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  1. 1. Top or bottom

    • I am a top. My SO is a bottom
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    • I am a bottom. My SO is a top
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    • We are both top... And if we're not careful, somebody would get hurt!
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    • We are both bottoms... But it's not as bad as it sounds!
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    • I am single - and a top
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    • I am single - and I am a bottom... Just call me "Topless"
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    • I am neither top nor bottom... I am like Oreo filling - in the middle, but sweet!
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    • I am both top and bottom - a "switch". But it's up to me which one you get!
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    • I am a "switch". But you need to tell me which one you want.
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    • I've never really thought about it...
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    • I've thought about it, but never figured it out.
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    • Women being mean scares me... Tell me how to get to Disney.com
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    • Ummm... "My cat's breath smells like cat food..."
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    • You're an idiot. What a silly poll...
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    • Other
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The first couple we were involved with used the terms top and bottom to describe themselves. At the time, I thought that top and bottom were terms that were exclusive to the gay community. Not so... Basically, the dominant partner is the top - and the submissive is the bottom...

 

I know - I know - "duh, Spoomonkey. What's your point?"

 

Well - I am curious...

 

Who is the more dominant in your relationship? Or - if you are single - do you see yourself as a "top" or "bottom"?

 

In our marriage, I am usually the dominant one. Occassionally I enjoy letting Mrs Spoomonkey wrestle for control, only to take it from her as the activities progress. And she is more than happy to let me be the dominant one.

 

I have a fantasy about being "dominated", but it is not something that I could get into all the time. I am definitely an "alpha-monkey".

 

So - I am going to try my very first poll...

 

The question is - which are you?

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we are 50/50 on that one depending on the mood. Me (the she half) love to be on top and make him just lay there enjoying himself but i also love it when he takes control. Part of the time i want to tell him what to do, but like to be put where he wants me...he can just pick me up and move me around the bed how he likes it...which is fun. so I guess what i am saying is we are both ...well both top and bottom.

my 2 cents for the day

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I would say that I (male) top 90% of the time. We have played S&M games since the begining and over time have evolved to our current position. While I sometimes take the bottom position, usually I decide when, where, and how hard or soft we have sex. She is an admitted sub and is always willing to let her partner take the reins and lead her to orgasm.

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I am a "switch" and it is up to me which one you get. Generally, it depends on how well I know you as to which one it is. I'm only more aggressive with people that I know well.

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My wife and I are both submissive, which says a lot about why we are interested in bringing other people into our bedroom.

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My wife and I are both submissive, which says a lot about why we are interested in bringing other people into our bedroom.

 

Do you generally look for "top" playmates?

 

Spoomonkey

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Is it possible for me and Mr LM to be neither sub nor dom in our marriage? We could not categorize our personal sexual roles.

 

None of the 15 choices are suitable for Mr LM. When I showed him the poll he said, "I see this as a labor question, the person who's getting their heart rate up faster and doing more is the dom."

 

LM :o

 

P.S. I voted "switch" only because I can see myself going both ways with play partners.

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Well Mr Spoo pretty much spoke for us but I couldn't let his first poll go by with out voting and posting to it myself. :kiss:

 

I have to admit I like being the bottom . . the submissive. We are like biblonde said, Mr Spoo just moves me around where he wants me and your right that is a lot of fun :fun::8-0:::bj: He has however pointed out recently that in two different play times with another couple and a single that I sort of took control of the situation and directed everyone (Mr Spoo was just enjoying himself very much and the last thing on his mind was being a top) So I have a little bit of 'top' in me but I have to admit my favorite is when he just takes me and takes control facelick

 

We have been working on me being a 'dominatrix' for a night and I'm having fun with that . . . getting the outfit, planning my demands :D So we'll see, maybe in time I'll even out and just be a 50/50 switcher.

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

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I decided to answer, "I am a "switch". But you need to tell me which one you want.", but after I did, I realized that actually makes me a 'bottom'. Interesting poll!

 

-B

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I haven't voted yet, I haven't completely sorted this out though my instinct is to vote I'm the top and he's the bottom. As I've mentioned before my husband can be/wants to be submissive...therefore the bottom. I'm definitely a dominating one in our relationship...but I don't feel that makes me a top. And if I'm not a top then I should be a bottom. But I'm not a bottom because I do like a certain amount of control. I'm not a switch because I don't care for either extreme. So basically, I'm in the middle. I prefer to give as much direction as I take...at least in the bedroom. I guess in general life I really am the top and he really is the bottom. Who knows. Chances are you could ask this every week and I'll give a different answer!

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Our relationship is a full time D/s. That is ti say that I am a Dom, and My Little Princess is my full time submissive. So the answer to the poll for us is reather obvious. EXCEPT where it comes to dealing with people outside of our relationship in the vanilla world. She is a very forceful personality, a trait required for her profession as a corporate instructor. Mine remains relatively consistent as a management level employee in a manufacturing plant. Our life together seems to be THE perfect match and works quite well for us, with her wearing a collar locked about her neck 24/7. And to most, our relationship is so transparent that after someone really gets to know us and ask about the collar's BDSM medallionor the matching item that I wear as a tie-tack or lapel pin, that the response is "Oh, really? I hadn't noticed!" Those people told beforehand, unfortunately, feel threatened will respond for the most part with "NOT COMPATIBLE!" almost immediately. Those few truly adventurous souls who take the time find us to be delightful.

 

Go figure.

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Do you generally look for "top" playmates?

 

Something like that. They find us. Since we're both shy and submissive and all. I'm working on pushing myself to be more assertive just to prove to myself that I can but I still really just prefer aggressive playmates. Zero question then about whether they are into it or not.

 

My wife sometimes will go into predator mode and just go after somebody at a (vanilla) party or something and like 20 minutes later POOF they're having sex. It's rare but wow it's pretty cool to watch. That's how she got me in the first place. We are normally very equal now, in every aspect of our marriage. Comes naturally from being with somebody who's opinion you respect as much as your own, but not more so.

 

Oh and as a guy who lives in a very very very gay area, all of this talk about 'tops' and 'bottoms' is kind of creeping me out! I have never heard those terms applied to straight sex. What's next, hanky codes for swingers?

 

Mr Spoomonkey, are you dominant with Mrs Spoomonkey about lots of things, or just sex? Like are you the one who decides what to have for dinner, what movies to see, what kind of car to get, all of that? My wife and I are both exceedingly dominant in every other aspect of our lives and in team situations in business or whatever we're both normally the leaders in the pack. Combined we're even stronger and we use our strength as a strong pair with complimentary skills to dominate our business niches. We're totally not shy about wrestling somebody to the ground in business and raping their money out of them. It's only in bed that we're pushovers.

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Heya Spoo...

 

Funny you should ask this question. For the 14 years we have been together, I have been a resounding top and she a bottom. Last week, while myself and the missus were having a little "randy" time, things suddenly were different. It wasn't that I relinquished my role as a top, but my wife had suddenly jumped right into being a top as well. To say the least, it not only surprised me, but actually kind of made the experience "less" for me. I attributed this sudden blip on the radar to a couple of things.

 

1) In the times we have been together over the years, both of our sexual roles have been satisfactory to us, and I know this because we have talked about it and revisited it from time to time. When this happens right in the moment, it was just so different from the person that I have become extremely comfortable with in bed and to have it flip up like that almost made it as if it wasn't my wife.

 

2) In recent swinging experiences, I believe that the person she has been with has placed her in a more top role, either by her choosing or something that just occurred naturally with that person. Therefore, she had become semi-comfortable with it and then "sprung" it on me.

 

Question here: In situations like this, if a semi-change or even drastic turnabouts take place like I observed, wouldn't you think it be prudent to discuss it before the act? While I can see the advantage of it being spontaneous, because of that entrenched comfort level I had and was happy with, I really think that the way she did it really had not a chance of "ending up good".

 

Also, in situations where in swinging your SO may have played a different top/bottom role or even just changed some different ways of doing things, etc., what is your expectation as to how that affects things between you and the SO's experiences together? Do you expect for that person to come back and do everything that they have learned or did with their swing mate? Do you feel that it's hard to possibly emulate the same type of behavior because of the simple differences in the people you are with? Do you find yourself maybe being a little different in the sexual experiences with others as well?

 

All of these types of questions were raised in my mind....Interested in your thoughts!

 

Tim

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I can definately go either way and it really depends on my mood and the mood of who I'm with. I wouldn't say that I totally decide or that they tell me which one to be.

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I - Lord B - am generally switch, and vary in what I want from encounter to encounter. With someone new, I usually experience a desire to be dominant (what was that you were saying about alpha male behaviour, Spoo?), but with familiar partners, sometimes the urge to be more passive surfaces.

 

Like me, Lady B seems able to trade roles back and forth, though given the way she especially relishes those 'being taken' moments, she should really be considered a 'bottom'. However, she does excercise her right to be 'top' when she feels suitably inclined!

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We're totally not shy about wrestling somebody to the ground in business and raping their money out of them. It's only in bed that we're pushovers.

 

:rofl:

 

Okay - that tickled me...

 

But - to answer your question, in life and business I am a classic non-conformist (read: unpromotable). I am neither "top" or "bottom" - though I think I have a rather strong personality that is humorous and problem solving... I'm not the "salesman" type... I can sell anything, but I would never make a living at it... And if you are in business, you know the kind of guy I am talking about.

 

But - in our relationship, I think that we are both pleasers of each other, but she is much more so than me. So - I tend to make "final" decisions after we've talked about it... In other words, "Okay - then we're going to Logan's"... That after we've both asked "what are you hungry for?" for about an hour...

 

You would likely not see my "top" side if we were all out socially, because Mrs Spoomonkey and I get along so well and have never had an arguement. But - on the other hand, I am the kind of husband who can put his foot down when it needs to be put down. That sounds like a bad thing... But it really isn't in practice. We are equals in everything - except of course for giving head... She's great at that and I just don't...

 

:D

 

She is the brains behind the Spoomonkey franchise, though. Usually when I have to say, "this is what we are doing" it is because she has convinced me before convincing herself...

 

Spoomonkey

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I decided to answer, "I am a "switch". But you need to tell me which one you want.", but after I did, I realized that actually makes me a 'bottom'. Interesting poll!

 

B

 

You're the only one that has caught this so far...

 

Tricky little monkey, aren't I?

 

;)

 

I think it is interesting that 1/3 of those who have voted consider themselves tops - and have a bottom as their partner. It tells you a lot (theoretically) about who is the most involved in the boards... The "top" in a couple may have more of a desire to understand the intricacies of the lifestyle and help guide the couple's involvement... Or it could just mean that the "top" in the couple is the most likely to vocalize their thoughts and opinions...

 

It is not a fleshed out poll - but the trend is interesting...

 

I am also pretty grateful that only one person thinks I'm an idiot...

 

That is surprisingly low!

 

Spoomonkey

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Question here: In situations like this, if a semi-change or even drastic turnabouts take place like I observed, wouldn't you think it be prudent to discuss it before the act? While I can see the advantage of it being spontaneous, because of that entrenched comfort level I had and was happy with, I really think that the way she did it really had not a chance of "ending up good".

 

Wow! Deep stuff... My thinking on this is that it is hard to say whether it should have been talked about before or not... Reason being - it is already done. I am sure that the two of you have been debriefing about it - and that is the best thing to do.

 

You can't really expect for her to have known how you would respond. She took a risk and it backfired a bit. But - where there are no risks, there are no real successes.

 

Talking about it before hand may have sterilized it - for her. It may have made it easier for you, but it may have taken away the "reality" for her and made her feel like she was putting on a show and not really taking the lead...

 

I applaude her courage in taking that risk.

 

Also, in situations where in swinging your SO may have played a different top/bottom role or even just changed some different ways of doing things, etc., what is your expectation as to how that affects things between you and the SO's experiences together? Do you expect for that person to come back and do everything that they have learned or did with their swing mate? Do you feel that it's hard to possibly emulate the same type of behavior because of the simple differences in the people you are with? Do you find yourself maybe being a little different in the sexual experiences with others as well?

 

I think the variety that we experience in swinging allows both of us to give each other a fuller sexual experience when it is just the two of us. It is kind of like the sum of all of our experiences come together to make for one incredible one...

 

Mrs Spoomonkey is a little bit of a ring leader in encounters, which has been a surprise to me. But, I don't expect that same sort of "harbor master" attitude in our bedroom. It is not that it isn't her - or that it isn't me... It isn't "us". Does that make sense? I think when we swing we tend to be - or have become with experience - a more dominant couple. But together, our roles are still pretty sharply defined.

 

As for "do I expect for her to come back and do everything" - absolutely yes - and absolutely no... For example, we don't do anal together. Mrs Spoomonkey is fascinated by it, but it isn't something we can do without difficulty. Because of that - I expect that we'll not do anal with our playmates. If she does - then I would expect to be next in line... If that makes sense.

 

But - I also am a realist. You cannot recreate swinging in the bedroom when it is just the two of you. I want her to be able to let loose and enjoy the experience without worrying about me. There is so much concern flowing between both of us that I don't worry about it, but all the same, I want her to have her experience and not really worry about such things... As long as we play within the boundaries that we have agreed upon, I want for both of us to let loose. And I am not thinking about "equal time."

 

As for your last question - I am much less aggressive with our playmates. In fact, I am a bit on the timid side of "very respectful". I think this comes from our experience with our first couple. She was very eager, but I could tell by watching her with her husband that she wasn't quite ready for me. Mrs Spoomonkey agreed. We frankly thought I might kill her... :D

 

That sounds braggodocious - but it isn't meant to be. I mean, my aggressive style compared to her incredible sensitivity in certain spots and her husbands extremely "laid back" approach were likely to be something that she wasn't used to... And I didn't think that she'd enjoy herself...

 

So - I tend to play slow until I know what our partners are comfortable with. The "alpha monkey" stays in his cage with other couples.

 

Spoomonkey

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I am also pretty grateful that only one person thinks I'm an idiot...

 

That is surprisingly low!

 

Spoomonkey

I came so close to selecting that answer, as did others I'm sure. :D

 

Most of us just love you too much to hurt your feelings Spoo. :kissface:

 

LM

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I came so close to selecting that answer, as did others I'm sure. :D

 

Most of us just love you too much to hurt your feelings Spoo. :kissface:

 

I appreciate you not picking on such an "easy target" such as myself...

 

;)

 

Spoomonkey

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Tricky little monkey, aren't I?

 

I am also pretty grateful that only one person thinks I'm an idiot...

 

That is surprisingly low!

 

Spoomonkey

 

I thought you were being tricky in not letting us pick more than one. I mean, if we want to answer the question, we can't very well pick the idiot one, can we? Of course, I'm sure you allready know, but I never would have picked that one anyway. But, I'll have to admit you may have got some votes from those of us that just couldn't resist, sort of an irresistable traget of opportunity. :D

 

I'm a top because in our house we always do things Mrs. way, except when we disagree, then we usually do it my way.

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I thought you were being tricky in not letting us pick more than one.

 

My ego couldn't take multiple choice with "you're an idiot" being an option... I'd be drinking gas right now if I'd done that :D

 

Spoomonkey

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Mr. is the top and I am the bottom. That's not saying that I don't get to enjoy being dominate if the moods suits me but generally I prefer being "taken" like those old romantic movies.

 

In our normal life the same holds true too. I think alot of this has to due with working in a business together. The biggest killer of family businesses is more than one boss. Someone has to take the lead. We discuss everything until we agree or agree to disagree and then Mr. takes the responsibility and I get to say "told ya" once in a while.

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Mr. is the top and I am the bottom. That's not saying that I don't get to enjoy being dominate if the moods suits me but generally I prefer being "taken" like those old romantic movies.

 

EXACTLY!!! Fun occasionally to be the dominate one but oh, being "taken" Mmmmmmm facelick

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

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Welp, looks like I'm the only one who made the "sweet Oreo" middle choice for myself.

 

I think that probably with most couples there is a bit of taking turns in the roles, depending on one's area of expertise. For instance, I am the one who writes the checks and pays the bills. But I don't think I should be in control of the purse strings because of that. That would put me in too much of a "Mommy" role, and that isn't one I think is productive for a good relationship. For major expenditures, we do a lot of discussion until we find agreement.

 

I'm wondering ....

 

In relationships where both are tops, is there a lot of jockeying for position, figuratively speaking? Do both find it imperative to feel they have "ruled"?

 

In relationships where both are bottoms, does the communication suffer from it - with neither wanting to foist themself upon the other?

 

Not judging here - really just curious and asking.

 

I guess the questions come from the opinion I hold that most of us are a combination of traits that mean we are sometimes tops and sometimes bottoms. I have met a few in my life that were definitely almost totally one or the other, but I think the majority of us fit into a mid-road equitable role with our partners. Am I naive in thinking this?

 

WR ;)

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Hi Mr. S. I'd be sruprised if you will get a definitive result from your survey. But I realize that's not really the point anyway. It's a good way to get ppl to do a little navel gazing and maybe realize a little more about themselves. And it makes for interesting discussion. As for me, I'm with Julie. It depends entirely on mood, atmosphere and circumstance. That way it becomes an activity that has the potential to be amazing for both you and your partner/s.

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I am a switch and I determine which one I am which makes me a true top.

 

I thought the gay term was pitcher or catcher?

 

I also thought this would be a poll about getting it either from the top or the bottom.

 

Man... I have a lot to learn!

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depends on my mood but I usually like the woman on top....i like dominate women who can take serious control and be on top! Be really rough!!!! :hahaha:

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I would have to say that we are 50/50, it really depends on how the wife(Beauty) or I feel. I don't really have a set way I do anything, nor does the wife, we love to try everything, so it does involve swapping roles alot.

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I'm definite bottom and he's top. We're exploring D/s at the same time as swinging together and finding we love it. We live a pretty much 24/7 relationship butwith flexibility.

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I am going to say that I didnt understand the poll so I voted other But I now that I know what your talking about I say Bottom I can be agressive with my partner but Usually its him that tells me what he likes and what he wants me to do, He also does what I want and Like but I dont have to tell him

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mr is definitely a bottom. After our swinging experiences we realized that I am more aggressive in bed and highly sexed and somehow that translated to our real life also. Now mr wont do anything without my permission.

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Hmm. I think Mr. has more experience as the dominant personality, and he's much more comfortable in a position of authority, but I think with some development, I could definitely be a Domme. I rarely exercise it (probably because I'm not quite ready to explore it), but I really do enjoy shocking and discomfiting people. Knocking them somewhat off balance. Ever so subtly. I just love the reaction. I've noticed a bit of the Cougar in me emerging as I work around endearingly naiive university students all the time (no offense folks!). I like dressing sexy for the office and tormenting my poor office-mate. Nothing outrageous mind you, as I have no intention of appearing inappropriate. This is just the way I dress (halo appears over my head). Can I help it if their minds wander? :hahaha:

 

Another indication, I suppose, is this wonderful reaction I have to bad-ass 'alpha males' strutting and posturing. I feel positively predatory, like a cat toying with a mouse. And all I can think is, "SOMEbody needs his ass spanked!"

 

EDIT>> Here's an interesting link for any women toying with the idea of exploring domination:

http://www.akashaweb.com/forwomen.html

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M and I both switch it up. Moods tend to lead us too.

We both love having what you want when you want it but we also love just being took too. So 50/50 here.

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Very interesting poll, Spoo !!

 

I like the term "topping from the bottom"... aka I like to be the sub, but I tell the Dom what to do to me... I like the sub physical role, but the dominant mental role... go figure !!

 

I own an accounting business, so I am the boss there, and have the power (?) so at home, I like the submissive role, but I still like having the power, I suppose.

 

Mr Jeep has hinted that he would like me to be more physically aggressive, and I just feel foolish - and cant do it...

 

V

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Nice one Spoo!!

Initially, I responded with me being top and Mrs T being bottom, as normally this is the case........by default I guess. Let me explain...... I don't mind being mildly directed to do things to my playmate.......my technical career means I think too much all day long, I don't necessarily want to think in the bed, but I am very creative with fantasies, ideas, etc, so it all kinda works. Mrs is VERY much in control, independent, etc all day long, so she wants no part of being in control in bed. Soooooo, as is my personality, I see a need, I fill it. Someone needed to be in control, hence the "by default". Mrs is getting better at being submissive, yet telling me what she wants.

Did anyone follow that? :confused:

Anyway, my 2 pennies.

 

Mr. Twofer

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I have always been bottom. Thinking about it now, I guess it could be called bordom rather then bottom. :( Dog changed my out look on sex. Dog can take and reliquish the top role easily. For the first time in my life I feel comfortable letting my guy know what I want. Dog has opened my eyes to alot, and I have now started to look into things myself. I have learnt a few tricks that he didn't know about :D . It is fun to pull something new out of your sleeve. So I guess I am bottom by nature who likes to play top once in awhile.

Your friend,

Prettylady :kissface:

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I think it is interesting that 1/3 of those who have voted consider themselves tops - and have a bottom as their partner. It tells you a lot (theoretically) about who is the most involved in the boards... The "top" in a couple may have more of a desire to understand the intricacies of the lifestyle and help guide the couple's involvement... Or it could just mean that the "top" in the couple is the most likely to vocalize their thoughts and opinions...

 

In this sense, the communicating, I guess I would be the top in our relationship. I think I DO have more of a desire to understand the intricacies of the lifestyle.

 

I voted myself Oreo middle. In bed, I can go either way, but prefer equal back-and-forth sexually rather than a true top or bottom. I'm totally not into D/s, in either role - except for the occasional "game", based on the mood of the moment. If I had to choose, I'd rather my hubby be more dominant sexually than me.

 

I sense that he'd rather be more passive in bed more often, but I'm not interested in a passive sexual partner for the most part. I don't want to be in charge, especially in bed.

 

I'm bi in the right circumstances, but I don't enjoy bi-passive women at all.

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I am definately a bottom with a beautiful and dominant wife who makes sure that I am sexually well cared for. Jealousy and humiliation are ::P: always just around the corner but love and excitement is the order of the day.

 

Alex the Younger1

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I agree with driveajeepnaked - I "top from the bottom". I like to let my man make all the moves, but I like to direct - sometimes clearly and verbally, sometimes in a "hotter, colder" way with body language, moans, etc. I'm not a big fan of straight domination - I like to see my partner being creative, and if I'm the dom, then I have to be creative instead.

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i (female half) am a bottom..kinda like the little control but not to much of it...he would like me to be a top...but since i dont like the top to much he gets it...and even if i became a top it would end up switching because i love it when he takes control..and he does it so well

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Mr. Spoo, the Gator half of our couple says I have control issues. And he is right. I used to fight losing control to the extend I didn't enjoy (get the most possible) out of sex. Being the remarkable man he is, he made it a mission to correct that "flaw" (my term). His correction has been the best thing that could have happened for our sex life. It boiled down to trust and I realized I wasn't giving that to him. Once I did, our whole relationship grew by leaps. Now, I have no problems being his bottom. Great rewards come with the position. Control is actually one of the things that lead to our swinging. He likes to see me lose control. Likes to see me that pleasured. So, we have only had MFM thresomes so far. (Though we have a couple we are going to be meeting with as soon as our schedules permit.) So, this was his fantasy. I guess he figures 4 hands, two mouths and all would be harder for me to resist. And I really have found great pleasure in giving him, and to some extent the men we've been with, the things they want. I know he won't let anything be asked of me that I would find uncomfortable (though he will gently push against my boundaries). Yeah, my man does seem to know me. At times better than I know myself.

 

Congratulation in doing your first poll. I have enjoyed this board very much since we found it. I like your posts. And you know your reaction to our screen name made my day.

Vol

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In our relationship I am more the bottom...there has only been a few times that the role has been reversed and that suits me just fine.

 

With one of my playmates though, I am definitely the top.

 

So my answer was that I am the bottom with my SO, because I really don't consider myself a switch.

 

Maria :kissface:

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Hmmm, I didn't vote because I don't think I'm any of the above, err all of the above,lol Just depends on who I'm with and what needs to take place ;) With my SO I'm definatly a bottom however, but with different playmates it can go anyway,lol.

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I do like mrs. randies' to take the top sometimes for a change. She prefers to be on the bottom. Says she gets more pleasure that way, I am all about giving her as much pleasure as I can!!!

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    • By NCcurious1
      Anyone remember Craigslist Casual encounters?   It was early 2000s when Craigslist Casual Encounters was the go-to cruising spot for swinging couples, cuckolds and the bi-curious.  It was also the go-to for many flakes, and it was rare occasion when CL paid off (less than 6 times). That still did not discourage me to check MW4M listings regularly, looking for that unicorn swinging couple.  
       
      One particular couple from Florida posted blurry nude pics of them standing with arms around each other and wrote "We are a married white couple looking for an  erotic experience with a well-hung, fit, dominant male.  Diana is 38, Dave is 40, both bicurious and submissive.    We are real, discreet and very selective, we expect the same from you. In order to be considered, please send nude pics and propose a DETAILED scenario.   Finalists will be asked to interview on cam chat, where we will get to know you better."
       
      I was on business travel staying in a hotel and took a few pics standing naked in front of the hotel mirror, shaved cock in various states of arousal. I attached them to a message that read.  "Nice to meet you, Tommy here.  I normally only provide nude pics when I receive them first, but will make an exception for you two since I like your attitude.  As you can see, I am a well equipped stud with an 8" baby-maker and gym built body." 
       
      "The scenario I propose is for you both to be my personal sex slaves.  This will entail following instructions first through pic exchanges, then on camera, then in my hotel room if you both prove to be worthy.   With that, I want you to both immediately shave your pubic region into a landing strips, then sent me pics with a sign in your hand saying 'for Tommy'. Diana, I want you to pull your panties down to your knees and Dave I want you fully nude and to provide a frontal with Diana standing behind you pinching a nipple with one hand and holding a finger into his lips."
       
      I clicked send and poured myself a whiskey, kicking myself a little for being so forceful with my demands.  But it was the "submissive" keyword that gave me hope this was what they wanted.
       
      Within 30 minutes a reply came in with two pictures attached.  The first was Diana in a red bikini top and bottoms pulled down to her knees.  A cropped red bush extending from clit to just under her navel.  I could see her nipples were rock hard and knew she was excited as she was arching her back slightly.  Her face was slightly blurred out but I could tell she was very attractive, with blonde hair in pigtails.    
       
      The second pic was of Dave standing with a cute semi, pubic hair buzzed and shaped just like Diana's.  He did have a hard swimmers body, and his cock was semi hard.   Diana was behind him hidden, but as I directed was pinching his nipple with her red fingernail polish with one hand and  the two fingers of the other hand stuck into his mouth as he sucked.     Wow, he did it!  I guess the ball is in my court now
       
      I drafted up another email with a video cam chat link for them to join, reminding them they have 20 minutes to join otherwise I'd disappear forever.  I stripped nude and put on a white terrycloth robe that the hotel leaves for guests, leaving it slightly open so that I could have full access to my cock on display if they showed up.
       
      Within 10 minutes I hear a video call coming in and accept. The video was not yet turned on which gave me a chance to give their first instructions. "Hello, Dave and Diana, you both look very sexy and I love that you were compliant.  I want to hear your voices first, so please introduce yourselves and tell you what want from this."
       
      Dave introduced himself in a nervous voice, saying that both he and Diana are very excited to please me.  Diana then introduced herself and suggested they should be spanked for all of the dirty talk they had after seeing my pic.
       
      "OK, it's video time.   Turn it on!"  The camera came into focus with them both kneeling on their bed wearing exactly what I told them.  
       
      "Dave, pull Diana's tits out of her bikini top."
       
      He moves behind her and lifts the bikini tip up, her milky tits and big nipples spilling out.  
       
      "Now Dave, take off her bikini bottoms and stand her up so I can check her out better."
       
      Dave takes off her silky and places them on the bed, grabbing the phone that they are filming with.  Diana stands up and turns to wiggle her ass in the camera while Dave films.  
       
      "Dave, spank her ass hard."  
       
      She gives a little aroused shriek as I hear a crisp slap on her ample buttocks.  He gives hear a few more swats until her shrieks turn into moans and her ass turns pink.
       
      "Now Diana, turn and hold your tits in both hands, try to suck your own nipples."
       
      Diana does as she is told, holding her breasts and licking each nipple one at a time.
       
      "Very good, now Diana take the camera and film Dave."
       
      I noticed Dave's nipples were as hard as Diana's and asked him why?  
       
      "Um, well it's a little cold in here and I'm quite aroused," he stammered. 
       
      "Well, I want you comfortable, so go ahead and  put on Diana's bikini and see if that helps."
       
      I hear him and Diana both gasp and hesitate.
       
      "Dave, you already shaved your pubes it looks like you have a pussy.  NOW get dressed!"
       
      Dave still had the red bikini bottoms in his hands and fumbled for a minute to find the waistband and slip them on.  Diana reached behind and untied her bikini top, then helped Dave get it on.  Just before I asked Diana pulled the bottoms up hard, giving him a power wedgie that left him looking like he was wearing a thong.
       
      "Wow, you look like a super hot sissy Dave.  Do you feel feminine?"
       
      "Yes sir I do". 
       
      "Well then lay on your back and masturbate as if you were Diana.  Do it just like Diana does."
       
      Dave lays back and shoves his hand down the front if the panties simulating rubbing a clit and fingering a pussy.  His other hand twists and pinches his nipple.
       
      "Diana, put two fingers in his mouth and tell him to suck my cock."
       
      Diana smiles with a devilish grin and does exactly that. "Suck Tommy's cock honey while I watch."
       
      Dave is breathing hard and drooling on her finger... mouth making satisfied sounds as he sucks.
       
      "Okay, that's great. For the final video I want Diana to sit on your face Dave as she faces the camera and talks to me."
       
      Dave lays back and Diana eagerly lowers her pussy on his face... Her tits are swinging back and forth and nipples rock hard as she moans and wiggles.
       
      "That's right, eat that wet pussy good Dave.  Lick her tight ass too while you are down there."
       
      Within five minutes Diana is moaning with orgasm, looking right at me, tits shaking.
       
      "Wow, that was hot!  OK now both of you stand up and face the camera. I don't like to see anyone not get off, so Diana I want you to jerk your husband off keeping his cock in those panties. Make him cum in them and then both of you go to bed just like that.  NO fucking or other sex, tomorrow we meet in person."
       
      Diana gets on her knees in front of him and engulfs his panty-clad cock in her mouth.  He moans and holds her head, bucking as she coaxes the cum out of his cock staining the panties.
       
      "Excellent, you two pass.  Go to sleep and tomorrow we will plan the next phase."
       
      They both look surprised and a little disappointed that it is over.  I kiss them both good bye and promise to contact them in the morning.
       
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      Let me know if you like this story and whether I should write part 2!
       
       
       
       
       
       
       
    • By Maturecouple1122
      When my wife and I first started in the lifestyle, we had some hard rules.  One of which was no solo playing.  Six months and three BBC adventures later, she decided that the “no solo” play rule was nonsense and asked, more like begged, to be able to play alone five miles away. She was off for summer break.  Since I was working 30 miles away and she was home alone all day, I relented.
       
      About a week later, I came home from work and she was waiting for me in stilettos and a flowing summer dress sans underwear.  The dress was a halter type with a slit all the way past her thigh.  She also had the tell-tale twinkle in her eye that she usually gets after she climaxes.  Since she usually wears jeans and t-shirts during the day, I knew something was up.  She had a cocktail already made for me and an appetizer tray.  I was impressed.
       
      She led me to the living room sofa and when she sat down, her dress fell open and I could clearly see her bare pussy and one of her nipples.  Now I knew something great was about to happen.  I asked her how her day went and what was the reason for the seduction.  She then said, “I had a great day!”  Then she proceeded to tell me in detail what happened.
       
      Her BBC friend DJ came by on his tri-wheeled motorcycle to take her for a ride.  She was wearing a very short maroon skirt with a yellow sheer top.  She had a g-string but no bra.  She was not expecting a motorcycle ride.  He handed her a helmet and off they went.  Since she was in a short skirt, her pussy rubbed directly on the seat as they cruised.  The g-string enhanced he friction from the motorcycle vibration on the seat.  She nearly came from the ride itself.   After they returned to the house, she invited DJ in for some refreshments.
       
      Refreshments were quickly consumed and she led him to the bedroom where he helped her remove blouse and skirt.   As she dropped her g-string, her pussy stains were quite evident.  
      My wife is usually not very submissive. But for some reason, she enjoys when DJ dominates her and she tries things with him she never lets me or anybody else do.
       
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      Next, he made her lay on her stomach with a pillow under her waist.  He then proceeded to flog her ass, thighs, and cunt lips with a leather flog.  She always said she didn’t care for BDSM activities but here she was, laying on her stomach with a cum load in her pussy, one in her belly, getting her genitals flogged by a stranger.  The more he flogged her cunt, the more she squirmed and moaned until she actually orgasmed.   
       
      She then felt cool coconut oil being rubbed on and in her sphincter.  She told me him was too big but he didn’t listen.  He then grabbed her by the hips and pushed his beer can cock into her ass.   After an initial painful gasp, she finally became accustomed to his cock in her ass and actually started fucking him.  When she grants me the rare opportunity to fuck her ass, she begs me to go fast so I cum quickly and finish.  Given DJ had already cum twice, there was no rushing him.  He pounded her ass for at 10 or more minutes until he came the third time.
       
      As she lay exhausted, DJ dressed and kissed her goodbye.  I came home about an hour later.
       
      As she related her experiences that day she noticed I was visibly aroused and decided it was my turn to have fun.  We went into the bedroom and I started to licking her all over.  While the shower she took after DJ left cleaned out her pussy, it didn't quite get all of his cum out of her ass.  I tasted another man’s cum for the first time in my life.  For some reason, she now enjoys an occasional flogging and ass fucking from me.                         
    • By Blackwolf
      The wife told me she fucked a boss from another city.
       
      She met him for drinks like I instructed her to wearing her shortest skirt and a tight shirt with her beautiful tits pouring out of her top. They had a few drinks together and he was flirty of course, touching her legs or arms frequently. She said she opened her legs a bit and looked down signaling him that she had no panties on. His fingers wandered down to the entry of her pussy and he was running his fingers up and down her sexy slit. Then he slid a finger inside of her and scooted closer to her since they were still at the bar, fingered her for a few minutes, and then put his finger in his mouth and tasted her. I’m guessing he liked what he tasted because he gave her the second key card to his room.

      About 15 minutes later she met him in his room. As soon as she entered his door he started kissing her - and had an aggressive tongue. He took off her top and sucked her massive tits! Then pushed on her shoulders until she was in front of his cock. He told her to unzip him.

      She unzipped his slacks and according to her his BBC fell out of his zipper almost on her lips! She said he was about 10 inches and his BBC was very black and veiny.
       
      He put his cock in her mouth and sucked him until he came all down her throat. Then he told her to go to the edge of the bed. She was doggie style. He flipped up her skirt and started eating her ass and pussy from behind. She squirted on his face and that turned him on more.
       
      He took the tip of his cock and lined it up to her pussy. Then she said without warning he drove his cock in her tight pussy all the way to his balls in one motion. She said it was painful and she yelped/moaned, but he didn’t let up at all! He pulled her hair from behind and shot a torrent of cum deep in her pussy. He zipped up his slacks told her she was a good slut and said: “Get out whore. I need to sleep!!"
    • By Blackwolf
      About 5 years ago I did this to my wife. She loves to be tied down and left in the room - blindfolded. I would come in and tease her and she wouldn’t know when or if I would be back. The anticipation of it all was what got her wet and horny.
       
      The time I’m referring to, I left her for about an hour- called up two buddies and had them come by - told them not to ring the door bell which they didn’t. I came back into the room and had her suck my cock- actually I made her gag on it. Then I slapped her face and told her she was a good slut - I didn’t cum, wanted her to want it more. I left the room and my buddy walked past me and put his cock in her mouth. I was watching from the doorway and I believe she could tell it wasn’t mine but she sucked it like a pro.

      He pulled his cock from her mouth and came all over her face. He walked out the door and I signaled my bbc friend to enter the room. He’s about 10 inches, not as thick as mine though. He immediately went to her pussy and ate her pussy while fingering her asshole! Then took his long cock and slapped her clit with it several times - she gasped in excitement. He placed the tip of his cock at her fat cameltoe pussy and slowly got it about 1/4 ways in - then rammed it home. He bottomed out!

      She screamed in pain and he covered her mouth with his hand. He then fucked her hard and fast for about 20 minutes before he looked to me and I nodded. He then filled her pussy with a massive load of hot cum! He pulled it out, put it in her mouth, and she cleaned him. He kissed her on the forehead and walked out the room. The guys gathered their things and left and thanked me for my slut wife.
       
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    • By StartingOver60
      I was out of town, and I called an old friend Gio who I had been with a few times. I asked her if she was interested in getting together and she asked if I had permission. I told I did, and she was happy to get together. I asked her if she had a female friend who might join us, and she said no but she knows a couple that would be interested. I said great and we arranged to meet in a hotel we both have been to, and I told her I would meet them in the lobby bar a 6 PM.
       
      They entered the bar and I was quite surprised how attractive they all were. My friend introduced them to me. After intros I suggested we go up to the bar on the Concierge Bar. That was where I had a small suite. There was no one at the bar, we got a table and I asked what they wanted to drink. Everyone suggested tequila so I brought the half bottle of DJ on the bar shelf to the table. We had a great chat and laughs. We all got along great and Gio and Sam said they would like to go to the room. Alice said she wanted another drink, and we would be in shortly. I gave they one of my two keys and they were off.
       
      Alice said she wanted to talk to me. Her and Sam decided that he would be with Gio, and she would be with me. Alice told Sam he could not touch her or kiss her unless she initiates it. He said that would be fine. She said to me she was interested in putting on a hot show for Sam. She wanted to show him how hot she could be and how far she can go. He was beginning to show a diminished level of bringing her to new places. She said she wanted me to take her and be aggressive not mean but take charge and make her feel unsure where it was going. She would be accommodating to almost anything and wanted Sam to see that and she would be submissive. She said this was your lucky night. Are you ready she asked?
       
      Giving me this recipe for the evening could get out of control I said. I can handle anything you want and will respond accordingly.
       
      She said Gio told me you could be trusted on the extreme limits as she was blown away when she was in the room with you and your wife and her husband. She said it was one of her best nights. So, if I say NO that does not mean to stop. If I say STOP that means stop.
       
      OK got it, I am ready, but one more tequila.
       
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      After a couple minutes of finger play, I pulled our hands out of her wet vagina put our fingers on her lips and she began to lick them as did I. We licked our fingers clean. It was a beautiful tasting. I took off her panties and pushed her on the bed. She rested on her elbows, and I penetrated from behind. I pounded as hard as I could, and she fell forward, and I withdrew. She never once looked at her husband. I gently slapped her ass, she jumped a bit and asked for more. I slapped her again a few times and she climbed on the bed, laid her head on the pillow and as I climbed on top of her beautiful body, she repeatedly said fuck me, fuck me, fuck me hard. I took her legs and spread them as far as they would go, and I entered her wet pussy and pounded away. I was remembering each thrust.
       
      Gio and Sam got on the bed laid next to us and could feel the thrusting and energy we were generating. Sam was on his back and Gio climbed on him kissed him and then went down on him and started sucking him hard and deep. Sam was looking at us, Alice never looked at him. Alice stopped me as I was pounding her, and she switched positions climbing on top. She went at is as hard and as fast as she could. It was incredible with her husband watching. Gio climbed on Sam and both the women were on top going at it. Alice moaned “play with my ass, play with my ass, don’t stop." I massaged her beautiful ass until she came.
       
      When she slowed down, I moved my finger to insert it in her ass she said STOP. She leaned down and whispered, "isn’t that your shower time preference?" It seems Gio explained that anal sex in the shower is what we did privately when we would leave a room and head into the shower generally to clean up. If it was at all possible, I got even harder.
       
      I rolled Alice off to her side facing Sam and inserted my three fingers back into her soaking wet vagina. I then inserted another finger and gently my hand. This was a signal what was to come. I was giving an opportunity to say STOP. She moaned NO..NO! Knowing it was a go slowly I withdraw my hand and reinserted it with my fingers and thumb all touching the tips in an elongated shape. Gently I inserted my hand in her wet vagina and it appeared to be very smooth and slid in effortlessly. Once inside I slowly made a fist. She was moaning and moving around to feel the experience of my entire fist inside her. She was on her side facing Sam not sure if he was aware of what she was permitting to happen. Once my fist was in, she moaned loudly I slowly moved it in a circular motion, but she took over and directed her movement. At that moment I knew she loved it. Not sure if she ever let that happen before. When she slowed down, I believe she had cum. I slowly pulled my hand out and we both licked it clean, and I think that gave Sam an idea what had just happened.
       
      I then turned her completely over and I moved my knees up as far as I could just under the sides of her breasts. I thrust from behind with all the power I could and then I was ready to explode. As I pounded her, Sam, Gio and I could clearly hear her unadulterated moans. I think that was the message to Sam. I said I want to come on your tits. She said do it and put some on my lips. Sam heard the dialog as he laid there so close. Then Gio moved to sit on his face. I accommodated Alice’s request and shot my load on her and rubbed it all over her breasts and chest. I placed my still hard cock on her lips, and she licked it and sucked it as cum kept coming, directing it into her mouth. Sam was still watching.
       
      He turned Gio over and they went at it hard. His cum was all over Gio as well. They laid there watching. It seemed that both the ladies were enjoying the evening. I hoped Sam enjoyed watching his wife getting pleased.
       
      Alice and I laid there for a while then she softly stroked me and went down on me gently, she began sucking my cock. She is facing Sam now looking at him and then closed her eyes with my cock in her mouth and sucking me harder and harder. I began to get hard again and she suggested we go shower. I said I am ready to go again, she said I know.
       
      Sam and Gio started again with Sam going down on Gio again. He seemed to love her flavor and reactions to his performing oral on her.
       
      Alice and I got up, my erection standing proud, we headed to the shower. We got in the shower she began to soap me down and washing my cock began sucking it a bit and then turned around. She put her hands on the wall and bent over and I began fucking her again and it was incredible. She said take me and fuck my ass. I pulled out and put some liquid soap on my penis and gently enter her. She flinched a bit and moaned feeling a bit of pain but when I was all in, I asked if she was OK, and she said, "go for it I’m fine. Fuck me and come in me…. come in me hard…. go for it this is so fucking hot…you are great."
       
      I didn’t take long to come, and she said she loved it. She stayed resting in that position as I washed my penis. I then went back into her vagina again before I lost my erection.
       
      It was a great recipe she had planned, and I hope Sam will benefit from it. At least I hope he is OK with watching her performance. While in the bathroom she said she didn’t want to leave and if Sam is Ok with it could she stay until the morning. I said sure if Sam drives Gio home I can drive you in the morning. I said maybe it would be fun to ask Sam and Gio to stay so we could enjoy the four of us together? I told her I would think Sam would appreciate that request and I am sure he is ready to give you what you wanted to get from this encounter. For the record, I would love to have you and Gio at some point tonight with Sam joining in if he chooses. I said the invite for Sam and Gio would be better than sending them home and you staying here unless of course they want to go and be alone.
       
      When we entered the room Gio, and Sam were in bed next to each other. It was apparent they enjoyed their time together. I asked if they would like to stay over. Sam said he was ready to go home but thanks for the suggestion. Alice jumped in saying she would like to spend the night if that was OK. We could all stay and change things up and just have an open foursome free for all.
       
      There was a slow response to that suggestion, and it was determined that Sam wanted to leave. To break the ice Gio suggested she could spend the night if Sam wanted Alice to leave with him or Alice could stay as well. If nothing else she said to Sam, you could stay and watch a great show happen. I said to Sam why don’t you and Alice share sometime together and Gio and I will rekindle our friendship in bed next to you? Sam was determined to leave.
       
      I thanked Sam and Alice for indulging in this wonderful evening together and how much I appreciated it. A memory forever. When Sam left the room to go to the restroom Alice said to me any time you want to get together just call and she gave me her number. I said I would if Sam approves. I would love to have you and Gio together. She said that could happen and Gio smiled. Gio got up from the bed put the robe on and said can you drive me home in the morning? And do you have any gas left in you tank tonight? I smiled for you of course.
       
      Sam asked Alice to get dressed and thanked everyone for an incredible time. He went over to kiss Gio and Alice came over and kissed me goodbye. I said to Alice I hope the RECIPE works!! She smiled and said it worked for me!!!!
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