Guys, what do you think? Would you be interested?

[80eezcouple 21]

Like the title says, who would be interested? I am trying to show my wife what she would be in for😈, she doesnt think so at her age. How can I convince her? (How would you convince her?)

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

I suspect that there is a photo at some point that is awaiting approval, but as to how you can convince her is easy...and hard.

 

Work on your love, trust and communication until it is as good as it can be, but keep in mind that some people (most people) are just not 'wired' for this. If she is one of those, then she might not ever be willing. If that is the case, then she'll never be ready, but things go better if there is an abundance of love, trust and communication (this is true of every relationship no matter what the circumstance).

[Baconheads 431]

If you're talking about her body it's two thumbs up!  She's smoking hot!

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

Ok so here's the reality. It doesn't matter how hot she is (and she IS!). It's what she thinks of herself.

 

Our society places absolutely enormous pressure on women to adhere to a fantasy of the 'ideal woman' in appearance, and anything less means they are ugly. Few women who are 20 can even achieve this fantasy ideal, and virtually none past 40 could so without a few staff members, and a non-stop workout routine. It's just not realistic nor attainable.

 

Time after time after time again, I see posts on this forum where the wife of the couple feels negative about her appearance, and doesn't want to dabble in the lifestyle because she's certain she's going to be thought of as ugly, and nobody would want her. Ok so problem one; their husbands are the only men in the world idiotic enough to find them attractive? Obviously that's false. Problem two; it doesn't matter what you look like. You could look like Jeri Ryan as Seven of Nine (see Baconhead's avatar above) and some men would go for someone else. All you can do is put your best foot forward, look, act, and feel your best and let potential play partners decide if they want to engage you or not. The ones that don't are saving you time. Third; a woman with the best body and the worst personality is...at least for me...going to find I'm not interested in the slightest. A woman with below average looks but a great, engaging personality is going to find I'm very interested.

 

So, you can't convince her. Let her read the replies and maybe she'll make up her own mind differently than she does now. Another possibility; go to a swinger meet and greet. You don't have to play, nor is there any pressure to play. Just go and meet people. I think you'll find your wife draws a lot of attention, and she will notice it. It's a safe environment within which to try that. If you want to try something a bit more risque, have her dress up nicely and sit down at a bar in an upscale hotel. You can be there, but not with her at the bar. Go get a booth or table somewhere you can see her, but not right next to her. You're her safety net. Chances are, traveling businessmen will be attracted to her like a set of keys to a supermagnet. She doesn't have to leave with them of course, and the two of you can have a signal that she can make which asks you to join her if a guy is being a problem. Like, setting her purse in a particular way, or turning out from the bar on her stool.

[PaKJr 32]

Would love to have my face between those legs of this goddess. You can be in your girl and I will lick that clip heck even her hot ass as long as it's clean and makes her happy 

[enhancer 1,584]

I assure you that no woman regardless of age or appearance will ever have any problem finding lots of guys that would be interested in them in the lifestyle!  It is way more challenging for the male half in a couple.  Regardless of how hot the wife is the male is not going to be getting some based on her alone.  Something a lot of men do not seem to get and are not willing to put the effort into changing.  Nine out of ten times we decide no on a couple it is, because of the male who does nothing to sell themselves or make themselves more desirable to other women.  

[discreetplay 235]

1 hour ago, enhancer said:

Nine out of ten times we decide no on a couple it is, because of the male

Totally agree with this. We've found that most of the ladies we've met are in pretty good shape, dress to impress and are very personable, while the guys seem to think they can ride the coattails of their attractive wives, putting in little effort.

 

Attitude does a long way. Personality goes a long way. This is an interview for the most fun job you'll ever have...and the guys show up unprepared and wearing shorts and a faded t-shirt. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

...we still don't see anything, but agree with most of what has been posted.

[80eezcouple 21]

1 hour ago, GoldCoCouple said:

...we still don't see anything, but agree with most of what has been posted.

Are you saying that the pics cannot be seen?  I will insert a few more. She just really wants to see what guys would do with her .  Guys feel free to be explicit. Let her know what she would be in for.

[MrMrsswinger 202]

26 minutes ago, 80eezcouple said:

She just really wants to see what guys would do with her .  Guys feel free to be explicit. Let her know what she would be in for.

I'm not sure that is what this forum is for.

[lovefest04 697]

4 hours ago, enhancer said:

Nine out of ten times we decide no on a couple it is, because of the male who does nothing to sell themselves or make themselves more desirable to other women.  

I tend to agree, and as a male, what would you tell me and others to do to be more desirable.

Truly interested, not baiting you.

 

 

[enhancer 1,584]

1 hour ago, 80eezcouple said:

Are you saying that the pics cannot be seen?  I will insert a few more. She just really wants to see what guys would do with her .  Guys feel free to be explicit. Let her know what she would be in for.

Honestly if you are just here to have guys say dirty things about your wife which I assume is more for you then her I would suggest you check out Ourhotwives forum!  You will get a lot more horny dudes commenting there.  This site is more suited for swinging activity.

[enhancer 1,584]

53 minutes ago, lovefest04 said:

I tend to agree, and as a male, what would you tell me and others to do to be more desirable.

Truly interested, not baiting you.

 

 

Have pictures of themselves that are not the infamous cock pic on their profiles instead of just a bunch of the wife and some dick pics.  Take care of themselves, exercise and get into the best shape they can.  Be well groomed, freshly showered and dress like they care instead of looking like they are making a trip to Walmart.  Include the wife in the conversations you have with other potential play friends. Don’t start hitting people up without first running it by the better half to see if they are actually interested, because without their interest you got nothing. Realize the women have all the power in the lifestyle, respect that and cater to them.

[lovefest04 697]

4 hours ago, enhancer said:

Have pictures of themselves that are not the infamous cock pic on their profiles instead of just a bunch of the wife and some dick pics.  Take care of themselves, exercise and get into the best shape they can.  Be well groomed, freshly showered and dress like they care instead of looking like they are making a trip to Walmart.  Include the wife in the conversations you have with other potential play friends. Don’t start hitting people up without first running it by the better half to see if they are actually interested, because without their interest you got nothing. Realize the women have all the power in the lifestyle, respect that and cater to them.

See that guys. Pretty simple really. Let's all step it up a notch and make Swinging more pleasurable for everyone.

[80eezcouple 21]

On 5/5/2022 at 2:22 PM, enhancer said:

Honestly if you are just here to have guys say dirty things about your wife which I assume is more for you then her I would suggest you check out Ourhotwives forum!  You will get a lot more horny dudes commenting there.  This site is more suited for swinging activity.

 Nope, sorry if thats how it comes across. Really what we were looking for is an idea of whether she would attract someone at a club we are thinking of visiting in Ct. We have never gone to one and I would not want ny wife to be disappointed.  Posting what men would do to her would boost both hers and my confidence.  

Perhaps I shouldve posted in "personals" section, but I didnt think that would fit either.

Also was kind of hoping to get an idea of what would happen once we walk through the door.  Being a new female on scene, I would think that the seasoned males would jump at the chance with someone new. Our age and looks of course ,are what we both would like to see if others would be interested. 

Thanks again

[80eezcouple 21]

Incidentally, my wife is not aware of this post because if the feedback wasnt as i expected, she would not be discouraged, if that makes any sense

[PeterJ 940]

22 minutes ago, 80eezcouple said:

Incidentally, my wife is not aware of this post because if the feedback wasnt as i expected, she would not be discouraged, if that makes any sense

Perhaps your wife gave you some sort of global permission to share these images with others, in which case fine. But as a general principle, in my opinion it’s a substantive violation of trust to post nude photos of one’s spouse/partner without their explicit permission to do so, even if one has protected the subject’s anonymity by not showing their face. (On the infrequent occasions that I have shared nudes or sexually explicit photos of my wife with others, I always get her permission first.)

[80eezcouple 21]

Well apparantley this is not the helpful site I thought it would be. Ive gotten more responses that offer no help than positive ones with some insight on what to expect .  I did not ask whether it is lawful to post my wifes pictures, so your response was just useless.  Not that I need to explain, but she is completely aware her pics are posted and that we are waiting for feedback on them. She is not aware of this particular post because if how I worded it ,keeping her from seeing negative feedback. We are on other sites under different name and have found them to be better for our needs.  I noticed alot of other posters have gotten some similar feedback and being told this is not the site for which they were posting about.  

For those that posted nice naughty comments, Thank you. That is what would boost a newbies confidence in joining this lifestyle.

Apologies for sounding like this post was for some perverted pleasure , it wasnt and hasnt been helpful at all. Thank you, I will look elsewhere. Moderators can remove post and attachments if they feel the need to do so. 

On the positive side for me, I can screenshot just the responses that I would like her to see, if thats alright by the attorneys here

[PeterJ 940]

43 minutes ago, 80eezcouple said:

Well apparantley this is not the helpful site I thought it would be. Ive gotten more responses that offer no help than positive ones with some insight on what to expect .  I did not ask whether it is lawful to post my wifes pictures, so your response was just useless.  Not that I need to explain, but she is completely aware her pics are posted and that we are waiting for feedback on them. She is not aware of this particular post because if how I worded it ,keeping her from seeing negative feedback. We are on other sites under different name and have found them to be better for our needs.  I noticed alot of other posters have gotten some similar feedback and being told this is not the site for which they were posting about.  

For those that posted nice naughty comments, Thank you. That is what would boost a newbies confidence in joining this lifestyle.

Apologies for sounding like this post was for some perverted pleasure , it wasnt and hasnt been helpful at all. Thank you, I will look elsewhere. Moderators can remove post and attachments if they feel the need to do so. 

On the positive side for me, I can screenshot just the responses that I would like her to see, if thats alright by the attorneys here

What part of "Perhaps your wife gave you some sort of global permission to share these images with others, in which case fine." is unclear to you?

[TricianMike 772]

From a wife who doesn’t want her picture plastered on any site, I don’t understand your post. If you want reactions to the pictures we have a gallery that you can post to. This forum is for advice and the sharing of experiences. Regardless of what the pictures are swinging is more than a picture, it is a connection of people. Nobody is preventing you from posting, guessing you thrive on feedbacks if you need to post her pictures on multiple sites. 
I haven’t read the responses to your question, you seem to want attention and feedback so don’t blame anyone giving an opinion. 

[80eezcouple 21]

33 minutes ago, PeterJ said:

What part of "Perhaps your wife gave you some sort of global permission to share these images with others, in which case fine." is unclear to you?

All of it. Especially the part where you typed"But blah blah blah...." after your quotations ended. I did not ask for any legal advice or for your personal opinion on my intentions for posting , so any other responses were not asked for and offered no constructive criticism. Comment on pics or move on.  As for blaming people for their feedback or opinions, no one that posted comments on the pics, as was requested on my first post, is being blamed for anything. In fact they were thanked.  You claimed you didnt even read the responses. That says something right there. Mods, feel free to delete this post if it violates your site in any way, but these last 2 posters need to read my response.  Give feedback that is requested by poster regarding the subject that was brought up or move on . No need to flame people for redicilous reasons. I would however like to thank you for telling me about the gallery section. That info had it been given  earlier on wouldve helped tremendously

 

Edited May 10, 2022 by 80eezcouple

[Baconheads 431]

I still say she's smoking hot!

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

80eezcouple, I'm sorry you feel the way you do about the feedback here. I can tell you from direct personal experience there is no way that my wife and I would have gotten into swinging if it weren't for this board. The people here are very, very good. Sometimes what we have to say isn't what people want to hear. I'd much rather we say what we think needs to be said than to lead someone down the wrong path. This forum supports the swinger community. Because of that, it also means we tell it like it is as we see it. If we're wrong, we certainly invite correction.

[NC_Seniors 518]

On 5/4/2022 at 10:44 AM, 80eezcouple said:

Like the title says, who would be interested? I am trying to show my wife what she would be in for😈, she doesnt think so at her age. How can I convince her? (How would you convince her?

 

Well apparantley this is not the helpful site I thought it would be. Ive gotten more responses that offer no help than positive ones with some insight on what to expect .

 

I’d suck her pussy until her head caves in, then fuck her into unconsciousness, and finally shoot a load on her tits. Happy now?

[cplnluv1 871]

On 5/4/2022 at 10:44 AM, 80eezcouple said:

Like the title says, who would be interested? I am trying to show my wife what she would be in for😈, she doesnt think so at her age. How can I convince her? (How would you convince her?)

You don’t convince others to swing. Swinging is a decision couples make together. We wouldn’t play with anyone who had to be convinced or pushed into playing. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Don't know why the pictures don't show on my other computer, but they show on this one (using the same program). Would we be interested: yes, as Bacon has repetitively said, she's smoking hot. One think about swinging that we have discovered, for every type of woman there is a match, but she would be the 'type' we are looking for. While we are also interested in the personality, neither of us would turn down the opportunity to play with her given the chance.

[80eezcouple 21]

On 5/10/2022 at 11:08 PM, NC_Seniors said:

I’d suck her pussy until her head caves in, then fuck her into unconsciousness, and finally shoot a load on her tits. Happy now?

Lol,.... not surprised at responses like this. Absolutely useless response with absolutely no  help in assisting us with an idea of, or insight to what we would  be expecting at a swing club as first timers,other than actually offering a little humor.  But thanks for the response, it is couples with attitudes like this that we would want to avoid meeting  at clubs/events ,especially as newbies.

Cplnluv1... You are right. Let me say that she doesnt need convincing, we both have agreed to try. I picked wrong words to describe what I was trying to convey.  By "convincing", I meant to say that by having someone explain what she would be in for, that would excite her knowing it would be exactly as we pictured and no need to have a confidence issue.

Im surprised this post hasnt been deleted yet,  but thanks again to those that have given us positive feedback

[Baconheads 431]

4 hours ago, 80eezcouple said:

Lol,.... not surprised at responses like this. Absolutely useless response with absolutely no  help in assisting us with an idea of, or insight to what we would  be expecting at a swing club as first timers,other than actually offering a little humor.  But thanks for the response, it is couples with attitudes like this that we would want to avoid meeting  at clubs/events ,especially as newbies.

Cplnluv1... You are right. Let me say that she doesnt need convincing, we both have agreed to try. I picked wrong words to describe what I was trying to convey.  By "convincing", I meant to say that by having someone explain what she would be in for, that would excite her knowing it would be exactly as we pictured and no need to have a confidence issue.

Im surprised this post hasnt been deleted yet,  but thanks again to those that have given us positive feedback

I doubt that the moderators around here would delete your posts. there have been mush worse.  I get what you're trying to find out here, I hope this helps.

 

If you two visit a swinger club, I think you would find yourself very well received.  At least your wife would, I haven't seen any photos of you, haha!  As some posters have said, personality beats out physical attributes 90-100 percent.  As I stated in my earlier posts, your wife is lovely.  She would attract attention.  The ball would be in your court if you wanted to play or not.  If you go where solo men are in attendance, even more so, to the point of being annoying.

 

You have very little to worry about considering her looks and body.  Attitude is king (queen!)  Go to a club and bring the stories back to us!

[NC_Seniors 518]

First you wrote, “I am trying to show my wife what she would be in for😈” Then you wrote, “She just really wants to see what guys would do with her .  Guys feel free to be explicit. Let her know what she would be in for.” And after that, you wrote, “Really what we were looking for is an idea of whether she would attract someone at a club we are thinking of visiting in Ct … Posting what men would do to her would boost both hers and my confidence.”

   

The people on this board have more experience in the lifestyle than you have. In many cases, a TON more experience. So they went beyond what you asked to try and offer helpful advice and observations about your first trip to a club based on their experience and acquired wisdom. What was your reaction? To whine about how unhelpful they are. bbarnsworth said it pretty well: “The people here are very, very good. Sometimes what we have to say isn't what people want to hear.” On the side facing me, it appears that you really aren’t interested in the collective experience here and don’t want to be told anything other than what “men would do to her”. So I wrote something very explicit — as YOU requested — and that’s why I then asked, “Happy now?”

 

There’s another piece of this that you (apparently) also fail to grasp, even though several posters pointed it out … namely, that there’s more that makes a woman attractive than just a hot body. Quoting bbarnsworth again: “a woman with the best body and the worst personality is...at least for me...going to find I'm not interested in the slightest. A woman with below average looks but a great, engaging personality is going to find I'm very interested.” So the fact is that while some men won’t care about anything other than looks, others will … and there’s no way to tell you what the men at a club will “do to her” because there’s no predicting which men you’ll run into there.

   

What it sounds like you *really* want to know is what your first experience at a swing club will be like … and if that’s the case, then just ask that. And you ought to want to know what it will be like for *both* of you. But that’s a far cry from wanting to know what men will “do to” your wife.

[cplnluv1 871]

1 hour ago, NC_Seniors said:

What it sounds like you *really* want to know is what your first experience at a swing club will be like … and if that’s the case, then just ask that. And you ought to want to know what it will be like for *both* of you. But that’s a far cry from wanting to know what men will “do to” your wife.

I know what I would do to him, Absolutely Nothing. 
If they are a couple, something I’m not convinced of, why is he only showing her pictures? I’ve learned over the last few years that swinging couples are both partners not just a wife. I go back to an experience where the male was an asshole and the girlfriend was sweet and I decided after that I wouldn’t want to be with anyone in that situation. 
IMO this thread is nonsense and not worth anyone’s time. 
Tell your wife she is very attractive physically to many on here and from what I have been reading she would be better playing as a unicorn. 

[enhancer 1,584]

34 minutes ago, cplnluv1 said:

I know what I would do to him, Absolutely Nothing. 
If they are a couple, something I’m not convinced of, why is he only showing her pictures? I’ve learned over the last few years that swinging couples are both partners not just a wife. I go back to an experience where the male was an asshole and the girlfriend was sweet and I decided after that I wouldn’t want to be with anyone in that situation. 
IMO this thread is nonsense and not worth anyone’s time. 
Tell your wife she is very attractive physically to many on here and from what I have been reading she would be better playing as a unicorn. 

I said this on the first page!  Finding people that want to have sex with the wife half is never a challenge.  The man half has to do a hell of a lot more then show their wife to have people interested in having sex with them. Again something guys do not seem to understand.

[80eezcouple 21]

On 5/12/2022 at 3:34 PM, cplnluv1 said:

I know what I would do to him, Absolutely Nothing. 
If they are a couple, something I’m not convinced of, why is he only showing her pictures? I’ve learned over the last few years that swinging couples are both partners not just a wife. I go back to an experience where the male was an asshole and the girlfriend was sweet and I decided after that I wouldn’t want to be with anyone in that situation. 
IMO this thread is nonsense and not worth anyone’s time. 
Tell your wife she is very attractive physically to many on here and from what I have been reading she would be better playing as a unicorn. 

 Am I supposed to be insulted by you stating you wouldnt do anything with me? Chances are if your looks are like your personality reflected here, I certainly wouldnt be interested. This thread is truly nonsense because you and some posters have gone way off what the post was asking for.

As for convincing you we are a couple, I only showed her pictures,smartass, because the thread is about her and asking about her physical attractiveness... posting a pic of me would be pointless. 

I can see from reading your attitude here, why your husband chose swinging in your relationship.

 

 

Edited May 19, 2022 by 80eezcouple

[80eezcouple 21]

On 5/12/2022 at 4:11 PM, enhancer said:

I said this on the first page!  Finding people that want to have sex with the wife half is never a challenge.  The man half has to do a hell of a lot more then show their wife to have people interested in having sex with them. Again something guys do not seem to understand.

This has some truth, however , some women such as my wife, need some encouragement after they are past a certain age . I posted this thread as a possible source of encouragement for her after she would have read what the male half of swingers here thought of her.  The post wasnt intended to try and find couples or wives so i could play with them. 

Apparantely this isnt the placeand/or site for help in getting couples (or either of the couple) to be confident enough to try it . But thank you for all of the other info I have gotten .

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

80eezcouple, what you construe from this forum is flat wrong. That said, I'm not willing to fight you to prove it. This forum has always been a happy, welcoming, uplifting place. There's enough negativity in this thread alone to equal all the negativity this forum has seen in the last couple of years. There's no point to this thread anymore.

 

 

[PaKJr 32]

You wouldn't have to ask me twice to be with her damn she is really hot