More and more couples coming to swinger clubs just to watch people have sex?

[sweet_tna 680]

I've not been to many clubs, but I've thankfully not been bothered by those who wish to look. I'd rather be doing than watching, and if I'm having a really good time, I probably won't even notice.

 

=)

[bobbysaucexx 15]

My wife and I recently talked about a fantasy that we'd like to act out: watching a couple have sex while she gives me a hj (or bj if i get lucky ha). Neither of us have an interest in swapping at this time and I don't know if we ever will. We've been looking for clubs and parties in our area and reading up on the etiquette thats expected. We're thinking that swingers clubs may be the best place for us to live out this fantasy but of course want to make sure that it falls within what those who have been a part of the lifestyle feel is appropriate. This is a great site and I'm happy to have found this community. Any thoughts and input is appreciated. Thanks.

[Partyperks847 123]

We have not only noticed it, but encouraged it. In fact we created a separate wrist band (RED as in STOP) just for them, created rules to guide them, and rooms and areas specially for them. We give the option to "upgrade" to a different wrist band during the event, and the rate of those who choose to do so is about 30%, there are those however, who have been with us a long time, and still always wear red.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

We have not only noticed it, but encouraged it. In fact we created a separate wrist band (RED as in STOP) just for them, created rules to guide them, and rooms and areas specially for them. We give the option to "upgrade" to a different wrist band during the event, and the rate of those who choose to do so is about 30%, there are those however, who have been with us a long time, and still always wear red.

 

Lends new meaning to that old song "lady in red"

[snyderleeann 25]

That is a great idea! Would encourage those of us that are just dipping our toes in to be more relaxed.

[latin2012 22]

Just putting in my 2 cents. 8 years later and we still see it. We started about 4 months ago and the club we like to go to has a " viewing/ play room" if you are in there, cpls and on some nights single guys will be looking at you. You will see an occasional BJ Or girl getting eaten going on in the dark. We are usually among the " watchers" as we are still not at that point. But there are also pvt rooms ( the only thing that keeps them pvt is a very thin see through current. And that is where me and my wife love to play. I love the idea of it being a dance club that you can fuck at if your in the mood. Have done soft swing with a few cpls but again only in the pvt rooms with sometimes the looky-looks coming by and trying too see what they can. The ones that get to us are the ones that pass but and act cute like oops my hand got caught on the current and pulled it a little or worse the ones that just stand there and open the current. But these rooms are monitored by staff and they'll tell you that's a no-no.

[kikonkrome 844]

So another three years go by and where are we??

 

Well first off I will say I love people watching me have sex! In fact I love it when they comment to me and talk to me while I am doing it. Things like 'pound that pussy' or 'hit it man' are a MAJOR turn on when I am with my wife. I like them listening and giggling!! I really FEED of this energy.

 

However the 'game' has surely changed. We have learned that there is now a precedence about finding another couple that is 'serious'. We and other couple's are all asking the 'same style' questions. We are walking away from people eager to chat with us if we get the vibe they are just there to 'see and be seen' and not to play.

 

We have certainly seen nights where there are a hundred people in the common area and nobody up in the bedrooms. We have been sitting at the table, and when the suggestion comes to go upstairs one of the girls says 'ewww you want to go upstairs?'.

 

People like the 'safety' of a swinger party!! You get to talk to strangers. Go as wild as you want. I am all for that!!! Really there is no excuse that this should not exist in 'vanilla' society.

 

For those of us though that are interested in playing with another couple, what do this mean? Well more closed doors, I guess??? Certainly we have started characterizing couples' as a go or no go situation.

 

Anybody else have thoughts?