First time swing partner

[let's do it again 416]

The first time you are with a new swing partner, do you take a conservative approach or do you try to push it to see how far your partner will allow it?

[shy_couple 460]

Rules and boundaries are always on the table ahead of time.

 

Anytime we feel that we may be approaching that line, we check in with our partner/new playmate. Pushing boundaries, comfort zones, etc. can be fun once you’ve built trust.

 

 If you try that before trust is built, your are risking at best a shut down and detachment. Or getting kicked out all together. Either way, if that happened to

us, zero chance of a second date. 

[njbm 2,901]

Very conservative/conventional the first time. Figure out what the partner likes. No surprises. I am not trying anal,etc.

[Numex 2,459]

Prior to being in our closed group, I let the woman lead but let her know that I am open to just about any act and definitely open to her saying anything at all.  Actually, that's still my approach even with a regular partner.