Perspective please

[Linzi 3]

Hi, my husband and I met at a swingers club and single people . We are now married and have a great life.  When we swing we are soft swap with my main love of girl on girl play which works for us .   However he has a love of ladies with large labia and making ladies squirt, of which he is one of the best. 

I am having insecurity issues because he always makes a beeline for ladies with large labia, this makes me feel inadequate as I'm neat without any inner labia showing .  He also us surrounded by ladies sqealing in pleasure when he makes them squirt.  I don't feel that I have a lot to offer and need a little reassurance that my bits are a turn on.  

Any comments on how to handle this would be most appreciated. 

 

Edited July 16, 2023 by Linzi

[Numex 2,409]

48 minutes ago, Linzi said:

he has a love of ladies with large labia and making ladies squirt

Good for you for letting him enjoy himself.

 

48 minutes ago, Linzi said:

he always makes a beeline for ladies with large labia, this makes me feel inadequate as I'm neat without any inner labia showing .

Both men and women swing to get variety, whatever it is that their spouse doesn't have or can't give them.  It's not a failure on your part.

 

50 minutes ago, Linzi said:

I don't feel that I have a lot to offer and need a little reassurance that my bits are a turn on.  

I can't believe that a "neat" woman like you isn't getting a lot of attention.  Concentrate on finding partners that like what you are and have some fun!

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Have you tried talking to him about this yet? He might not realize that he is doing this, and might not realize how it's making you feel. If nothing else, it sounds like you two could use some quality time talking about your rules and limits.

 

Also realize that just because he seems to be attracted to women that are 'different', from you, it could also just be that they are different from you which is why he is attracted to them...not that he likes or prefers women like that. Remember, even experienced, long term swingers can still benefit from checking in with each other.

[Linzi 3]

Thanks Both for your replies. We have spoken and he says he understands so let's hope we carry on Happy swinging x 

[Davdia 119]

On 7/16/2023 at 3:53 PM, Linzi said:

Hi, my husband and I met at a swingers club and single people . We are now married and have a great life.  When we swing we are soft swap with my main love of girl on girl play which works for us .   However he has a love of ladies with large labia and making ladies squirt, of which he is one of the best. 

I am having insecurity issues because he always makes a beeline for ladies with large labia, this makes me feel inadequate as I'm neat without any inner labia showing .  He also us surrounded by ladies sqealing in pleasure when he makes them squirt.  I don't feel that I have a lot to offer and need a little reassurance that my bits are a turn on.  

Any comments on how to handle this would be most appreciated. 

 

Just my take, swinging shouldn’t make you feel bad or inadequate…..if it does, stop.

Reevaluate as a couple and decide how you both can go ahead comfortably and confidently.

Both your priorities should be each other!

 

[couplers 4,619]

On 7/16/2023 at 1:53 PM, Linzi said:

When we swing we are soft swap

 

On 7/16/2023 at 1:53 PM, Linzi said:

making ladies squirt, of which he is one of the best

How does your husband do this?  Orally?  Digitally? 

 

On 7/16/2023 at 1:53 PM, Linzi said:

he always makes a beeline for ladies with large labia

On 7/16/2023 at 1:53 PM, Linzi said:

my main love of girl on girl play

Do you like large labia too?  My Lesbian desires always followed whatever woman my husband was with.  My jealousy, I guess.

 

On 7/16/2023 at 1:53 PM, Linzi said:

 

I am having insecurity issues ...  I don't feel that I have a lot to offer and need a little reassurance that my bits are a turn on.  

Besides your girl play, do you soft play with other men, like give blowjobs or let them finger and lick your pussy?

 

On 7/16/2023 at 1:53 PM, Linzi said:

Hi, my husband and I met at a swingers club and single people .

Just curious, did you full swap when you were single? 

[Numex 2,409]

On 7/17/2023 at 3:34 AM, Linzi said:

We have spoken and he says he understands so let's hope we carry on Happy swinging

Do you have an update?  Hopefully a good one.