Girl/girl with guy involved

[Ships86 1]

Hey all! My wife and I recently visited Temptation in Cancun. Place was amazing. We have never been in or near the lifestyle but she had a great time. People were awesome, respectful of us etc. It was a great vibe. 

 

While there we played with another couple. Wife has some pretty strict ground rules which I'm honestly fine with at the moment. She's into girls but also wants me to help her finish. She enjoys penetration but isn't after another man. She also doesn't want me to play with a girl below the waste. How normal/difficult is this kink to fulfill among the lifestyle community? Any suggestions? Ways to advertise that at LS clubs etc?

 

New here, just looking for some help.

 

Thank you all!!!

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

When you start meeting people, you just need to be up front from the start so they can decide if they are interested in your limits. More than likely your rules will change after time, but for now they are the rules you have...DON'T VIOLATE THEM. It might be a little more difficult finding another couple that is just interested in soft swap, but it isn't impossible. Lots of couples started this way (we did) and then moved forward as they felt comfortable (or don't, you can do what you want).

[herpob 573]

The more limitations/restrictions/rules you have the more challenging as GoldCoCouple stated but it is doable. You have to hang in there. It will take time.  I would also like to point out stick to whatever strict rules are needed but have flexible ones as well. We almost always have to play a little give and take. I know exactly what I want when we have sex with other couples but I am realistic and know so do most everyone else. The odds of those wants being the same are slim. Out of dozens of couples we have been with only one worked out where what I wanted was what they were looking for and yes they have become the main couple we have sex with. As for the other couples I often do additional things to make it work out. I feel you have to be flexible in most instances. You can be clear about what you will and will not do but find a way to bend a bit here and there. 

 

As for how you find them. We seem to be in an area that attracts them. I've met them as neighbors talking about sex, in stores, restaurants, outings, events, perhaps we give that vibe off. The most recent area we picked up on the signals was at our college alumni gathering. We don't flirt, we somehow notice people and they notice us. Prior to that we picked up on two new couples in our neighborhood.  They had they look about them and they said the same of us. I'd say settings like you went to for certain and pay attention to that same vibe around your area.