International Scenario

[Worldsextour 0]

So, a little background to help make all of this clear. My man and I are experienced swingers who have been in the lifestyle for 6 years. We met in the lifestyle so from day one we’ve had a clear understanding that our relationship would be anything but traditional. 
 

We just recently took our first international trip together in a popular country in Central America. We were both excited for what the trip had in store as he had gotten in touch with a tour guide that would help facilitate our needs while in town. He let the tour guide know that we wanted to take the “red light” tour. 
 

I knew there wouldn’t be any full swap situations as we didn’t do any lifestyle planning and there are no straight male escorts in this area not that I would really be interested in that. I am bi so I’m totally into playing with women and men so I figured it would be lots of threesome action which works for me.
 

Once we got into town, we met up with a girl he had been messaging on a dating app. It turned out she was batshit crazy so nothing transpired that first night. The next day, our tour guide sent a beautiful, classy woman to the room to make up for the disastrous evening the night before. She was gorgeous and very sexy. Once she got cleaned up and ready, she proceeded to get my man ready for some fun. It was clear she wasn’t going to be doing any girl on girl so I just fell back and watched. It was sexy and I was turned on enjoying them play.
 

Later that evening, we went to dinner and then to a lounge where you can play on premises. Yet again, he picked a beautiful woman who we took back to the private VIP room where the three of us begin to play. At first, it seemed like it was going to be a true threesome but it quickly became another twosome with me watching. The rest of the trip became this same scenario over and over. I was happy he was having a great time and all of the women we met were super sweet and very respectful towards me however I can’t help but say I felt left out. I know he didn’t intentionally set things up so that I wouldn’t be able to have fun but it’s clear that doing sex tours in certain cities are not set up for couples as they don’t have women in mind. It’s all about the man and what he wants. I have to remember that most countries outside of the US are patriarchal and I clearly forgot that when we booked this trip. 
 

I never once made an issue about feeling left out of the trip but I did let him know that I wanted some girls who play with girls so I could join in on the fun. He agreed and I could tell he was concerned that I wasn’t having fun. I wonder if these sex tours are not a good option for couples if the majority of women aren’t into other women? 
 

Maybe Europe would be better?
 

Thoughts?

[njbm 2,870]

I think that a red light/sex tour connotes that your partner is playing with prostitutes. Did you or he pay for these services? If so, that isn’t swinging. And it seems a little dangerous to do overseas.  

Be that as it may, if you want to meet true swinging couples overseas, your best bet is to post a hot date on a swingers’ site, go to a swingers’ club or go to a swingers’ resort. You would be able to read their profile about bi female interest or ask them in person. 

Edited June 1, 2022 by njbm

[Worldsextour 0]

Yes it was a pay to play situation. It was safe as it’s legal in the country we were in and he always used protection with every single encounter. We didn’t have the time to set up swinging encounters for this trip but when we go back we make sure to find some local couples to meet up with. My question was is it unrealistic for couples to expect to have fun on sex tours?

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15 hours ago, Worldsextour said:

So, a little background to help make all of this clear. My man and I are experienced swingers who have been in the lifestyle for 6 years. We met in the lifestyle so from day one we’ve had a clear understanding that our relationship would be anything but traditional. 
 

We just recently took our first international trip together in a popular country in Central America. We were both excited for what the trip had in store as he had gotten in touch with a tour guide that would help facilitate our needs while in town. He let the tour guide know that we wanted to take the “red light” tour. 
 

I knew there wouldn’t be any full swap situations as we didn’t do any lifestyle planning and there are no straight male escorts in this area not that I would really be interested in that. I am bi so I’m totally into playing with women and men so I figured it would be lots of threesome action which works for me.
 

Once we got into town, we met up with a girl he had been messaging on a dating app. It turned out she was batshit crazy so nothing transpired that first night. The next day, our tour guide sent a beautiful, classy woman to the room to make up for the disastrous evening the night before. She was gorgeous and very sexy. Once she got cleaned up and ready, she proceeded to get my man ready for some fun. It was clear she wasn’t going to be doing any girl on girl so I just fell back and watched. It was sexy and I was turned on enjoying them play.
 

Later that evening, we went to dinner and then to a lounge where you can play on premises. Yet again, he picked a beautiful woman who we took back to the private VIP room where the three of us begin to play. At first, it seemed like it was going to be a true threesome but it quickly became another twosome with me watching. The rest of the trip became this same scenario over and over. I was happy he was having a great time and all of the women we met were super sweet and very respectful towards me however I can’t help but say I felt left out. I know he didn’t intentionally set things up so that I wouldn’t be able to have fun but it’s clear that doing sex tours in certain cities are not set up for couples as they don’t have women in mind. It’s all about the man and what he wants. I have to remember that most countries outside of the US are patriarchal and I clearly forgot that when we booked this trip. 
 

I never once made an issue about feeling left out of the trip but I did let him know that I wanted some girls who play with girls so I could join in on the fun. He agreed and I could tell he was concerned that I wasn’t having fun. I wonder if these sex tours are not a good option for couples if the majority of women aren’t into other women? 
 

Maybe Europe would be better?
 

Thoughts?

Your post is about prostitution.

 

This is a website about swinging.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Thank you for posting an interesting and fresh question.  The never-ending argument aside about what is and isn't swinging, I think you hit the nail on the head. When it's a pay to play type situation, that customer base is so heavily male dominated, they really only know one way to do it, and that's focused on him.  We're not world travelers, so take this for what it is worth, but I think you might have slightly better luck in Europe, but even then I'm not sure how much more.

 

Better luck next time!