Women Empower Women In The Lifestyle

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I thought I would put some of our observations of the Lifestyle that doesn’t seem to have been discussed very much, or so it seems.

 

Women empowering women with in the lifestyle.  Empowerment and acceptance.

 

Please keep in mind these are our experiences and observations based largely on events, activities, private group activities and most often private and semi private house/club parties as well as our own parties and events.  Not so much about sexual activities or expectations as open acceptance of women by other women to be free to be themselves without ridicule, judgement or dismissive attitudes by other women.  This is not about husbands, boyfriends or men in general about their thoughts.

 

As many of you know our attitude as well as most all of our LS relationships center on the lifestyle is all about women.  Their time to explore, experience and participate in a sexually based experience the a high majority never were allowed or believed not to be allowed to explore…..even with their significant other at the peril of being held to some kind of accepted normal behavior, duty, social peril and in many cases social/mental/emotional disjunction leading to counseling, broken relationships, high anxiety and possibly hospitalization.  Crazy right?  But so True.

 

generationally if you are talking to Baby Boomers, many of whom that lived a sexually satisfying life, privately, open or in the early days of the LS were raised with no sex….doesn’t happen, sex with marriage only, marriage only for children (create a family) a wife’s duty for her husband.  In comes the sexual revolution and slow change over time generationally based on and around the availability and access to birth control.   The late sixties and in through the seventies sex and sexual attitudes slowly changed.  From the male based Playboy era to younger women on birth control and the promoted key parties it was a slow development, slower growth.  Even by the eighties, nineties and into the 2000s; growth of the lifestyle, sex industry and more and younger not only experiencing sex, experimenting sexually, mimicking adult sexual activities/party activities and accepting/participating in sexual favors not intercourse as acceptable activities, behaviors….”I’m not having sex yet”.

 

Through all of this no matter the change or new norms one thing remained constant…..women judging other women.  On every level…..from dress, home, motherhood, cooking, socially the list is very lengthy.  And most importantly….sexually.

 

As the woman’s movement staggered forward any smart woman, successful woman had to have achieved it through sex…with someone.  Women friends judging the new woman in the neighborhood, work etc etc.  we have all been exposed to it at some level during our lives from middle school through death.  It can be devastating, life altering…..the worst…suicide. 
 

Sorry to be so dark.

 

So now our observation via our experiences/themes/gatherings/party hosts.

 

The Queen and I started dating in High School (17) and after.  We became sexual within a week or so but we both were not each others first.  She less experienced, me much more experimental….loose cannon with ideas.  Her little to no sex discussion from Mom, mostly by her friends.  Me sat down by mother and father early on.  At thirteen Father gave me a collection called the Happy Hooker to read.  At 14 he gave me The Sensual Man…..a book…instructional….to teach men how to please a woman.  Written by a man…..but I don’t think women ever read it so most my adventures many times started with shock and awe from her.  Although most all loved my hands and oral skills….a few jumped back…one out of the car.  The Queen and I had our adventures….highly sexual.  Later in the lifestyle we would still learn many things from those who had more experience.  A great awakening.  Just when we thought we were experts at sex.

 

Any who…..Even the Queen was very reserved to start….not with the men….with there wives watching even participating….she was still very self conscious.  Very reserved, holding back.  Then we had a small circle of great play friends.  We met regularly both socially and for sex play.  Something we discovered that was amazing.  Over a short period of time the women…all wives and girlfriends….took over.  No longer a male directed party.  No longer we husbands and boyfriends arranging anything.  The women did.  The women experimented with this.  The women tried anything and everything the wanted with all of us men, separately or in groups or activity.  A crazy revelation. We were all very open physically and communicatively.  
 

Listening to the women it suddenly hit me.  This works because they are not only accepting of each other there was no judgement.  No feeling of inadequacy.  No fear of being outside the acceptable norm.  If one tried something new then all also wanted to try.  Many times some or all would collaborate, actually devise, conspire for each other. 
 

point is when we all first started it was great play but modestly quiet and normal activity.  Starting month three huge changes….first dress up started to change a bit.  More casual more often.  Not a challenge to look sexier or new outfits or dress to empress.  Makeup mostly stopped more every day kind of look.  Vocal, not just talking but out right laughter, boasting, story telling, teasing each other congratulating on another on a sexual feat, discovery or new activity.  Moaning and being verbal during sex play.  Their experimenting with us men for their curiosity, challenge or just cause.  We learned quickly that we were only there for their enjoyment…individually as well as a group.

 

This started our group parties.  Open to those we vetted.  Not open to general public or walk in.  All single/solo men were vetted by us only.  Single women allowed with a social public meeting most often at Applebees.  Couples vetted as well in social setting.  Never sexually vetted (we despise those hosts that require newbee participation first). We also allowed all that met our social meeting.  Mostly to answer questions, gauge experience and interest.  We did not vet using, body style, age, color, ethnicity, large, small, endowed or not, busty or not.  From fit to SSBW.  Only a few exceptions or requirements. Trustworthy, single men had more to pass….gentlemen only need to apply.  Solo players had to bring their SO to speak for themselves.  Although mostly 30s thru 50s some older (highly active 72 yo woman and a half dozen late 20s to early 30s women some single moms).

 

we had one constant, men were all there to please any woman in attendance, no drama no judgement, always consent, no sexual obligation.

 

Even the shyest woman was part of the group and allowed to be loud if she wanted.  The more they attended the stronger, more confident they became.  The more powerful they were.  And the more comfortable all were to asking what they wanted……and just as comfortable to just be social….not obligated to perform….or receive and to enjoy themselves if they so choose to…..to what ever level at that moment with out fear of judgement.

 

we have noticed that successful parties/events tended to be smaller, more intimate, attended by more regulars with only a few new comers.  Limited alcohol use….just a great group of friends that are highly social…….but with a sexual twist.  And the women run the joint.

 

 

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One of the keys to the success of our poly family is that the women run everything, but the men think that they do.