The Science of Sexual Fantasy and Desire
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bbarnsworth, in Swingers Talk
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By Juan234
Sue and Tom got it on. He had her over the edge of the bed. His mind drifted into a wife swap scenario. That got him harder. His wife started to orgasm as he held her down by the shoulder blades.
Even as her spasms subsided, his thoughts kept going to another man having his wife. Thrusting into her. He was living vicariously himself as he imagined his wife fucking anyone just for the raw pleasure of a horny fuck. So raw, so animalistic, so unavoidable. Another man’s cock just to make her feel more like a woman, more feminine, wetter, more relaxed, more hypnotized for cock.
Now he visualized another wife watching passively next to him as they both just observed as their spouses fucked each other like masters. That made his back tingle with goosebumps, the prickly hair stimulating his whole body.
Now back from his fantasy it was he that plunged into his auburn-haired wife, her butt naturally swinging back in perfect frequency to his thrusts. She loved it. Being taken. He could tell. Now he could not slow down. With a few more deep strokes his nuts contracted and shot as deep as he could make his pumped lightning go, repeatedly, just the way she liked it, rough, hard, and animalistic, delivering his seed.
IF YOU WANT PART TWO, THE CHAT, LET ME KNOW.
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By kc081878
My wife and I are 42, married 19 years. We are not in the lifestyle. She has 1 rule... No anal. Otherwise she is game for whatever I come up with. Not much else is off limits. Toys, Role play, sex swing, BDSM, simulated MFM/Gangbangs, sex machine, etc.
Although we have done some pretty involved and creative role play/simulations... she says she can't imagine doing the above with others for real. If I'm honest, the reality would be a big step for me as well. Yet, I tell her I'm not opposed either.
I have found that my fetish is whatever makes her aroused in new ways. I love the nuances of her sounds and how her body responds to a new sensation.
She says she is perfectly happy with our dynamic. I create the scene and surprise her. I even find myself sounding silly for writing this as if it were a problem.
We are tremendously transparent, collaborative and vocal about every aspect of our lives. But when it comes to discussing fantasies, likes/dislikes, collaborating on role play, etc... my wife shuts down or becomes flippant or gets a "how soon can we get this talk over with?" type vibe. She will say,"I just don't have anything to say."
I don't press her to share more than she wants and there are probably way more layers than can be addressed here.
So I suppose my question is...
Are there couples that have experienced a similar dynamic in their journey and how/in what ways were they able to be more expressive?
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By funcoupledayton
I'm starting this thread in response to one in the curious section where the author felt a little bad because his wife wasn't sharing all her fantasies with him. He said he knows they are not ready for swinging, in part, because of this.
Well, here I am, swinging with my husband for 3 years, and it's gone very well. But, I still have a private fantasy place I go to (in my mind). I tell my husband things I want to try, we talk all the time about what we like about swinging sex and our sex. But, when he watches me touch myself and then says, "What were you thinking about?" I won't tell him.
I don't lie, sometimes I tell him generalities. It's not about a specific person or people, it's not anything that really could or would happen in real life. It's not anything I want to try, I just find it hot to think about. But, I would be embarrassed to tell anyone, and it would make it less hot for me if he knew about it. In a way, I like not telling him, I like having a little corner of my mind that's all mine. On the other hand I feel a little guilty, because it's really not a big deal and he would like me to tell him these fantasies in great detail and would probably find them hot, too.
But, believe me, I have told him (and many of you also) all kinds of silly fantasies, because I have a ton!
What do you think? Do you tell your spouse everything you think about to get off?
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