How many people have you had intercourse with?

[DuncanDoughnut 16]

I thought this would be an interesting poll. I didn't see where it was asked before and I was just curious. So, the question is, how many different couples/singles have you had sex with?

[1freakincpl 15]

My wife and I have been with 5 or 6 cpls since we started swinging 4 years ago

[NewTemptations 54]

You mean I was supposed to count?????

[HotCoupleGnS 21]

Ok, I might sound a little dumb here, but you said intercourse. BUt are we talking about just male/female sex? Or are you including male/male or female/female?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Is this just in the course of swinging or in a lifetime?

[duwannaball 16]

The poll is for total number of partners, I assume that means as a single and as a couple, correct?

[good times 991]

Uh, if it's the total number, can I change my answer?

[DuncanDoughnut 16]

Wow I didn't think there would be so many questions. Since I said partners, it would be what Julie said over a course of a life time I guess.

[CB_n_Red 16]

The last time Red and I started trying to work out how many partners we had had (total, not just swinging) the conversation got so hot that we ended up totally distracted, hot and sweaty and we lost count!

[wildchld97 19]

20+men...intercourse and then some....

10+women...use your imagination.

[WesternSwing 504]

What I find interesting that of the respondents, 63% have been with what they consider 20 or less partners. Kind of the anti-swinging image vanillas paint of the swinging lifestyle. I think it shows that we are a much more selective and discreet bunch than those outside the lifestyle would take us for.

 

Mr. WS

[wildchld97 19]

Actually, I guess I shouldn't be tooo concerned about having more than a fair share of partners. I've been sexually active since I was 14. I'm 37 now. That's 23 years of sex. If you break it down, that's about 1.3 different people per year. Unless you count last year...then it throws all of the figures off.

 

Hubby says I have to get off the computer now because it's apparent that I've got way too much time on my hands today. LOL He says he has something to take care of my boredom.

[VegasLee 1,486]

WesternSwing said:

What I find interesting that of the respondents, 63% have been with what they consider 20 or less partners. Kind of the anti-swinging image vanillas paint of the swinging lifestyle. I think it shows that we are a much more selective and discreet bunch than those outside the lifestyle would take us for.

 

It is either what you state or it shows that many people consider themselves swingers that are really just voyeurs or exhibitionists.

[hmr 25]

Kind of limiting yourself here. If we count the last year alone, we would be off your scale. But, then again, we are swingers who go to parties to have sex, not just to sit around and talk about it. That is what this is about, correct?

[lycioos 16]

I'm a little saddened. I thought the numbers would be higher. Maybe we're not as evil and outrageous as others may think.

[xxoticangel 98]

As a swinging couple for almost 6 years we have had sex (defined as mutual masterbation, oral, anal, and/or intercourse) with 8 single men, 19 couples, 3 single women, and one tranny. We have a date tonight so hopefully the numbers will be different tomorrow.

[HotMoCpl 20]

Let's face it. I'm 51 years old and spent 22-1/2 of those in the military and nearly 5 of those were spent in South Korea. A different working girl every month...maybe 2.

[JnCC 24]

Yes, I DO know the exact number, and that's only because a former girlfriend once asked about it, and I gave her my best estimate. She wasn't too happy with the number I gave her, so I started adding them up by year, then by decade. It turned out that my estimate had been about 60% of what it should have been. I only counted non-commercial, full-intercourse encounters...NOT blow jobs, hand jobs, oral sex, or bar girls I'd met while stationed overseas. I did count women I/we later met via the Lifestyle, but I differentiated them from women I'd dated (and bedded) in a conventional sense while single.

 

The actual number isn't as important as some of the facts I noticed when compiling the list. Overall, I remembered about 95% of their names and at least one personal detail about them. About 20% were 1 or 2 night stands, never to be seen again. Almost all of the first encounters involved alcohol to some extent, and a few involved drugs...mostly pot (in the 70's) or cocaine (the early 80's). About 5% of the total were married or in relationships with somebody else at the time. The same number holds true for me as well, mostly with my 1st and 2nd wives.

 

Comparing how many different sex partners I've had as a single male to how many I had in the Lifestyle as part of a couple, the ratio is almost 4 to 1. I suspect that's because it's hard for 4 people to "click!" Besides, when you're married, there's no reason to go home with a total stranger just because you're horny. If sex were simply "a game of numbers," a couple could probably do better than a single male by hanging out at swing clubs and fucking all the other post-notchers there. Big numbers, but very few smiles. Sorry, that's just not my style...

 

One thing I learned from all this is that at some point, things start repeating themselves. #17 is like #2 all over again. #22 is like #5, etc etc. If you're not making some sort of personal connection to the person you're fucking, it gets as boring and monotonous as marriages sometimes do. That's why swinging doesn't work for some people...the only "connection" is through sex, and they don't consider that a connection at all.

[WoodyInSoCal 15]

I'm such a whore.....I stopped counting at ......Oh my.. I am afraid that if I admit to the number you won't respect me. See, some of you might be turned off by someone who's been with too many women. And I certainly don't want anyone to think bad of me - especially those of you who were thinking we might get together.

 

Ok, here goes. . . I stopped counting at 100...

 

That doesn't count oral sex. Just full on sexual intercourse.

 

I know I'm a whore, but am I bad??

[tribbles 490]

Actually Woody, the best play partner who taught me the most, stopped

counting at.................................

 

 

............600. Never had trouble respecting him

[lonesomedove341 15]

Me: 2 men

5 women

 

Hubby: 4 women

[djjwp 129]

When I first met my first wife in college, we walked down the main drag at Cal State (PA) and had 10 girls all wave to me and say "Hi". She asked who they were and I could not remember any of their names but I do remember I did them all. I was such a slut!!

[CosmoGirl 17]

Three, I've had sex with three guys. Two ex-boyfriends & my fiance. Not very impressive but we just started swinging so we'll see... I guess I'll start keeping track now. I can't wait to up my # and add a girl to my list!!!!!!

[pairbond 19]

Isn't it interesting how few people are willing to say how many people they've had intercourse with in their lifetimes?

 

Both of us were married once previously. I was her 8th sexual partner, and she was my 6th.

 

After nearly 9 years of swinging, she now has had intercourse with 42 men and I have had intercourse with 34 women. So I am averaging about 3 new sex partners per year since we started swinging, and she is averaging about 4 new sex partners per year.

 

I guess we're just sluts, but we sure are HAPPY sluts!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I don't think few are willing, most have answered by way of the poll - that's what polls are for. It's much easier to give a ballpark (for some) than to give an exact count. Some of us don't keep diaries are put notches in our bedposts after each encounter to ensure an accurate count.

[txduo2000 18]

I put 20-25 ... though I don't know if that's accurate. Hubby was my #8 as I was married before, though first husband and I did not swing and we were married for 10 years. I was somewhat active prior to my first marriage.

 

Last I counted, I was up to around 19 ... that includes swing partners, husbands and "others".

 

If I had to include the two date rapes, that would add two more, but I generally don't include them. :rollseyes

[pairbond 19]

Julie, we don't put notches on our bedposts or keep diaries either. What we DO, though, is keep an excel file of names & dates. Hopefully we won't ever need that, but if the Health Department ever notified us that someone we had been with had an STD and wanted us to get ourselves checked out and wanted to know who WE had been with, we think it is only responsible to keep records.

[Vespertine 31]

Isn't it interesting how few people are willing to say how many people they've had intercourse with in their lifetimes?

 

I lost count, and checked that option in the poll.

 

Whatever would you do if someone came across your Little Black List?

[janaandjames 24]

Me and the wife got to thinking on this, got to remembering, got distracted and went to bed for awhile

 

Anyways, it's about 25 different men for her, and less than 10 women for me... this is only after we started swinging.

 

We like threesomes a lot, so she gets a lot more new partners than I do... which is fine with me.

[The Big A 18]

I didn't lose count after 30.......It's been 45.....So far

[GerdOEvert 51]

To me the interesting question is -- if you stop and think, and count up. How many has it really been since your first in high school and college? Even before swinging or marriage, if you are in your 20's three, four, five partners a year is probably not uncommon.

 

The number gets to be much larger than you ever thought it would be when you are a young teen just discovering sex.

 

And when you add the contacts you have in swinging and swapping, the number

does get large. I would love to see what an epidemiologist comes up with for "numbers of sexual contacts" by age.

 

I would also like to see what the chances for STD is with those contacts, and the "normal" practices of hygiene and sanitation. Which are a long way from what you would want or are written about in some idealized posts.

[Genie 15]

While bragging about how many women we had each bedded in our lifetime a co-worker and I struck up a wager. The first one to bed the entire alphabet (counting the first letter of her first name) would win. Now there are some hard letters to get. Q and X being the most difficult. There were a lot of Joanne, I remember. This took weeks, as you can imagine. As I recall, neither of us won. But it was great fun!

[prettylady 221]

Holy wow!

I thought I would be in the minority with my measly 0-5 choice. Well, Yay I am not. there is still hope for me.

[DGrey 28]

Lifetime...lost count after 30 (and that was before I was married...bad girl)

 

Swinging...3...unless you count women too and then it's 6.

[Mrs. Truelove 16]

2 females and 2 males

I sure hope that number starts adding up soon!

[Beaverbumper 17]

Well since I'm 59yrs and have lived in a number of place thanks to the Navy, my count is (and it the truth) is well over a hundred...

[CBYLW 21]

I'm in my sixties. I've been divorced forever. It has to be well over a hundred.

[looking2swing 17]

I am only in my mid 20's, but I knew how to have a great time before I hit 21!! I have had plenty of experience and enjoyed every minute of it!

[wifes_sex_slave 16]

Well...

 

From the time I hit puberty until now - 7 women, but as a swinger still a virgin.

 

So sad...

[nmgrrrl 15]

Our recent mfm was my 10th partner. I was married & monogamous (even tho he wasnt) for over 23 years so I havent 'been around' much. I know my numbers are going up since nmturfman & I got in to the lifestyle. I dont see this as any reflection on my moral character- but rather as a part of my liberation.

[sigh35 20]

wow! I am really surprised at this... I am a swinger n the making...I had sex with my 1st husband for 5 years , then sex with my 2nd husband for 4 years, then 4 other lovers within one year ..of which one is now my only...I am really perplexed that the poll shows such low numbers..I thought being a swinger would rack up the numbers! Explain!!!

[VegasLee 1,486]

Something to remember is that many people on this site are not swingers or are very new to the lifestyle as you are so it tends to keep these numbers low.

[djjwp 129]

wow! I am really surprised at this... I am a swinger n the making...I had sex with my 1st husband for 5 years , then sex with my 2nd husband for 4 years, then 4 other lovers within one year ..of which one is now my only...I am really perplexed that the poll shows such low numbers..I thought being a swinger would rack up the numbers! Explain!!!

 

I think that it is because swinging is a social activity and there are a lot of people that do it to meet like minded friends. Looking at the poll, I see that most people are very selective or that are after quantity with a few in between. I know for us, we are very selective who we play with. We meet and have become friends with a few, acquaintances with many and shed many more away as not what we are looking for as we do not "take one for the team". Finding a couple that trips both of our triggers is not easy or fast to do.

[Sexyone 15]

I've only been with my husband. We haven't been with anyone else.

 

We talked about a threesome once. He even checked out an escort service,

but they wanted a lot of money. So, we're still waiting!!

[mbnudist 20]

Him, accurate count is 55 at present and counting

 

Her, aout 12 to 15 total and counting

 

These numbers only include m/f sex, and does not include f/f events, of which there are an additional 6 or 7 for her.

 

He is 54 and she is 52 years old. Most of these were BEFORE getting involved in swinging, but that's what the poll asked for.

[verdiemae 15]

Okay, saw a lot of questions going on here I am going with over the lifetime and that is what I added to the pole. That is the 13 in my lifetime personally and the 4 we have "played" with as a couple or single in the lifestyle. This includes anything where 1 person at least had some sort of orgasm whether intercourse, oral or "touchy feely". That about covers it all, I guess. So suprisingly, most folks seem to fall in the under 15 category. I don't know, just don't want to be the "biggest slut" award winner any more than I did when I was a teenager. Quality, not quantity is what I prefer, I guess. V

[couplers 4,577]

I have only been with three men my entire life, but with two of them now (my lover for seven years, my husband for 5). Hubby has had seven women, me plus three others since we've been an item.

[sweet_tna 680]

Just when I started thinking I wasn't such a newbie anymore . . .

 

My lifetime total: 4 (2 since swinging)

 

Mr. Sweet: 3 (2 since swinging)

 

We'll get those numbers up eventually, lol!

 

=)

[Beachswinger 22]

For me, just over 60. Pre-marriage, 50 or so encounters (all straight) in 6 years that involved vaginal intercourse and included a couple of 4 couple daisychains, 2 foursomes and an FMF with 2 very pretty cousins that lasted a year, all when I was single through 1979. In '80 I met my better half (who was a virgin) and we've had just 10 since, mainly due to fear of Herpes and AIDS, making us WAY more careful about whom we choose to "hook-up" with.

[shrevecouple 252]

I had several partners before meeting my husband. So far only 1 other than my husband lifestyle wise.