My wife finally agreed to sleeping with another man. Our Story of the First Attempt at Pseudo Swinging?

[PomJetter 8]

My wife is conservative as all hell. She is my polar opposite in basically every way sexually, and in 7 years of marriage where she is perfectly content with a dwindling weekly sex routine, I’ve been fantasizing about ways to spice it up.
 

We’ve recently got into very light role playing, but nothing what compares to where my fantasies take me and I was feeling quite sexually frustrated. 
 

Being very open with each other, we spoke about this and I found mysef  

No real reason for this post specifically, sort of airing out some thoughts in a community well experienced. Comments, critiques, advice welcomed!

 

Likely this will be super long too. Idk any other way! Ha
 

My wife is conservative as all hell. She is my polar opposite in basically every way sexually, and in 7 years of marriage where she is perfectly content with a dwindling weekly sex routine, I’ve been fantasizing about ways to spice it up.
 

We’ve recently got into very light role playing, but nothing what compares to where my fantasies take me and I was feeling quite sexually frustrated. 
 

Being very open with each other, we spoke about this and I found myself slipping out that I will often fantasize about her with another man. Of course this immediately sparked the “WTF” look and utter confusion. I explained o her the best I could about the fantasy being in the loss of “control”, and the spark of a competitive natural ‘whatever’ that surrounded it. Confused, but promising that she would consider / research (Aka talk to her best friend lol) about how she’s supposed to take it. 
 

Context / Background - Wife is an accomplished athlete and is currently coaching at a high level (endurance and power sport - omitted but every 4 years, you might have seen her at a certain international sporting competition) she is  crazy stunning, hella focused and because of her sports life growing up, never really did the crazy ‘college years’ (I can’t say the same for myself. Basically she doesn’t ‘naturally’ default to sex, she’s never had a one-night-stand, and for sure has never used her body to intentionally arouse others. 

 

A little time passes since our talk and I wasn’t going to bring it up or pressure, but I didn’t  have to as she casually brought it up a little bit later. 
 

Her out of the gate response was ‘no’ for fear she wouldn’t be able to separate sex and emotion (I understand this is a magical power that men have… ha). She went on to say that this fantasy, she’s afraid, might also open doors for me to have grounds to sleep with other women  (to which I explained the “negotiation” part of the swinging journey): she was quite relieved after hearing that it as t the intent and we would agree that it’s not me scamming to sleep with other women. We then spoke about it as so “as a matter-of-factl like you would talk to your work team on how to tackle the upcoming week.
 

She started asking specific questions / situations to attempt to gauge what it would look like in practice. She asked if she would just go out, come back and I’d “never know”, or would it need to be sex, or would any other “base” suffice. She made it clear that she wouldn’t want me in the room as it would make her awkward, and that if anything would happen to this effect, it would need to be an organic and natural situation (I.e. not setting it up with a friend or a swing group).

 

We agreed to try a couple “test runs” and dip the toes into the water before a full deep dive (ended up doing three). She wanted to know for sure that I wouldn’t be jealous or have something ruined (hey, apparently it’s common for regret and resentment, so kudos for her research)

 

Here were our “Trial Runs” 

 

1) (per the advice of one of these group boards) we went out to a lounge / bar and let the men hit on her / swap numbers. (I loved the confidence boost this gave her). She wore a sexy AF dress, the lowest cut blouse I’ve ever seen her not cover up, her hair looked professionally done, and my god it was amazing sex h

that night (with me, though there were two guys in particular that could have given me a run for my money)
 

2) a couple weeks later, We went separately to a Starbucks Patio. I was already there and she jogged / walked. She didn’t wear a bra for the run (apparently that is much worse than a would know lol) and she sat a row over And a couple tables away from me while she had her whatever drink and casually texting ignoring everyone around. Her blouse was ‘casual’ not designed low cut, but this was a little large on her. When she sat at an angle or the wind would push it against her, there was no avoiding seeing her nipples through the shirt, and though there were only a few people there, it was noticed. We sat there for maybe 10 minutes before a couple in their 20’s sat down. The girlfriend had her back to my wife seated across from her boyfriend with a full view. I was seated facing the same way as him, but I couldn’t see his face, and he had glasses on (stellar move for men). I sent her a text asking if he noticed her. She didn’t reply, but clearly read the text and that prompted her to stand up, stretch her arms behind her body while taking a little step behind this guys girlfriend. This maneuver pressed her nipples as far out as they could possibly go, and the guy clearly moved so he could watch my wife behind his girlfriend. What happened next I don’t know if she planned, or took advantage of her untied shoe but she didn’t sit back down, just started collecting her things and squatted down to put her book into her backpack. Still facing this guy, she bends over to tie her shoe, and from his angle, all he would need to have done to see my wife’s bare breast was look up. There’s no doubt in my mind that he did. She said she was too nervous to look up. I was instantly hard. 
 

3) The final “thing” was to be nude somewhere online. I suggested a site like OnlyFans, or any Other ones that anyone can sign up on and broadcast. She wore a mask (like a feathery one / lace sort of on and the deal was that I would be able to watch her, while I was in our bedroom, but I wasn’t permitted to know the site she was  on, or to see the conversations she was having (if at all) or how many people were watching my wife casually take her cloths off sort of one item at a time. My heart was about a million miles a minute the entire time, and I found myself hyper fixated on her eyes and her mouth. Around the ball mask or whatever it was She was clearly nervous and uncomfortable at first, but it didn’t stop her from stripping down to just her panties. She was wearing my headphones so I couldn’t hear any notifications, and she was trying but the two times she spoke out of habit, “thank you” was said through a shaky voice and I felt crazy protective. I wanted to ask her if she wanted to stop, but we agreed that I would be a fly on the wall. Only once did she move her panties over to expose all of her, and it must have been on request, or a tip or something because it certainly wasn’t enough to get her to orgasm. I thought I would easily have been able to jerk off twice watching her, but with my heart rate as high as it was and trying to analyze if she was actually okay with all this, it wasn’t going to happen at last sitting in that arm chair. 
 

I didn’t time the whole experience, but I would say it was about 30 minutes of streaming. She closed the computer, and left to the bathroom. It was a mood I didn’t expect. No one was upset, frankly I love the idea that she did it. She seemed to be okay doing it, but you could tell that she won’t make a profession out of being a “cam girl”… so I think. 
 

She asked if I came, and when I said no, she grabbed the lube and started rubbing. I asked her how many people were watching her…. She said she’s not going to tell me. I asked what site it was, she said she’s not telling me. I asked why now hat it’s over she said, while still stroking my dick, that she enjoyed strangers looking at her and she intends to do it again, but doesn’t want me getting notifications or finding her on there. I think I came within two strokes from there. 
 

 

Flash forward to earlier today: 

 

There’s a friends wedding on Saturday and I couldn’t make it because of work, so she RSVP’d for her alone. Wife’s best friend (who she spoke to about all this a couple months ago) texted her a couple days ago and asked if she “was still planning on…  you know”. Wife won’t say any details to me until whatever we end up doing is “done”, but the long and the short of it is that there will be someone there that she will ‘very likely’ be able to do whatever with.

 

Here are the terms. 

 

I will not hear any of he details until she is home, and she won’t tell me if she is going to be staying in the hotel, or coming home. 
 

This person isn’t someone as a friend in daily life, and doesn’t live locally. Numbers won’t be exchanged and no ongoing contact.
 

If she is going to do it, she can’t have limitations on what or how far they go. 
 

She will be 100% truthful, honest and detailed. Including the details of the broadcast show. 

We will instantly f**k when she comes home and tells me what’s up. 

 

If there are photos, he’s not permitted to keep or take any with his phone. 

 

 

 

I have the craziest mixed feelings about all this, but it’s 100% what I wanted. There’s something about her withholding all the details that feels like a dirty negotiation and that is adding to it all. She’s basically not going to tell me anything I want to know about the video broadcast until she fools around with this guy and tells me all together… so it feels like I’m being manipulated and used…. But in the best way possible. 
 

saturdybis going to be a long day. I won’t know if I’m seeing her late that night, the next morning, or later.

I’m not to call, I’m not to text, my job is to wait patiently while my wife finishes emptying this complete strangers dick as many times or as few times as she feels she wants to overnight 100 miles away…

 

as I wrote that last sentence, my dick grew harder than I think it has in 10 years…

 

In 48 hours, my wife is going to do to another man’s body everything she’s done to me.
 

fuck me. 

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[couplers 4,781]

When you are back together, tell her and show her that you love her (buy her something she wants) and let her talk it out as little or much as she prefers, no pressure.  Do it right and it will all only get better from there.  

Edited October 14, 2022 by couplers

[TnA83 323]

Awesome detail of how you two are starting out.  You seem to be communicating well and taking it one step at a time. 

 

I can't wait for you to fill us in on how it turned out.  Hope it's everything that you want. 

[PomJetter 8]

On 10/14/2022 at 11:38 AM, TnA83 said:

Awesome detail of how you two are starting out.  You seem to be communicating well and taking it one step at a time. 

 

I can't wait for you to fill us in on how it turned out.  Hope it's everything that you want. 

She texted me one last time last night to make sure I was still good. Then she sent me a couple photos this AM from the AirBnb….. it’s fucking intense. Sh comes home tomorrow 

[PomJetter 8]

On 10/14/2022 at 6:45 AM, couplers said:

When you are back together, tell her and show her that you love her (buy her something she wants) and let her talk it out as little or much as she prefers, no pressure.  Do it right and it will all only get better from there.  

Solid idea!!!!!! And she’s all about leading. I just posted a text convo (needs approval) but she’s epic at mind fucking 

[Numex 2,478]

On 10/13/2022 at 10:54 PM, PomJetter said:

Here are the terms. 

 

I will not hear any of he details until she is home, and she won’t tell me if she is going to be staying in the hotel, or coming home. 
 

This person isn’t someone as a friend in daily life, and doesn’t live locally. Numbers won’t be exchanged and no ongoing contact.
 

If she is going to do it, she can’t have limitations on what or how far they go. 
 

She will be 100% truthful, honest and detailed. Including the details of the broadcast show. 

We will instantly f**k when she comes home and tells me what’s up. 

 

If there are photos, he’s not permitted to keep or take any with his phone. 

Letting your wife be in control is both the generous thing to do and move things along by making her comfortable.