Trouble getting hard

[Jay1986 4]

Me and my wife have been swinging for about a year now . We both really enjoy it the problem is when we get to the room I get really anxiety filled and start think about if I’m going to be ablyto get my dick hard and perform ..  Every time I do end up getting hard it just takes 30/45 minutes and makes it an awkward situation I don’t know what I’m doing to make it this way . I’ll be having an amazing time the hole night them once we get to the room I freeze up . After we finish playing and we both go our ways my dick stays rock hard i fuck the wife over and over with a rock hard erection but when the couple that we are playing with is there it’s not that way my dick will get hard but all I’m doing is hoping the hole time that it stays up and I can’t even focus on the moment can anyone give me tips or help me with this situation 

[njbm 2,869]

Ask your doctor if Viagra or another ED medication would help you. 

[Jay1986 4]

I’ve tried viagra and cialis 

[Jay1986 4]

I get like mental anxiety ED it is crazy 

[shy_couple 459]

How much are you dunking to loosen up?

[njbm 2,869]

1 hour ago, shy_couple said:

How much are you dunking to loosen up?

Drinking? Drinking is the enemy of the erection. 

[Numex 2,412]

Whenever I need help in that area, understanding oral sex by my wife or another woman always gets me hard.  As I get older, it especially helps me to go a second or sometimes third round.

 

3 hours ago, Jay1986 said:

After we finish playing and we both go our ways my dick stays rock hard i fuck the wife over and over with a rock hard erection

I know what you mean.  Even after good sex with others, both my wife and I want one final round together when we get home.  The "reclaiming sex" thing is real.  Nothing more loving than a wife letting you fuck another woman; nothing more exciting than a wife who has attracted other men and enjoyed sex with them.

[Jay1986 4]

1 hour ago, njbm said:

Drinking? Drinking is the enemy of the erection. 

This last time I only had one drink we were at a hotel takeover met a couple smoking hot wife we danced and I was getting hard then we went to the room and all I could think about was me not being able to get it up me and the wife got in the shower to calm the nerves we got out she gave me head then finally I got hard after like 30 minutes I started to fuck the other wife and he fuck mine the whole time I was fucking her I wasn’t thinking about how good it was or how fun I was having I just kept thinking man I hope I keep it hard after like 15 minutes I went but that was it no more the moment the other couple left I fuck my wifes brains out 

[shy_couple 459]

You’ve psyched yourself out. 

 

Many of us have had this happen when we first started out. It does get easier as you get more relaxed and have more encounters. 
 

Use your hands, mouth, and fingers and drive her wild with the foreplay. It’ll come. Figuratively and hopefully literally😛 
 

 

[enhancer 1,585]

It sounds like it is all in your head!  You are just going to have to figure out a way to get past this mental block.  The problem is probably that you are over thinking it and worried about every time.  
 

As for Ed drugs I would not take them when they are not needed. In this case it sounds like a mental thing not a physical thing.  If it is was a physical thing I would start making some serious changes to the way I live.  
 

Ed is usually a sign of heart disease, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes and obesity.  All things I have no interest in so I chose to avoid the things that cause them.