Single Men - Why Cuckoldry?

[PeeTWheatstraw 122]

I am not sure how many single men are in this group but I thought it would be interesting to post a discussion for just the single guys. What is it that attracts you to the cuckoldry lifestyle? 

[Baconheads 431]

1 hour ago, PeeTWheatstraw said:

I am not sure how many single men are in this group but I thought it would be interesting to post a discussion for just the single guys. What is it that attracts you to the cuckoldry lifestyle? 

Not much into cuckoldry.  I would never shame a guy who is allowing me to fuck his wife.  I have been with couples where the husband just watches, but I wouldn't begin to guess what is in the dudes mind.

[NerdsAreFun 226]

2 hours ago, Baconheads said:

Not much into cuckoldry.  I would never shame a guy who is allowing me to fuck his wife.  I have been with couples where the husband just watches, but I wouldn't begin to guess what is in the dudes mind.

If your wife fucks other people you're technically a cuckold, even if it's a full swap with another couple.  The shame/submissive kink that goes with that in porn is just that, another kink on top.

 

It is interesting to see how many single guys advertise that they want to role play being a cuckold in a threesome.  I guess you can role play anything, but that seems more like you're a voyeur since you don't have a connection to the woman.

[Bostonguitarist 25]

Can’t the same be said for a couple ? Were either of them plays separately to the delight of the other ? Some just get off on the idea of it, others watching and yes others cuckolding.  Sometimes painting with a broad brush isn’t best 

[Baconheads 431]

1 hour ago, NerdsAreFun said:

If your wife fucks other people you're technically a cuckold, even if it's a full swap with another couple.  The shame/submissive kink that goes with that in porn is just that, another kink on top.

 

It is interesting to see how many single guys advertise that they want to role play being a cuckold in a threesome.  I guess you can role play anything, but that seems more like you're a voyeur since you don't have a connection to the woman.

I see. I even looked it up for verification and yes, every time a gal has sex with another man, her husband is cuckolded.  My interpretation of the word before today meant the shame and dominance of the other man (and the wife) toward the husband.  To me, calling a full swap situation cuckold is a bit of a stretch.  After all you get to nail  the other girl, right?

 

Let's ask the OP what his meaning is.  Is it just getting it on with the married girl the thrill, or is it the humiliation of the husband involved that is the attraction to cuckoldry?

[Fitlakecouple 451]

Kind of silly using old timey definitions to describe today's activities. The cuckold of the 1800's is hardly what we are talking about in the 2022 lifestyle...

 

[NerdsAreFun 226]

Something else where the meaning varies across cultures/time. 

Throwing the 'Metal Horns' Is the Same as Calling Someone a Cuck

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[Numex 2,409]

What attracted me was keeping my girl happy.  Before me, she told me that she had overlapping lovers, I knew it was something she liked, so I told her to go ahead.  It wasn't cuckolding, it was hotwifing, I wasn't humiliated in any way.  Actually, I met the men she ended up screwing (two exes at first) so that everyone knew what was up and that it was ok by me.  Since then we've moved on to swapping within a closed group of married couples.

[Anon321 521]

I am not the single guy but I imagine there are 2 obvious reasons:

 

1) Sex with no commitment or strings attached.  They get to have sex with someone who is in a relationship with another man so they get to fuck but don't have to worry about the relationship aspect which is very appealing to men.

 

2) It's taboo.  There is a certain mental aspect about using/fucking/dominating another man's SO that turns some guys on because of the taboo nature of it.  For example my buddy likes to give my GF golden showers which is not something I find very stimulating so I asked him "why do you like pissing on girls so much?"  And he said "I don't like pissing on girls I like pissing on your girl."  It's a psychological gratification rather than physical.

[PeeTWheatstraw 122]

On 7/6/2022 at 4:14 PM, Baconheads said:

I see. I even looked it up for verification and yes, every time a gal has sex with another man, her husband is cuckolded.  My interpretation of the word before today meant the shame and dominance of the other man (and the wife) toward the husband.  To me, calling a full swap situation cuckold is a bit of a stretch.  After all you get to nail  the other girl, right?

 

Let's ask the OP what his meaning is.  Is it just getting it on with the married girl the thrill, or is it the humiliation of the husband involved that is the attraction to cuckoldry?

I think there is another thread in this group in which we discussed the meaning of the word cuckold. However, I don't post so I can influence people with my thoughts and beliefs. I just like to have intelligent conversation about different topics with different people. 

[couplers 4,615]

Married or single, male or female, straight or bi, compersion or self-arousal - there are just a lot of people who like watching or just knowing that their partner (or in my case, partners) is having sex or in love with one or more other people.  Another wonderful variation of nonmonogamy.

[Sunday 119]

On 7/6/2022 at 2:21 PM, NerdsAreFun said:

If your wife fucks other people you're technically a cuckold, even if it's a full swap with another couple....

 

 

Not sure I agree with that?  For me, we're exploring our sexuality, and we are always TOGETHER when doing so.  Of course, once it's separate, that's another story.  I loathe the idea of being humiliated by a woman via sex but very much enjoy me and my wife flexing our skills in a group setting.

So, where is "the line?"

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[NerdsAreFun 226]

4 hours ago, Sunday said:

 

 

Not sure I agree with that?  For me, we're exploring our sexuality, and we are always TOGETHER when doing so.  Of course, once it's separate, that's another story.  I loathe the idea of being humiliated by a woman via sex but very much enjoy me and my wife flexing our skills in a group setting.

So, where is "the line?"

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It's just the definition of the word, doesn't matter whether it's done with consent, as a full swap, or anything.  Just that your wife sleeps with other men.

 

Cuckold kink/porn has added in the whole humiliation aspect.

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[cuckboat 9]

To me  the woman I desire, have always desired is the girl that everyone has taken a turn on. The town slut. I don't know why but always that is the woman I want and humiliation makes it better...That is all I know. Give me a used woman to take care of and I am happy....

[PeeTWheatstraw 122]

On 7/14/2022 at 1:37 PM, NerdsAreFun said:

It's just the definition of the word, doesn't matter whether it's done with consent, as a full swap, or anything.  Just that your wife sleeps with other men.

 

Cuckold kink/porn has added in the whole humiliation aspect.

Although, the word cuckold has a long history I believe that it was porn that made has made it so popular in modern society. I am a huge fan of porn but its entertainment. The reality of most sexual encounters is nothing like what is seen in the majority of porn videos posted online. I prefer those videos from the Amateur category myself...lol.

 

But seriously, the only time that I have ever humiliated anyone was when the people involved asked me to do that. Very similar to when I meet someone at a BDSM event and we plan out a scene. Usually there is negotiation discussion and everyone agrees upon the rules. Porn is entertainment so they exclude that negotiation part out and whoever makes or posts the video gets to control the narrative.  

 

I assume that some people need that aspect of the fetish to become aroused but I do not. Have shaken the hands of husbands and could feel them shaking. Others have had sweaty palms. Sometimes it is something that the wife says to her husband that would embarrass me if I were in his shoes. To me this is the humiliation of cuckoldry. In my opinion, all of the other stuff is just people role playing and people acting out their fantasies. 

[Numex 2,409]

On 7/17/2022 at 5:44 PM, cuckboat said:

To me  the woman I desire, have always desired is the girl that everyone has taken a turn on. The town slut. I don't know why but always that is the woman I want and humiliation makes it better...That is all I know. Give me a used woman to take care of and I am happy....

I sort of understand, but can you elaborate, especially about "humiliation makes it better"?  With me there is no humiliation.  But knowing and/or seeing my wife fucking other guys makes me feel happy for her since I know that she enjoys it, and makes me proud because they appreciate it.  It's in the same category as loaning out you special weekend car or boat (when I had one) to a friend who is grateful.  I'm proud of her and showing off.  The fact that I have fucked their wives too also takes any dominance out of it, although it was the same early on when Daniela was hotwifing and I wasn't playing.  I met all of those guys (this was all separately) as a precondition of her playing with them, and they were actually envious of me having married her.

 

Explain too what goes through your mind when you see your woman fucking another guy.  For me it's almost always whether Daniela's pussy feels the same to him as it does to me, and how his cock and motions feel to Daniela compared to mine.

 

There is one guy in our group that doesn't play while his wife is fucking.  He likes to watch closely while she really goes at it.  Then he immediately jumps on her after the other guy ejaculates in her pussy, kisses her, licks her, and fucks her.  And unlike with the other guy(s) she just lies there motionless on her back with her legs apart as he fucks and gets off in her.  I've asked her about it and she says that her husbands only wants her to be like that when she's been with another guy.  Weird, but to each their own kink.

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[Numex 2,409]

Years ago I was on a business trip in The South ("north, east, and west are directions; South is a place") and was listening to the radio in my rental car.  There are plenty of religious broadcasters there and I started listening to one.  The young guy talking was the son of a local preacher and helped out in his father's church.  He was told by his father that one girl who occasionally attended their church was ill-behaved and bad news, to stay away from her.  She eventually became pregnant with no husband, no partner, no boyfriend.  Shortly after the baby was born, the young man was told by his father to take her the usual set of supplies the church gives in those situations.  He did and ended up asking her to lunch.

 

Several days later when the three of them were at lunch, the waitress came up to him and said, "What a beautiful baby, you must be so proud."  He said that at that moment he did feel proud to be with her and her child.  Long story short, he ended up marrying her.

 

I wondered if he felt as you described:

On 7/17/2022 at 5:44 PM, cuckboat said:

the woman I desire, have always desired is the girl that everyone has taken a turn on. The town slut. I don't know why but always that is the woman I want... Give me a used woman to take care of and I am happy....

 

[couplers 4,615]

9 hours ago, Numex said:

Long story short, he ended up marrying her.

It's either true love or a  kink he may or may not be hiding from her. 

[cuckinJay1 1]

For me its a few things, first the thought of someone getting off with my wife who I get to spend my life with is hott to me. Its like yea i get her anytime . Second keeping the sex life exciting and not boring. I love seeing her cum and wore out from some good dick and when its some guy who really wants her hes gonna make sure he fucks the hell out of her because he wants her to remember how good it was and let him fuck again. Also idk why but I love how a lil white pussy looks stretched around a huge black dick ,its so hott to me,and im white so i cant see the contrast of skin unless I watch a black guy with someone. I also like the way pussy filled with cum taste. All this probably comes from the fact I like having my ass stretched by women and really want me and a female to both share a BBC. Im not attracted to men just Huge dicks.