Anxiety and orgy rejections?

[Naberius 3]

We've been invited to an orgy (6 couples or so) by some good LS friends. Only issue we have is that my wife has a lot of anxiety about rejecting people, especially in the heat of the moment in such a small gathering. There will be at least a few very awesome and friendly people attending that she has zero interest in playing with due to a lack of attraction, and others she knows and would be happy to play with.

 

She is quite selective, but also doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or come off as a bitch by rejecting them, only to turn around and play with someone she's interested in right in front of the person she's just rejected.

 

We understand orgy etiquette dictates that it isn't a free-for-all, possible rejection is part of it, and everyone attending should be prepared to be rejected. We are wondering if anyone here has any experience or suggestions for letting someone down gently and still feeling comfortable in this type of scenario.

 

Thank you.

 

[couplers 4,636]

"Im sorry, no, I don't want to." should be good enough. 

[enhancer 1,585]

Personally we would avoid the situation all together, because like your wife we are picky! Same reason we really have no in lifestyle parties.  We prefer to get together with people that are of interest only. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,387]

Fear not. Nobody handles polite rejection better than those in the swinger community.  It's a core skill.