Question on skinny dipping

[Jocarter8183 3]

My wife and I love skinny dipping after our youngest is in bed. We have a daughter in college that comes home on some weekends.

One weekend recently, she surprised us by coming home early after being out with friends and caught my wife and I in the pool, no swim suits of course. She wasn’t freaked out, she actually was cool about it and hung out by the pool a while. She asked if we would mind if she got in for a swim, we said of course. She went in the house(we thought to get in a swim suit of course)  and she came back out wearing a towel which she soon revealed that she also was nude. She is 20 by the way. She said since  we were skinny dipping it would be ok for her to as well. My wife was totally fine with it. I’m ok with it, it just caught me by surprise and off guard to say the least  to the point where I couldn’t look at her at first since it was my daughter. That went away after a bit.

 

This is the first time she’s went completely nude with us. My wife and I go nude around the house all the time and she would just go around in a T-shirt and panties when she lived at home and when she comes home now. She never had shown an interest in anything more than that before. Am I just over reacting since it was the first time she’s done that and I’m trying to process it? She’s been a free spirit since she was little,  so it shouldn’t be a surprise to me. She knows we’re swingers and we’re both bisexual and she thinks that’s awesome, so I don’t know why I reacted the way I did with the skinny dipping. Any ideas and opinions are welcome

Edited December 31, 2022 by Jocarter8183

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

One way to look at this; if you went to a nudist camp with your whole family, you wouldn't think anything of your kids being naked around you. It's the 'normal'. I think the context throws this off. Your daughter probably thought of it along those lines; you two are comfortable being naked around your kids. She's 20 now. She can make her own decisions. If you can, why can't she?

 

The social norms are that once kids reach a certain age, the parent of the opposite sex never sees them sans clothing again. That's the social norm. But, biologically, it isn't the norm. There was a study done years ago that showed there is a change inside the brain of family members with respect to sexual attraction. Our children, our parents, are unattractive to us; it just doesn't trigger anything. I wish I could find the study to link it here. Of course, that change does break down in some people which generates the stories of incest. But, it's very uncommon.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about this. If your daughter is comfortable with it, there's no reason to be uncomfortable about it.

Edited December 31, 2022 by bbarnsworth

[Jocarter8183 3]

11 minutes ago, bbarnsworth said:

One way to look at this; if you went to a nudist camp with your whole family, you wouldn't think anything of your kids being naked around you. It's the 'normal'. I think the context throws this off. Your daughter probably thought of it along those lines; you two are comfortable being naked around your kids. She's 20 now. She can make her own decisions. If you can, why can't she?

 

The social norms are that once kids reach a certain age, the parent of the opposite sex never sees them sans clothing again. That's the social norm. But, biologically, it isn't the norm. There was a study done years ago that showed there is a change inside the brain of family members with respect to sexual attraction. Our children, our parents, are unattractive to us; it just doesn't trigger anything. I wish I could find the study to link it here. Of course, that change does break down in some people which generates the stories of incest. But, it's very uncommon.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about this. If your daughter is comfortable with it, there's no reason to be uncomfortable about it.

Thank you for the reply. I have the tendency to be over analytical. After a little bit, it was fine. I think the shock was the biggest thing, haha. 
 

Happy New Year!

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Even you said she is a free spirit. She obviously feels safe and trusts the two of you. You are reading too much into this.

[older couple 132]

Our kids loved going naked since birth.  They hated clothes.  Nudity is so natural around here we never worry about it.

[TnA83 305]

Sounds like you raised her right!