why would be the reasons for your partner to deny that she enjoys the lifestyle when her behavior says the contrary?

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background
We have been together for a very long time (30+ years), we married young and now our kids are adults.  Our sex life has been very good during all those years.
We started this adventure (life style) about 3 years ago.  As many of you had experienced, we started slow, first going to nude places, then attending to parties but not playing, just watching, then, being naked, then playing between us.

After a while, we played a soft foursome (which was amazing), and started progressing.  At some point, I thought that we were in the same page related to enjoy the play, the environment,  however one day my wife told me that she did not enjoy it.

 

details
For me, it is becoming difficult to understand her comment because the physical clues of her body and behavior says differently:
- She asks when the next party is going to be (shows interest)
- She gets very excited when we go to parties and unleash her wild side
- Her body reacts: gets very wet when we start looking and after when we start playing
- She participates actively (oral sex and touch others, kisses)
- When asked about leaving the LS, she responds with “I would be ok, but we don’t have to…”

 

I have asked her in different opportunities about her reasons to not enjoying the LS and I have uncovered details of her inner soul that surprise me and I was not aware of, such as insecurities about her body (which is amazing btw)

 

Any one has experienced something like this in your journey for the LS?

[let's do it again 414]

I agree, when me and my wife got into the lifestyle she tried to play it off also. She was told by her mother that sex was a women's duty and just lay there and take it. After the kids had finished college and moved out is when we began to explore the lifestyle, she would deny enjoying it, but that was all she wanted to talk about and her libido really picked up! She would never initiate sex or talk about her fantasies or desires, but dipping into the lifestyle changed that but she would never admit it. On the nude beaches she loved it when men would walk up to her and start a conversation, her pussy would be really wet. I don't know if she thought it would make her look like a slut, or how she was raised sexually repressed. 

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I think the women on this forum would make the best responses here. I will say that having those lines of communication being 100% open and honest is very important.