Random Thoughts on Fun

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

Didn’t know where to post this thought I had when I read about the fear of wife leaving for another woman she met alone. 
This may not pertain to all here. SEX is for Fun. We were not looking for love or romantic relationships. Think most here agree with that. We talked and talked and talked before taking that first step of just looking. We Love US. 

Forgive my ramble. 
Rocky plays guitar and sings but he’s no Dave Matthews. We will go to a concert but I will listen to Rocky for the rest of life. 
Rocky is extremely funny and witty yet we go to listen to many comedians who are hysterical. 
We both are pretty good cooks and then we go to restaurants. 
We still hire plumbers, electricians, gardeners and other tradesmen though we are capable to fix things. 
The pandemic gave us time to again talk and that led to a curiosity. I don’t consider myself Bisexual, others will say I fit a definition. That curiosity brought me to act out not change my preference. Possibly it was the rebel in me that had me go against what society says is wrong, what religion says is wrong. I can’t say if it was the openness of same sex relationships on TV and movies that made me curious. 
We made a decision together knowing I was taking a new step and Rocky would likely have sex with another woman. I brought up him having sex with a man that he had no interest in doing. I didn’t push him, we just talked about it. 
I wanted to fulfill a fantasy not find a lover. I wanted to have fun and I had fun. We had fun together with a couple and I had a number of firsts. 
That first time led to a first time with a friend and her husband. This was about sexual fun not anything more. 
I also had sex alone with my girlfriend with the husbands knowing. We did the same things alone as we did with the husbands watching. 
Back to the post about leaving your spouse after having sex without him being there, IT’S NOT HAPPENING. 

[Billygoat 443]

I think you hit the nail on the head.

 

Everyone here to one level or another seeks and enjoys the openness, the laughter, the fun, the ability to talk about most anything at all.  Oh yeah.  There will be sex play at one level or another.  This lifestyle is very social both in and out of the bedroom.

 

There is no one definition the lifestyle is very all-inclusive of every gender, all adult accepted sexual practices.  Each and every participant chooses for themselves what they may or may not want to try, experience, watch, explore, discover etc.  that covers about 90 percent of all those that participate at any level.

 

And then the other 10 percent.  For all the wrong reasons they dabble, they hope it helps, they hope it will fix things, they hope it will change things, they hope to prove something, they hope to teach someone a lesson, they are looking to be treated as they believe they deserve, they love to pass judgement on others, they love drama, they want to set up there spouse/so for some personal reason, they are there hopefully just to please their spouse/so.  Again the list is endless.

 

And for the special 65 percent who can treat sex as an adult extracurricular activity to be shared and enjoyed……well…..life is full of spice.

Edited July 20, 2022 by Billygoat

[cplnluv1 872]

18 hours ago, ROCKlandCpl said:

This may not pertain to all here. SEX is for Fun. We were not looking for love or romantic relationships. Think most here agree with that. We talked and talked and talked before taking that first step of just looking. We Love US. 

That is the perfect attitude and the perfect prelude to entering the lifestyle. Talking to make sure you are doing it for fun not revenge or because one is pressuring. 

 

12 hours ago, Billygoat said:

Everyone here to one level or another seeks and enjoys the openness, the laughter, the fun, the ability to talk about most anything at all.  Oh yeah.  There will be sex play at one level or another.  This lifestyle is very social both in and out of the bedroom.

After years of just sexual play we are now enjoying a more social aspect of the lifestyle. We had steered clear of any close relationships maybe out of fear of not wanting to be involved with other’s problems. 

[couplers 4,638]

On 7/20/2022 at 10:12 AM, ROCKlandCpl said:

This may not pertain to all here. SEX is for Fun. We were not looking for love or romantic relationships. 

Your observation applies to more than people here.  Most vanilla women and men have sex for fun before they marry while not looking for a relationship.  Sometimes the fun is having sex with some person you would never want a relationship.

 

On 7/20/2022 at 10:12 AM, ROCKlandCpl said:

I don’t consider myself Bisexual, 
I also had sex alone with my girlfriend

Same with me (except I had sex with hubby's girlfriends) and fell in love.  But that's ok, hubby and Red love them too.  There's nothing wrong with caring.

[NoAngels 334]

It is all fun. My wife has been meeting men alone for years and hasn’t left me for anyone. It doesn’t bother me if she goes to a movie, a play, a dinner or to bed with a friend. I never asked her where she was going for most of the time she was meeting men who were mostly married men looking for their own fun. My big disappointment was not knowing she had threesomes because I would have enjoyed seeing her that first time with a woman. I still don’t consider her bisexual, the sex she had with another woman was for the fun of sex. 
Since we have been talking about our extramarital sex and sharing I have watched her with other women. Still it’s just fun. 

[couplers 4,638]

14 hours ago, NoAngels said:

It doesn’t bother me if she goes to a movie, a play, a dinner or to bed with a friend. I never asked her where she was going

That is extremely generous, unselfish, and loving.

14 hours ago, NoAngels said:

My big disappointment was not knowing she had threesomes

You should ask her in a noncritical way to share her experiences with you.  I definitely got a thrill when hubby told me about the results of the encounters that I set up with my friends and him.  (Then I would debrief her for another thrill...)  In the end it paid off well for hubby, and for the women who had a Lesbian side - I did whatever s/he wanted.

[NoAngels 334]

On 7/23/2022 at 12:02 AM, couplers said:

You should ask her in a noncritical way to share her experiences with you.

She journals her life on a computer we share where she lets me read about her meetings. Since we are open about our life we know passwords we use, no hiding anything. I don’t journal the way she does, I just have emails she can read and has full access to this post. I once asked her why she journaled I was positive it wasn’t for me to read, it was for safety. She meets random men on a cheaters site so she would journal the who and the where she was meeting. Even her password to that site she uses is open to me. Her journal became more and more detailed bordering on pornography with some comedy with men who didn’t live up to their resume. 
We now play together at times and I look forward to reading her journal after those meetings. 

[couplers 4,638]

1 hour ago, NoAngels said:

Her journal became more and more detailed bordering on pornography with some comedy with men who didn’t live up to their resume. 

That's hot.  It's hotter though if she tells you and taunts you about it later while you two are going at it.  When I finally got the courage (but not over my jealousy) to let hubby play, I would set him up with a friend or acquaintance (a control thing for me) and demand the details when he got home.  (Or I got home; I liked them to fuck in our bed).

1 hour ago, NoAngels said:

We now play together at times

Hotter still!  Guys are different - many of my friends were eager to fuck my husband, but only a few of the women would let me be there.

Edited July 24, 2022 by couplers

[NoAngels 334]

3 hours ago, couplers said:

It's hotter though if she tells you and taunts you about it later while you two are going at it.

Fortunately that’s not in the cards as there is no taunting in our marriage and no jealousy. From her journal I can tell who she enjoyed and who it wasn’t as much. She even has a file of pictures of the men who contacted her. I laugh at some and wonder why she met them. She also has a deep hidden file that she shared with me of some very sexual pictures and files. The pictures don’t bother me, what does bother me is someone else has those files. 
There are files with other women that I would “fuck” if invited and others I wonder how she did anything with. My wife invites me to join now, not in the beginning and not that often. I’m not a MFM man which gives her full attention to her affairs. 

[couplers 4,638]

2 hours ago, NoAngels said:

there is no taunting in our marriage

"Taunts" is the wrong word.  When I'm with one of my sex partners, male or female, we talk about the sex that we had with others, male and female.  Play with it, roll it around in our minds as I do semen when a guy ejaculates in my mouth.  Often after I play with someone and continue with someone else, I tell the second partner that s/he is what I need, better than what I just had; ask if I still feel good, doing a good job.

 

2 hours ago, NoAngels said:

The pictures don’t bother me, what does bother me is someone else has those files. 

We don't share pictures, but it makes me jealous and turns me on that other women have memories of their experiences with hubby and Red and Lora and Clair.

2 hours ago, NoAngels said:

which gives her full attention to her affairs. 

As it should be, you are generous. 

Edited July 24, 2022 by couplers

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

On 7/24/2022 at 7:32 AM, NoAngels said:

She journals her life on a computer we share where she lets me read about her meetings.

Maybe she should publish her memoirs. 
 

I wish I had journaled or kept notes on my thoughts of my firsts.  My memory isn’t always clear after the fact. Rocky’s remembers things differently from the way I do. 
 

Does your wife write about feelings or physical parts? Men only guess what we are thinking not what our true feelings are. My memory of our first was internally I was fearful yet I tried to show how liberated I was. I surely hid my anxieties or tried to. If Rocky wasn’t there I think it would be different that first time. Different not better I don’t think. 

[MidLifeFun 147]

On 7/20/2022 at 12:12 PM, ROCKlandCpl said:

Forgive my ramble. 

Ramble on

I think it’s healthy to have free thoughts and able to express to others. A shrink is much more expensive. The journaling sounds healthy too, men and women in a relationship have different views of the same action. I always wondered how even my partner views our interactions and how it differs from mine. Reading some posts are just like reading a journal making me wonder what a person is like both intellectually and physically. 

[couplers 4,638]

9 hours ago, MidLifeFun said:

men and women in a relationship have different views of the same action.

This made me think.  The view of the same exact incident depends on whether you're the person enjoying the situation or the spouse/partner observing it.

 

Or both partners engaging in the same activity even at different times, for example deep kissing?

[MidLifeFun 147]

1 hour ago, couplers said:

This made me think.  The view of the same exact incident depends on whether you're the person enjoying the situation or the spouse/partner observing it.

 

Or both partners engaging in the same activity even at different times, for example deep kissing?

I’m thinking doing the same thing at the same time. Even mundane things like watching TV or a movie. 
What does a woman think during sex? I sometimes stop and ask her what are you thinking. I get a kick when she says just shut up and fuck me. I know I’m annoying her and ask again what’s she’s thinking. 
Real life real story, she has me in her mouth and I ask what are you thinking. I know it’s a mood breaker. 
What do women think about when giving head? 

[TricianMike 772]

Mike has asked me what I was thinking. It’s hard to answer when your mind is all over the place. 

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

On 7/26/2022 at 9:53 AM, MidLifeFun said:

What do women think about when giving head? 

I’m not thinking. Ask me what I think when with a woman, that’s new for me and I’m overthinking. 

[couplers 4,638]

On 7/26/2022 at 7:53 AM, MidLifeFun said:

What do women think about when giving head?

It depends.  If it's just me and a guy, I'm thinking about getting him in my pussy.

 

If I've been already otherwise satisfied or if someone else is working on me down below, then I'm thinking about making him orgasm and how to play with his ejaculation in my mouth before I swallow it.  (Guys like that.)

[Numex 2,415]

On 7/20/2022 at 10:12 AM, ROCKlandCpl said:

I also had sex alone with my girlfriend with the husbands knowing. We did the same things alone as we did with the husbands watching. 

My wife and I discussed this, whether sex alone with someone else is different than when the other one of us is there.  We both agreed that it was.  I didn't asked Daniela to explain, and she didn't, but I said that when I was fucking another woman with her there I was also trying to please her by doing things that she liked to see, make sure she had a good view, etc.  We don't have rules about any acts, so it isn't like there's anything we can't do or say anyway.

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

1 hour ago, Numex said:

My wife and I discussed this, whether sex alone with someone else is different than when the other one of us is there.  We both agreed that it was. 

I didn’t think it was different because it was just us two with no men involved. We were together to have fun not thinking the men wanted to enjoy. In that way it was different, one on one will always be different from group sex. The major change neither of us were looking for a penis to satisfy and it made feel how a lesbian would feel. I was completely satisfied by another woman which was totally new to me. I found a side of me I didn’t know I had. 

[couplers 4,638]

1 hour ago, ROCKlandCpl said:

I was completely satisfied by another woman which was totally new to me. I found a side of me I didn’t know I had.

Wonderful, isn't it?  For me, finding my Lesbian side, having Clair and Lora join hubby, Red, and me to form our poly family, and having children together, all fulfilled and completed my life. 

[MidwestHoneys 358]

On 8/15/2022 at 3:43 PM, ROCKlandCpl said:

was completely satisfied by another woman which was totally new to me.

Was the orgasm better or the same? 

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

23 hours ago, MidwestHoneys said:

Was the orgasm better or the same? 

All orgasms are great.