No swinging experience, looking for some guidance

[R083rtD3N1r0 3]

I am completely new to swinging, but it’s something that’s always interested me. Looking for a couple/female to give me some tips, show me the ropes.

 

I’m pretty open minded, so for now nothing is off the table 

Edited July 31, 2022 by R083rtD3N1r0

[MidLifeFun 147]

Be in the moment. Period.
Just be there. Because if
you get all like, 'oh I got to
do this big thing', it just never
works. It iust doesn't work.
You've just got to let go. If it
happens it happens. If it
doesn't, it doesn't. Whatever
you do is ok, just be truthful,
honest, real, and that's all you
can ask for.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

I see from other posts of yours that you're a single male. I've written some advice for single males before, but I don't know that I can readily find it. Here's a few tips;

 

There is far more supply of single males in the lifestyle than there is demand. That said, there are far fewer single males in the lifestyle who are good single males in the lifestyle, and I'd venture to guess that the supply of good single males more or less equals demand. So, how do you make yourself a good single male in the lifestyle?

• Generate a paid profile on swinglifestyle.com. If you go free, you won't be able to communicate. If you go free on any swinger site, no one will take you seriously. If you're paid, you show serious intent.
• Your profile puts your best foot forward. If you can't assemble a sentence or two about yourself in your profile, most couples won't pay any attention to you. Be clear about what you want, what you're offering, what kind of guy you are. This is your chance to advertise yourself. Don't **** it up by talking about how big your dick is and how you're the best swordsman out there.
• Be respectful of both the wife AND the husband. This should go without saying, but a lot of guys screw this up. You are being given a gift. Treat the experience as such. If you can't show respect to both the people in the couple, you're not going to get anywhere.
• Don't send dick picks. Few, if any, women want to see this. For some couples, this is a deal breaker as it shows you're the type of guy they don't want to play with.
• Don't be a flake. If you say you're going to meet a couple at a place at a particular time, be there on time. If you miss out, you're unlikely to be contacted again.
• Always, always, always wear condoms. Don't even ask not to.
• Understand your role. You shouldn't be in this for a relationship, and the couple in question isn't looking at you as a potential relationship. Know your boundaries; you are a toy. Sounds demeaning, but it isn't. You are a sexual fantasy being explored by the couple. Assuming you're straight, understand you're in the middle of this for her pleasure, not yours. If you focus on you, you won't ever see them again. Focus on her. Find out what she likes, what turns her off, what turns her on.

There's lots more advice to give. You can search this forum for more. The above is a good place to start. Best of luck!

[Davdia 119]

My advice is stay away from beginners “to many issues”

Be equally polite to them both, making sure they are comfortable with you first, make sure your the last one satisfied..

Edited August 26, 2022 by Davdia

[Randy andy279 1]

I love swinging

The first time I went to a club as a single male There were a number of ladies alone and a few small groups

I had taken viagra so was soon fully erectI loved walking around showing my firm erection to ladies

I was surprised ladies chatted to me and love talking to an obviously turned on guy with a full erection

i ended up masturbating for a group of 4 ladies on a night out The climax was a large breasted lady who allowed me to titfuck her as her friends watched

im happy to wank on line for any ladies who like a disinhibited man

[njbm 2,868]

On 8/26/2022 at 10:42 AM, Davdia said:

My advice is stay away from beginners “to many issues”

Be equally polite to them both, making sure they are comfortable with you first, make sure your the last one satisfied..

We like beginners, as long as they are both into it and not into drama. The excitement of the new. 

[cplnluv1 871]

Not every couple wants to meet beginners. Make sure you have in your profile that you are new and what you are looking for in a general way. 
In your first private contact, message or email be more specific of your wants or goal in meeting is. Keep in mind you may think you know what you are looking for then find out you didn’t when you meet. A couple that knows your are beginners should know how far to go without expectations of full or even partial swapping. 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

1 minute ago, cplnluv1 said:

Not every couple wants to meet beginners. Make sure you have in your profile that you are new and what you are looking for in a general way. 
In your first private contact, message or email be more specific of your wants or goal in meeting is. Keep in mind you may think you know what you are looking for then find out you didn’t when you meet. A couple that knows that you are beginners should know how far to go without expectations of full or even partial swapping. 

 This is part of the candor/transparency that is so foundational to the LS. If beginners are uncomfortable about who they are--not just physically and emotionally but also where they are along their journey--they are not quite ready. Conversely, if they can have the FIB conversation with themselves and their dates--their Fantasies, their Intentions, their Boundaries--it makes it a lot more fun for all concerned. Don't tell fibs--tell the FIB!

[cplnluv1 871]

5 minutes ago, Fundamental Law said:

Conversely, if they can have the FIB conversation with themselves and their dates--their Fantasies, their Intentions, their Boundaries--it makes it a lot more fun for all concerned. Don't tell fibs--tell the FIB!

Newbies are acting out fantasies thinking how exciting it could be without the reality of how hard it is to take that first step. 
We have learned that when things go too fast the couple are most likely not new. We never rush and use what you call FIB as part of what what we enjoy, for us it is our foreplay as well as fact finding. Not everyone who has every intention to have that first time go through with. We have talked others away if we thought both were not fully committing. Unfortunately some women only do this to please their partner.