I get excited about the thought of watching someone fuck my wife. I’m just afraid that afterwards I won’t like it. Thoughts?
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Hank3636, in Curious About Swinging?
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By kc081878
My wife and I are 42, married 19 years. We are not in the lifestyle. She has 1 rule... No anal. Otherwise she is game for whatever I come up with. Not much else is off limits. Toys, Role play, sex swing, BDSM, simulated MFM/Gangbangs, sex machine, etc.
Although we have done some pretty involved and creative role play/simulations... she says she can't imagine doing the above with others for real. If I'm honest, the reality would be a big step for me as well. Yet, I tell her I'm not opposed either.
I have found that my fetish is whatever makes her aroused in new ways. I love the nuances of her sounds and how her body responds to a new sensation.
She says she is perfectly happy with our dynamic. I create the scene and surprise her. I even find myself sounding silly for writing this as if it were a problem.
We are tremendously transparent, collaborative and vocal about every aspect of our lives. But when it comes to discussing fantasies, likes/dislikes, collaborating on role play, etc... my wife shuts down or becomes flippant or gets a "how soon can we get this talk over with?" type vibe. She will say,"I just don't have anything to say."
I don't press her to share more than she wants and there are probably way more layers than can be addressed here.
So I suppose my question is...
Are there couples that have experienced a similar dynamic in their journey and how/in what ways were they able to be more expressive?
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By bbarnsworth
I happened across this study today, and it had some very interesting outcomes. The whole study bears reading. To tease you into reading it; "When asked whether they’d ever had various types of multipartner fantasies, just 5% of men and 13% of women had never done so" I.e., 95% of men and 87% of women in the 4k+ member study reported having fantasized about multipartner sexual relations. Wow! I expected it to be above 50%, but not that high.
More reading at: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/justin-lehmiller-science-of-fantasy
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By Curiouscouple2001
Hello
I’m after other peoples thoughts on a topic I have, me and my wife are happily married for 7 years both in our 30s and have great sex together. Now while we have sex we have a bit of fantasy type dirty talk and it’s great now it gets saucy and she says she would fuck someone else and she would even go bareback with them, now some my think I’m crazy but that thought drives my dick wild! Now the other bit of this is when we don’t get in that sexy moment it never gets mentioned, and I honestly think she wouldn’t do it. A little part of me thinks what if she did and how hot it would be seen her do it, now from others experience do you think that it’s just the heat of the moment talk or is it something she does secretly have on her mind?
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By JustAskJulie
When you first brought up the idea of swinging to your partner, what objections (if any) did you have to overcome before they were willing to give it a try?
- Worry about one or both of you falling in love with someone else?
- Worry about potential jealousy?
- Worry about family/friends finding out?
- Worry about you thinking less of them for doing so?
- Worry that swinging is morally wrong? Religious/ Moral Issues?
- Worry that your desire for swinging means that they are not enough for you? That you don't love them anymore or will love them less?
How did you handle these questions? What answers did you give? How did you overcome the objections?
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By Guest Christine
I am an attractive 37 year old married white woman. My husband and I have enjoyed a number of experiences with other married couples over the past 7 years, and every couple we have had sex with was from a common origin - two married couples that simply found enough in common to begin a typical social friendship, until lust took hold. Hence, the "search and find" approach offered on the web never entered the picture.
So, everything was going fine until about a year ago when a certain fantasy of mine, which I think is not uncommon to a number of white women, blossomed into now what has become an overwhelming obsession. I feel I can't go on much longer without being ravaged by a good looking, exceptionally well hung black man. This is growing totally out of control. I mean if I'm at the mall or someplace and happen to spot a good looking black guy, right there and then I get a rush and the shivers. Further, I fantasize that my husband is there watching me go out of my mind like he's never imagined. Yes, I admit it, I would feel great sexual pleasure in the black man and me making him feel cockold, if only for the moment. You see, how should I put it - my husband is measurably underendowed.
Finally, my question - Do you think I am sick? Is this something for which I should seek professional help? Is there any thread of normalcy in what I've just told you? If I'm not sick, please don't suggest that "communication" with my husband is the route I should take. I know him well, and if this comes to fruition, it will be because I force fed him. Christine
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