NY Times recommends best vibrators

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

See the Wirecutter piece here:

https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-vibrators/

 

 

[couplers 4,718]

From the article, "Some toys with rechargeable batteries automatically shut off during use. If you don’t want to risk running out of power, consider a corded toy."

 

I don’t use a vibratior and am surprised that anyone would go that long and hard so as to need a 110 volt model.

[PeterJ 960]

3 hours ago, couplers said:

I don’t use a vibratior and am surprised that anyone would go that long and hard so as to need a 110 volt model.

Petra, I’m pleased for you that you orgasm so easily and without more stimulation than you or your partners can provide directly. Count yourself blessed.

 

On different occasions you have noted that compared with many other folks on this board, while you have a lot of sex, your number of partners is small. I’ve inferred that your professional background is scientific/technical so I know you would be leery of drawing conclusions based on a limited sample size.

 

I’ve been sexually active for sixty years and active in the lifestyle — including parties/orgies, with small and large groups, with couples together and with women alone in a private setting — for more than two decades. And while I cannot give you a specific number of women I’ve observed have orgasms, either as their partner or watching, it’s well over 100 individual women (sometimes one orgasm and sometimes more than a thousand).  My observation is that women’s responses to stimulation are all over the map. (And yes, I realize that the responses I’ve observed in large groups or with casual partners don’t necessarily accurately reflect how they are in private with a longterm partner.) On rare occasion at parties I have watched a woman masturbate with a corded wand-type vibe — perhaps orgasming once or twice but apparently bearing down hard while wishing to keep going for more — have overheated one corded vibe and continued with a second. 
 

I’m not aware of any surveys done specifically on this board, but here’s one from an organization that provides information to marketers:

 

https://www.statista.com/statistics/1305978/share-of-people-who-own-sex-toys-in-the-us-by-gender/#:~:text=Premium statistics-,Share of people who own sex,the U.S. 2022%2C by gender&text=According to the results of,respondents who stated the same.

 

If four out of five American women own sex toys I think it’s reasonable to assume (I wasn’t willing to spend money to get the breakdown by type0 there are than just a few who have a corded Hitachi-type wand and that they own a corded vibe, despite its inconveniences, for a reason.

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

Among our circles of vanilla and LS friends, you would be hard pressed to find a lady who does not have a toy or two. The topic is no longer taboo; rather, it is a topic for cocktail party (if not dinner table) conversation. Walmart and Amazon, "where America shops", have an enormous selection. 

 

Just yesterday, work-wife was extolling the pleasures of her newly acquired  clitoris-suction toy to wife-wife. To a degree of certainty, wife-wife will acquire one.

 

 

[ExploringOptions 185]

No one is more vanilla than my mom and guess what I found before I ever had sex? Her toys kept in a shoe bag. Talk about trauma. I used to check if the bag was moved to see if my mom was actually using them. Now every time I see a muscle vibrator, well I think you understand. There was one toy that had an everlasting effect on me, an oversized penis, not pink flesh color. Now I can’t get that thought out of my head, PTSD. 

It wasn’t much later I played with a real penis becoming a woman 🙄 So now I went to Mom’s toys, a simple cylinder vibe. 
My first vibrator was a purple penis run by batteries, my little Martian. Now I have to order a cordless Hitachi Wand and after reading another post, a Womanizer clitoral suction toy. 
I hate to say that a vibrator allows me to have a pretty good orgasm, there are no bad orgasms, in a matter of a minute or two. It is the fastest of all the ways I have orgasms. 
 

[Shore2Please 613]

10 hours ago, Fundamental Law said:

Among our circles of vanilla and LS friends, you would be hard pressed to find a lady who does not have a toy or two. The topic is no longer taboo; rather, it is a topic for cocktail party (if not dinner table) conversation. Walmart and Amazon, "where America shops", have an enormous selection. 

 

Just yesterday, work-wife was extolling the pleasures of her newly acquired  clitoris-suction toy to wife-wife. To a degree of certainty, wife-wife will acquire one.

 

 

The best recommendations I received were from the women I work with. I found out about that suction toy making it a now favorite for me. Another recommendation sounded horrible, in reality it is strange and is much different, an e-stim toy that causes shocks and muscle contractions which in turn stimulate to orgasm quicker. 

[couplers 4,718]

Thank you for your thoughtful response.  It seems that your are correct that my perspective is formed by my lack of numerical experience. 

20 hours ago, PeterJ said:

I have watched a woman masturbate with a corded wand-type vibe — perhaps orgasming once or twice but apparently bearing down hard while wishing to keep going for more — have overheated one corded vibe and continued with a second. 

It makes sense in that context.  I was originally thinking of a woman using a battery vibrator to achieve a first or perhaps second orgasm and thinking that it would take longer than the batteries would last.

 

I must admit as well that we woman have on occasion had long oral sessions in pursuit of a follow-up orgasm.  But still, I'm impressed that anyone would go that hard and long to achieve one more O instead of giving it a rest and going at it again later. 

 

 

Edited July 21, 2023 by couplers

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

12 hours ago, ExploringOptions said:

Now I have to order a cordless Hitachi Wand 
 

Compare the dimensions and mass (weight) of the Cordless Hitachi Wand with the Cordless Hitachi Wand Mini.  Mrs. FL prefers the latter for two reasons. First, it's a little lighter and easier for her to hold (she's petite and we are an 'older' couple, so that matters). Second, she/we find it easier to place directly on her (external) clitoris when we are doing penis-in-vagina intercourse, regardless of position. 

[ExploringOptions 185]

1 hour ago, Fundamental Law said:

Compare the dimensions and mass (weight) of the Cordless Hitachi Wand with the Cordless Hitachi Wand Mini.  Mrs. FL prefers the latter for two reasons. First, it's a little lighter and easier for her to hold (she's petite and we are an 'older' couple, so that matters). Second, she/we find it easier to place directly on her (external) clitoris when we are doing penis-in-vagina intercourse, regardless of position. 

Another reason to post here is a Millennial getting advice from more seasoned Baby Boomers and all in between.
We placed an order for a Magic Wand rechargeable because I read that it has more vibrations that are stronger which also scares me more. Wish I were able to test use them first, can I return a toy? 
Still going to order a Suction Clitoral toy which are smaller and I understand fun during intercourse. 
We are both going to enjoy the wand, he likes the vibration on him. 
What do you know about the e-stim? We both go to a chiropractor that put stims on our backs which I know you can get for home use. Searching for e-stim sex toys we found a few that are like a pen, just don’t know how safe they are. 
LOVE LOVE that seniors are still going at it. 🔥

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

3 minutes ago, ExploringOptions said:

Another reason to post here is a Millennial getting advice from more seasoned Baby Boomers and all in between.
We placed an order for a Magic Wand rechargeable because I read that it has more vibrations that are stronger which also scares me more. Wish I were able to test use them first, can I return a toy? 
Still going to order a Suction Clitoral toy which are smaller and I understand fun during intercourse. 
We are both going to enjoy the wand, he likes the vibration on him. 
What do you know about the e-stim? We both go to a chiropractor that put stims on our backs which I know you can get for home use. Searching for e-stim sex toys we found a few that are like a pen, just don’t know how safe they are. 
LOVE LOVE that seniors are still going at it. 🔥

1. Toys are likely not returnable if used. If there is a mechanical problem on receipt, of course. 

 

2. It's not just the strength of the vibrations, it's how you best position the head. Curvatures of the two heads is not the same. The smaller head and thus the tighter curvature makes it more natural to slide between Mrs. FL's labia at the top of the introitus against the exposed clitoris. Typically we'll start with some foreplay, I'll spend some time on cunnilingus (+/- 69), then she'll start with the Mini and enjoy three or four really strong orgasms, with my fingers or tongue assisting, and then we'll get on to the main event.  Two tips: 1. Lay in a supply of your favorite lube. Your consumption will go up. If you don't currently use a particular lube, happy to offer advice, but know that you will need lube  2. Between natural secretions and lube, things get ...messy...fairly quickly. We keep a bunch of Liberator throws around the house--we use them for sit-ons when nude and for play--and they are really useful ensuring that no one is resting or sleeping in a wet spot. See https://www.liberatorstore.com/fascinator-throw.html  .  We were the couple that talked them into making the "mini" size, which we find is perfect for a lot of our needs. 

 

3. There are a lot of eStim products out there. See the Aneros line for anorectal/prostate stimulators. It's a reliable line. We do not use them, but know couples that do. 

 

4. Re: "Seniors going at it". Seniorhood is a great time of life. First, seniors are generally happier and more content than middle aged folks. Second, seniors often have more time to themselves. Third, seniors are a lot less concerned with body image. Fourth, seniors long in the LS have generally gotten past the health traps and the relationship traps. Sex is seen as fun, healthy, exercise, antidepressant, socially connecting. And, as you point out, the world view has changed. It's no longer "Ewww, old people kissing (or fucking). "  Rather, it's "We want to be that couple, tell us how to get there!". 

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

On 7/20/2023 at 8:02 AM, couplers said:

I don’t use a vibratior and am surprised that anyone would go that long and hard so as to need a 110 volt model.

It really is a preference. My sister-in-law (Mrs. FL's sister) is perfectly content with her toys that run on AA batteries. Mrs. FL rolls her eyes at that. After all, we owned and had lots of fun with a Sybian some years ago. You'll get Mrs. FL's Rechargeable Cordless Hitachi Mini when you pry it out of her cold dead hand. 

 

As for using a vibrator in the first place, it's all a matter of preference. As a practical matter, Mrs. FL wants to be totally sated at the end of a sex session, which for her means at least 6 and often 10 orgasms.  I am grateful to the Hitachi folks...

 

[let's do it again 416]

About this time last year I was with a woman that had one of these clit suckers and I had never seen nor heard of these. She told me this was the best sex toy she had ever used, and she used to host these sex toy parties.  So she got naked and told me to get naked and sit in this chair. She laid on a nearby bed and went to work on her clit with this toy. She is very vocal anyway, but she screamed of passion when she came to orgasm. She put the toy aside and told me to fuck her as hard as I could. After we got done fucking, the bed was soaking wet. I was impressed with the results on her. WOW!

[couplers 4,718]

On 7/21/2023 at 11:16 AM, Fundamental Law said:

Mrs. FL wants to be totally sated at the end of a sex session, which for her means at least 6 and often 10 orgasms. 

I am impressed.  I can have ten orgasms in a day, but not in a row.  Three, four, or maybe five in one session, but even then after two it's after cuddling, switching partners, restarting.

 

Showing my naïveté again, but I must ask: is a Magic Wand inserted into the vagina, used on the clit, or either?  If I were to buy a powered toy, I would want one that stimulates me from the inside.  I get my best orgasms vaginally, but they are more variable than the one I get orally from having my clitoris stimulated.  

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

6 hours ago, couplers said:

Showing my naïveté again, but I must ask: is a Magic Wand inserted into the vagina, used on the clit, or either?

As we have often remarked, no question is too simplistic or awkward in the LS. Curiosity matters, and learning is part of the fun. 

 

Wand-type vibrators are meant to be used externally, not inserted into body cavities. There are two asterisks that need to be added, however...

 

1. There are plenty of porn videos showing the occasional woman with a "relaxed" vaginal passage inserting the head of these things. For the average woman, however, it's a definite "no". 

 

2. There are numerous aftermarket attachments that can be used with the classic (not mini) magic wand that are insertable. See, for example, these:

https://hitachimagic.com/product-category/magic-wand-attachments/

 

Regarding orgasm counts and so on. It's never a competition--it's only what a particular woman wants and is capable of.  We'll mention that when Bill Lampert invented and marketed the Sybian, it was originally intended as a training aid for ladies. Indeed, the original name of the Sybian was the "Master Better".  One of the things that Sybian does effectively is get ladies in touch with their responses, and their partners as well. It's not unusual for an experienced Sybian rider to move from crest to trough to another crest more or less continuously climaxing for as long they choose. We have observed a 30 min "more or less continuous" climax. Our experience was about 10 min less. That's a physiologic response, not intimacy. But it does give some sense of what is possible. 

 

 

[couplers 4,718]

15 hours ago, Fundamental Law said:

no question is too simplistic or awkward in the LS. Curiosity matters, and learning is part of the fun.

Thank you for the information.  This is an unexplored world for me, both hand tools and power tools.  Makes me a bit primitive, I suppose.  😊

[divenaked 325]

Many years ago, during a Thunder Beach bike rally in Panama City, FL, we ended up in a hotel room with 2 other couples. One of the other women had a cordless wand from Brookstone. Ms Dive fell in love with it. After returning home, one of first trips was to the Brookstone store to purchase one. Alas....Ms Dive is one of those people who can't remember to charge anything til it goes dead. Eventually it was replaced with a corded Magic Wand.

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

7 minutes ago, divenaked said:

Alas....Ms Dive is one of those people who can't remember to charge anything til it goes dead.

Had to smile.  We've gotten to the point that the wand is just one more device on the nightstand to be charged because it *will* be used again in the immediate future. Our offspring are long out of the house, and there's no reason to hide the sex toys. Or the lube.

 

If visitors happen to see them when they take a house tour, we don't care.

 

If they happen to be LS visitors, they might check to see that the charging light is green, not red. 

[PeterJ 960]

9 hours ago, divenaked said:

. Alas....Ms Dive is one of those people who can't remember to charge anything til it goes dead. Eventually it was replaced with a corded Magic Wand.

DN, your wife isn’t the only person for whom battery level might not be front of mind. As in your case mine was years ago. We had four cordless phones and my wife had a habit of not replacing the handsets in their charger-cradles. I once phoned her from a lengthy business trip. Our call ended prematurely after the last of the four handsets died. 🙄😂

 

Somehow we still have a landline, though I never use it and she seldom does. But in the era of "devices" she keeps her phone and iPad. Her vibe? No worries; she has a corded MagicWand (a gift to her from one of my lady play friends).

[ExploringOptions 185]

My vote is for Womanizer Pro my new best friend when alone or with my bestie husband. I can’t wait to share it with our friends when we see them. 
I wish it had a cordless recharge capability like our phones. It does have one benefit over my phone, it’s waterproof which I think my iPhone is even if I don’t want to risk drowning my phone. 

[ROCKlandCpl 452]

You don’t have to be a swinger to enjoy toys. Most if not all the women I know have at least one with most having several and most have no connection to swinging. 
Way before joining the lifestyle or having any thought of doing so and as far as I know none of our friends were involved in it we never talked about our private sex except as a punchline to a joke. Then one of our friends invited the women to a party of notions, lotions, potions, sexy lingerie and Sex Toys. The party started with an attractive party leader breaking the ice with talk of sexy creams, then warming lotions which we all passed around. We tasted lubes in all flavors which were also passed around. Some of the girls were quiet, some were having a great time. Then came the toys, different shapes,  sizes, some very realistic and many had vibrations or other moving parts. It was amazing how even the quiet friends started talking and laughing. She finished by showing some lingerie. 
The real fun was the purchases. 

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

On 7/27/2023 at 3:29 PM, ExploringOptions said:

My vote is for Womanizer Pro my new best friend when alone or with my bestie husband. I can’t wait to share it with our friends when we see them. 
I wish it had a cordless recharge capability like our phones. It does have one benefit over my phone, it’s waterproof which I think my iPhone is even if I don’t want to risk drowning my phone. 

Based on the NYT piece and some of the comments--public and private -- here, Mrs FL is the owner of a new Womanizer Classic 2. I have a trip away coming up in the near future, and that will be Mrs FL's time to see how she likes it. She likes to try toys out in private first to see what she likes about them and what works best for her. Not all make the grade (what does one do with toys that do not quite do what someone wants? Is there an orphan toy graveyard somewhere? ) 

 

Review will follow in due course. 

[ExploringOptions 185]

1 hour ago, Fundamental Law said:

She likes to try toys out in private first to see what she likes about them and what works best for her.

The Womanizer is perfect alone toy in a warm bath, music, candles with a glass of wine. I’m enjoying learning how to adjust the intensity to prolong the fun. 
Mr EO loves that I can use it with him as well orgasming in less than a minute in a way he is enjoying. Now I want to get the Womanizer Duo.  

[BillyandDebbie 301]

5 hours ago, Fundamental Law said:

Is there an orphan toy graveyard somewhere? ) 

The Island of Misfit Toys? Maybe the local Senior Center. 
Over the years Deb has worn out, used up or replaced that we just put in the recycling bin. Wonder what the recycling sorters do with it. 

[Numex 2,459]

My wife has a small, battery powered vibrator of a brand unknown to me, which she takes with her when traveling alone.  She also uses it on occasion when we are away from our lifestyle group.  She never uses it when men in our lifestyle group are available.  In contrast, the only time I masturbate is when I am out of town totally alone without wife or female lifestyle partners.  My conclusion: between the two of us, my wife and I, she can give me all of the sex that I can handle, while I am not enough for her.  That was my suspicion early on and my primary motivator for suggesting in the beginning that she, alone, start in the lifestyle.

 

Daniela is also proficient at hand masturbation, but prefers her vibrator.

[let's do it again 416]

9 hours ago, BillyandDebbie said:

The Island of Misfit Toys? Maybe the local Senior Center. 
Over the years Deb has worn out, used up or replaced that we just put in the recycling bin. Wonder what the recycling sorters do with it. 

Before I retired from my factory job, I would take my ex's toys that wouldn't work into the plant to have the electricians fix them. Many times all they would do is change out the switch.