me and she noticed that I noticed I could see a good view of her breasts in a bar that she got annoyed and put her hands over the top of her shirt to block the view. Not like I was leaning over with my tounge out or anything I just looked. 

 

Why does it seem like anyone who talks about anything sexwise, or looks at something a woman is revealing ie like above called a creep or made to feel like dirt. Ofcourse there have been the odd times when this has happened and the lady has been flattered that obviously I found her attractive and if anything revealed a bit more. But for some women to go to the other extreme of calling you derogatory terms or giving you a very dirty looks, I just think why???

 

[njbm 2,870]

Diagnosis: normal male. (credentials: two semesters of college psychology, know many odd people). If people are going to display their parts, other people are going to look. 

[lcmim 1,082]

Just for reference what is your age? Your questions seem more about your reactions to others reactions to you than about their reactions.

 

How "normal" this is depends a bit on age and experience. 

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

I don't think it at all unusual for a man to find 50% of woman attractive. I find many women, in all sorts of shapes and sizes, to be attractive. For me, there's more to it than that if I were to actually consider having sex with them. I want to know what's between their ears. That can kill the attraction or make it really hot. In general though, I think you're perfectly normal.

 

As to your observing women when they are accidentally displaying themselves in ways they didn't intend... Personally, I take the gentleman's approach. If a woman is unintentionally showing something, I will avert my eyes as soon as I realize it's happening. A few examples; I was in a Macy's some years back and a young sales clerk in heels, hose, and skirt knelt down to pick something up. She was trying top be demure and was trying to keep her knees together while reaching to her side to pick up what was on the floor. She inadvertently aimed her knees right at me, and as a result I got a perfect view up her skirt. I couldn't really see anything; just the panty part of her hose, but as soon as I realized what happened I looked away. Another example; a co-worker brought his very adorable dog into work and was in the lobby of our office building. Another coworker, a woman, was instantly drawn to the dog, She knelt down and bent over to pet the dog. She was very focused on the dog, and didn't realize she was giving me and my coworker an absolutely perfect view of most of her breasts, with her demi-cup barely covering. My coworker and I both averted our eyes, looked at each other slightly smiling and quickly found the ceiling to be very interesting.

 

Women wear lots of clothes that are potentially revealing, given the wrong circumstances. A beyond knee length skirt can suddenly fly up with a gust of wind and reveal the whole show. This happened to Princess Catherine on at least one occasion. That doesn't mean the woman in question wants people to see. Same goes for a women bending over in a blouse that reveals more than they intend, or a button down blouse that's out of position a bit and is showing her bra, etc., etc., etc. There's all sorts of possible pseudo-wardrobe failures. A gentleman doesn't take advantage of such moments.

 

My recommendation; next time avert your eyes.

[TnA83 309]

I love women of all shapes, sizes and colors.  When I see a pretty girl, I usually think, "What a sharp girl!  I would love to be friends with her."  As for having sex with them, I have a really hot girl at home.  Once you start talking to them, many of the pretty girls become ugly and the plain girls become really hot.  The "having sex with them" part would come in due time if the girl in question was interested,  Many people on here and other sites describe swinging as sex with strangers.  I am retired from swinging these days but I would describe swinging as sex with new friends. 

[NerdsAreFun 226]

On 3/26/2022 at 7:27 AM, NEWTOTHIS34 said:

she referenced herself to being female by saying "Having a vagina....." I tweeted back in reply to he post and also said I am sure you have a beautiful vagina. Well the numerous comments back from men and women with derogatory terms such as "creep" and many other awful things. Why can being open about something like that cause someone to be verbally abused and slandered like some kind of creep etc. Why does anything to do with a body part or anything sexwise cause others to totally trash them and call them a creep etc. 

 

That was a bit of a creepy comment.  If she was showing you her vagina that would have been different.  You don't know what it looks like at all but reveal you are fantasizing about what it looks like.  While she was just using it as a definition, presumably in a transgender topic of conversation.

 

As for getting caught looking...

Looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun, you don't stare at it.  It's too risky.  You get a sense of it then you look away.

 

[NEWTOTHIS34 23]

Thanks for the replys. I mean all I said was that I was admiring women's beauty basically which is I think the same as feeling a natural sexual attraction to some women on first sight which is actually what I said to them as this is what happens to me when I see some women on first sight. That was it, a few seconds of sight, no grouping, touching or anything else. So for this some women and men were saying things like "how disrespectful of you towards women and you are seeing them as sexual objects doing that, you are a disgrace!!!" Which I find their remarks are twisting something natural and normal into something vile which it is not. I am wondering also, do you think its the rise of women supremacy/feminism which has indoctrinated society, especially into collages and university's which have caused women and men to view men who find women sexually attractive at first sight as vile scum basically? turning something innocent, natural and normal into something shameful and hence casing men to supress there biological make up. Hence also causing men to also keep this to themselves and kind of virtue signal to the feminist agenda supporting women that they agree with them and they themselves do not find women sexually attractive unless they get to know them and develop a emotional connection etc.

I mean some men do not find women sexually attractive on first sight and need to grow into getting a connection first and all power to them, nothing wrong with either.