Does Penis Size Really Matter to Women?

[akamgaxoxo 25]

I have searched and searched the archives here...and I have been wondering this for days now....does a man's penis size really matter to women?

 

For me personally, I do not care, I would prefer a medium to smaller cock size to get the job done...if ya'll know what I mean.

 

I know us women say that size does matter..to me it would matter if it was 3 inches or something like that! But I personally think it's the MOTION OF THE OCEAN that does it for me!

 

Also, when you choose a swinging partner, are you concerned about the size of his member? Do you tend to choose "hung" guys?

 

TTFN!!!

[Miss_Piggy 98]

There are numerous threads on this very topic.

 

Personally, I go with the thinking - size matters but it's not everything. Like you say, if it's 3 inches it might be a bit of a challenge. But really, I'm not too upset by a challenge. No I've never been with a 3 inch penis but I could see a guy having enough other assets to make me still interested in him. I'm in this for fun - not to waste time judging one specific part of a person's body. There are a lot of other factors that are of more importance to me (i.e. - personality, attraction, etc. etc.). Big dicks are appreciated but not necessary in my books.

[sensuality 2]

Well, I've -female member- been with anywhere from 6 inches on up to about 9 inches or so .The 9 incher...was painful during really deep penetration.I prefer the 6-7 inch myself And, for me, thickness is the key not so much length,however, I don't think any smaller than 5.5 for me

[sensuality 2]

P.S. And, he's gotta know how to work it

[eroticsensation 17]

ah......where do you start to measure? from the balls? where? anyone know the accurate method to measure the erect penis?

[mxdtxn774 17]

P.S. And, he's gotta know how to work it

I remember asking the question from the standpoint of confessed ignorance once. Just how does someone know how to "work it"? What would be a good suggested technique for working it properly? Once again I must feign ignorance in an attempt to gain the real answer to this phrase that I have heard many times over.

[mxdtxn774 17]

ah......where do you start to measure? from the balls? where? anyone know the accurate method to measure the erect penis?

 

You do not measure from the balls. I would say measure from the side of your penis not from the bottom or top. If you do it from the bottom, then the scrotum can cause a mismeasurement. If you do it from the top as is suggested, then the suspensory ligament that holds your penis up when erect can also cause a mismeasurement. Please note this is not an exact science, as I still can get various measurements depending on just how erect I was.

[stoutgatte 25]

Commonly accepted norm is from the line where the top of the penis meets the pubic bone to the tip... If it was from the bottom I'd have a MONSTER , but alas...

[sensuality 2]

I believe how a woman likes a man to "work it"' may be an individual thing,however, to me, working it is just that! Not just pumping up and down like he's plunging the toilet But, actually moving in circular motions, pumping at times...slowly and quickly {alternating...having really great rhythm} Almost like he's dancing In a very sexy, seductive manner!! Think lambada!!Or salsa dancing...yummmmm!! 

[akamgaxoxo 25]

Thanks all for the wonderful replies and links to other threads, as I just could not find them!! Still learning here!

 

Sensuality- I totally agree with the work it thing, though I do agree it is all on the woman's preference. I am like you, a guy cannot just go all gun ho and just plunge away like a toilet, or let it sit in there because he is too excited to perform, or even small movements....personally it has to be an in and out motion with slow and fast movements some hip action in there and teasing. JUST like Dancing can be!! FUN and YUMMY!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

For whatever reason the link miss_piggy provided didn't work for me, so I wanted to go ahead and post some direct links to some other threads on this topic.

 

Average guy asks does size really matter?

 

If Size doesn't matter what does?

 

Does size matter to the guys?

 

Does size really matter?

[Vespertine 31]

akamgaxoxo said:

Also, when you choose a swinging partner, are you concerned about the size of his member? Do you tend to choose "hung" guys?

No concern here. I like variety.

 

I'm more interested in a man's personality and his charisma than his dick size. I get turned on mentally. Penis size is irrelevant to me. Men don't have to have a large penis to be a good lover. I've known several men that were well endowed that couldn't please me and have had lovers who were size-challenged rock my world.

 

So, I don't choose "hung" guys. I choose guys that exude the right chemistry.

 

*plus, Mr. V's hung like Adonis- I'm not lacking at home!

[jim-n-nicole 15]

I know some women who shy away from larger members. There is only so much length they can take without discomfort. Now width, that rarely is a problem!

[EvilMJ 65]

mmm...I don't think it necessarily has to be a tonsil tickler to be enjoyable, however there was a guy in my past that wasn't so big. I spent the whole time we were having sex trying to determine if he actually had it in

 

Not so much fun

[leftcoastcouple 32]

I know I'm gonna catch hell for even asking this, even in a primarily rhetorical way, but as a guy who's slightly below average (but able to please Mrs. Leftcoast just fine, thank you very much), and having waded through several threads on this topic in the last year alone, I can't resist the urge:

 

Why are guys who are aren't blessed with huge penises stigmatized while women who've never done a Kegel in their lives but sorely in need of them free to point the finger the other way? It seems like a MAJOR double standard.

 

Small dick, bad; loose pussy, OK. Is that really how it is? Or are we just too politically correct as a society to insult a woman by calling a spade a spade and asking if the only reason she's a size queen is that she's as loose as a worn-out rubber band? Hell, men get ridiculed just for the sake of it, even if they don't complain about "loose" women!

 

A generalization, yes, but there's plenty of them about guys on the small side, so fair's fair, it seems. Discuss, please. I'm all ears (and the Mrs., petite thing she is who's got "nothing bigger than seven inches" in her list of "wants" in a play partner, is too!).

[jim-n-nicole 15]

lcc, When I read back through this thread it seems most women said size wasn't the most important factor and some even said long was painful.

 

I think size is a bigger issue with men than it is women. Being large actually has drawbacks - some women limit how deep they can be inserted and in what position they can be used. Takes a little away from the moment if you have to constantly worry if you're hurting her.

 

I'm not saying there aren't women who only want larger, there are. But in my experience they have not been the majority.

 

ps - in my previous post, I was not insinuating that width is not a problem because they are loose...just that the love canal will expand in that direction to accept various sizes. It is not as easily expanded for length.

[leftcoastcouple 32]

lcc, When I read back through this thread it seems most women said size wasn't the most important factor and some even said long was painful.

 

I think size is a bigger issue with men than it is women. Being large actually has drawbacks - some women limit how deep they can be inserted and in what position they can be used. Takes a little away from the moment if you have to constantly worry if you're hurting her.

 

I'm not saying there aren't women who only want larger, there are. But in my experience they have not been the majority.

 

Jim.

 

ps - in my previous post, I was not insinuating that width is not a problem because they are loose...just that the love canal will expand in that direction to accept various sizes. It is not as easily expanded for length.

Understood. I'm just talking stereotypes, and you can't deny it's a rampant one!

 

And, for every woman who'll worry that a large penis will "limit how deep they can be inserted and in what position they can be used," there's at least one (probably more) who'll argue that size IS an issue--just check the previous threads.

 

Basically, I was playing devil's advocate, partly in reaction to the appearance of yet another penis-size question (If it wasn't perceived as a problem, it wouldn't keep coming up!).

 

And the "loose" example was mine and mine alone, and my wait of baiting a related argument with the hope of stimulating debate over the point. I didn't mean to imply that anyone else had suggested it. And, I still think it's a valid point and question.

 

No malice intended, honest. Cheers, and happy Sunday.

[Vespertine 31]

And the "loose" example was mine and mine alone, and my wait of baiting a related argument with the hope of stimulating debate over the point.

 

Most women won't get into a debate of this nature.

 

You see, we're perfect creatures with no flaws. Our vaginas stay in a perpetual virginal state.

We have to worry about breast size, leftcoastcouple, so I think men and women are fairly matched in the "size" debate. Mayhaps women have it a little worse?-- Have you noticed the rise of breast implants? When men get penile extentions as often as women get breast implants maybe the debate would be more politically correct or evenly matched.

 

 

I'm just nibbling your bait.

[tina78 15]

I definitely prefer a larger guy...not gigantic, mind you, cause those hurt...but bigger and thicker is always better in my book. My partner (thank the Lord) is very well endowed - about 8" long and 6" around. I've been with guys who were shorter, but if they're at thick, that works just fine. The smallest I've been with, and I'm not kidding, was no more than 3" long and 3" around, and let me tell you - I couldn't feel a damned thing!

 

As I mentioned in my post about our first experience the other night, I really felt like I got the short-end of the stick, pun intended. With my partner being as large as he is, I've really gotten used to enjoying a good size and I knew the chick he was banging that night was feeling pretty good, seings how I was with her hubby and he was about 1/2 the size of my guy. Sorry guys, but I want a nice, big, thick dick...and at the next party we go to, I'm going to make sure that's what I get...there's gotta be a fair exchange next time, lol!

[St. Augustine 20]

Decided to put my 2 cents worth into this one! lol

 

Mike is average size. I on the other hand am pretty small and tight in the vaginal area. I have never delivered a child naturally, both my children were c-section. I am fortunate the Mike is a very sensual lover. He knows how to use his average sized equipment in all the right ways and gives me maximum pleasure and orgasms.

 

I sometimes think about if Mike are with another couple and the guy is well endowed that I'll freak and run from the room screaming. Cause as average sized as Mike is when he does deep penetration it hurts. All I can think of is what kind of pain will I feel if the guy is big! Do I have to have the guys get it hard and demonstrate to me how huge it is before we consent to being with the couple???

 

Cathy

[crestviewcpl2 15]

Hey leftcoast that was awesome, I love the fact that some think that they need bigger and thicker to feel anything. I find it very disconcerting to read, only men with 7 inch and thick need apply. Love to see someone write them back with a Kegel instruction manual attached and say, here honey you must need this. I've been with many different sizes and bigger doesn't mean better nor does it mean they can last, or please. I'll take a man who knows how to make me feel good in all ways than one who thinks just penetrating is the end all to end all. Big isn't bad, smaller isn't bad, its the lover that makes the difference and to exclude ANYONE over size, big or small isn't in the best interest of enjoying yourself. As a woman I hope my kegels help, but I do know more than one way to make a man feel satisfied so if one part isn't working I'll sure as hell use another.

[curiousagain 326]

Wow!! This keeps coming up (no pun intended). I would think women are by penis size sort of like men are like breast size. Everybody has their own preference and the shape is as if not more important than the size. Too much is well, too much. I have a friend that had that problem when dating. Over half the women that tried, couldn't even get it in. Some were terrified of it.

Makes you realize there can be too much of a good thing.

 

Yes, Virginia, vaginas are different. I am 7 length and a little over 6 circumference and have seen a couple of times I couldn't hardly get it in and have had a couple of times where I wasn't sure I had it in!! Some can take it in any position and some can only take it in certain positions. So, ya never know.

 

I did a google search and here are a few links, get a cup of coffee, sit back and have a few laughs.

 

Penis size: Survey of female perceptions of sexual satisfaction

 

Average Penis Size

 

http://www.sexinfo101.com/kb_penissize.shtml

 

http://www.average-penis-size-chart.com/

 

http://encyclopedia.thefreedictionary.com/Human+penis+size

 

http://www.sizesurvey.com/

 

http://penissizedebate.com/page40_ideal-penis-size.htm

 

http://penissizedebate.com/index.html

 

Play safe and play careful, it's a big world out there.

[Vespertine 31]

Yes, Virginia, vaginas are different.

Curiousagain

 

!!!

 

Oh that's too funny!

[PAyoungCPL 17]

I would say I'm average in everyway down there. about 6 and average width. nothing to brag about but then again cant wine to much after hearing about 3". Since i cant go buy an extra inch at walmart I have found other ways to ummm lets say improve current parts. (that would be great though, hi I want an extra inch and they just say aisle 12 by sporting goods.) So I made a little trip to the local piercing studio and got both mini me and my clit licker pierced. Both are great accessories for helping the ladies get the big O.

 

I would do anything for the extra inch or two though.

[robnbarb 40]

Well I will add to this.

 

When I wanted to approch the wife about the lifestyle, I got this idead that if I presented her with plenty of porn of well endowed men she would get horny and want to. To my surprize that did not work.

 

We discussed it later and came to the realization that penis size was my issue. My fantasy is to watch her get fucked by a realy well endowed man with both length and girth. She admits she is intimidated by a large cock.

 

Now does that mean size is an issue, not really. When we start choosing we won't make that a deal breaker. but the point is all this time I, the man, have had the size thing going on. No I am not gay or bi, I am quite straight. I just get turned on by the idea of her getting fucked by a big man who knows what he is doing (ie being gentle).

 

I myself am of adverage legnth and width, but know I statisfy her just fine.

 

I suppose my point here is to prove its more of a man's issue that a woman's.

[WesternSwing 504]

Vespertine said:

We have to worry about breast size, leftcoastcouple, so I think men and women are fairly matched in the "size" debate. Mayhaps women have it a little worse?-- Have you noticed the rise of breast implants? When men get penile extentions as often as women get breast implants maybe the debate would be more politically correct or evenly matched.

I personally don't think so. The size of a woman's breasts have nothing to do with the intensity of a man's orgasm. It has always been eluded to that a woman orgasms harder with a larger penis. True or not, that is what men are made to believe. Tits have nothing to do with direct sex organ stimulation like a penis stroking in and out of a pussy. Tits are a visual compared to a physical sensation. You hear some women talk about how they enjoy the feeling of being "filled up" by a large penis. You've never heard a guy say "Her tits were so huge I musta' cum a gallon!" You see in swingers ads "Don't respond unless 8" or more". You never see an ad reading "Must be D-cup or greater."

 

Some men might be initially more attracted to a woman with larger breasts, but when it gets down to the nitty gritty it doesn't make a difference on the quality of the experience.

 

leftcoastcouple said:

OK. Is that really how it is? Or are we just too politically correct as a society to insult a woman by calling a spade a spade

No, I think you're right. I commented on the same thing to my wife about a year ago. Just watch FOX and all the comedy shows. There are plenty of jokes regarding a man's minimal size and inability to satisfy a woman. You never hear a joke about a woman's tits being too small.

 

Some people are just way too sensitive.

[djjwp 129]

I'm 6" and average in width. I know if I put any toy over 7 into the boss, she tells me it hurts right away. We men are all in love with the idea of being 10" but we need to step back and realize that they were built to match us. Some are deep, some not, some are wide, some not. They are just like us and it's our duty to get out there and find as many matches to our equipment as possible!

 

Still, I would love to see her taken by someone hung like a horse!

 

My question, those ladies who can take the biggens, do they ever have to go into the uterus to get all the way in? Don't laugh, I have no idea if that is even possible. just putting it out there.

[Vespertine 31]

WesternSwing said:

I personally don't think so. The size of a woman's breasts have nothing to do with the intensity of a man's orgasm. It has always been eluded to that a woman orgasms harder with a larger penis. True or not, that is what men are made to believe. Tits have nothing to do with direct sex organ stimulation like a penis stroking in and out of a pussy. Tits are a visual compared to a physical sensation. You hear some women talk about how they enjoy the feeling of being "filled up" by a large penis. You've never heard a guy say "Her tits were so huge I musta' cum a gallon!" You see in swingers ads "Don't respond unless 8" or more". You never see an ad reading "Must be D-cup or greater."

 

Some men might be initially more attracted to a woman with larger breasts, but when it gets down to the nitty gritty it doesn't make a difference on the quality of the experience.

 

I don't think that the size of a man's penis really makes a difference in regards to the intensity of an orgasm. At least to me, it doesn't. Clitoral stimulation is the more important factor to obtaining an orgasm (IMHO- I can't speak for all women). If you'll notice from my earlier post in this thread:

 

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By Vespertine- Penis size is irrelevant to me. Men don't have to have a large penis to be a good lover. I've known several men that were well endowed that couldn't please me and have had lovers who were size-challenged rock my world.

Though, I have seen those type of adds that you're alluding to (not many, but a few) : Don't contact unless you're at least 8"..blah, blah, blah....

I've never understood them. *Shrugs* But when it comes down to each individual it's all a matter of opinion and preference. I think those women are limiting themselves and might be passing up a potentially great lay by a man who's only 6". But it is what THEY desire. So, who are we to judge?

I've also known men who are specifically out there looking for big breasts. It's all personal preference.

 

I still think it's the guys who make more of an issue out of penis size. I think that's why the comedians joke about it- because it is a common male insecurity. Just like I think that guys make an issue over breast size too.

 

Hopefully, we can get that stimulating debate going that leftcoastcouple was hoping to have.

[crestviewcpl2 15]

that's so true about the clitoris being the more important section. Even when playing with BOB (battery operated boyfriend) its the bunny ears that do the job, not the big thick part that's moving around.

[robnbarb 40]

I think women are quite different in preferences. I have been with some that like all clit stimulation and only allow penetration so that the man can get done (ie it does nothing for them). While I have also been with women who love only penetration and get next to nothing from cliteral stimulation. My wife is in the middle, she likes both (but LOVES penetration, that is her preference of the two).

 

anyway, the point is women are people with thier own tastes and desires, and I don't think you can lock the sex into likeing one thing.

[littlebit54 16]

that's so true about the clitoris being the more important section. Even when playing with BOB (battery operated boyfriend) its the bunny ears that do the job, not the big thick part that's moving around.

 

Amen SisterSue...You're singing my song there girl. It truly IS all about those ears...

[mixedcouple3426 15]

I think most women have a preference. I've asked this question a lot lately of my f friends. Almost all say that girth is more important to them than length. It would make sense to me that most women would rather feel filled up (or stretched) than have their cervix's take a beating. Besides, just like men have an average length in penis size, so do women in the length of their vaginal canal's (4-6 inches) which is comparable to the average penis size (5.5 inches). Coincidence?

 

This post reminds me of my earlier days of when I knew a female who couldn't suck enough dick. One day she came over when I had a friend over. After awhile she told me she wanted to talk to me in my bedroom so I followed her in there. Before I could even finish asking her what it was she wanted to discuss she had my dick out and was giving me a terrific bj. After she finished me off I asked if she would take care of my friend too, she told me to send him him in. So I walked back into the living room and told my friend that she wanted to talk to him in the bedroom. Later, after she had finished my friend off and he had left, I was curious and asked her who had the bigger dick. She said mine was bigger but my friend's was better. I asked her why and she told me it was because he was thicker than me.

 

So it would seem that at least one female out there even prefers to suck on a thicker dick.

 

I guess in that experience, the bigger dick (mine) wasn't preferred

 

I think most people, when they hear "big dick" think of length and I'm sure that a 10-incher would be great for some but with the average vaginal canal being no more than 6 inches, that just sounds like 4 inches of wasted dick to me

 

Also, for most women,the vaginal canal is only sensitive from the opening to 1-2 inches inside which would cater more to vaginal orgasms with a man who is on the thicker side.

 

Me personally (I'm above average in length and slightly above average in girth) I would trade an inch of length in for an inch of girth any day.

 

I have also heard that some women say that when they are fucking a man (vaginally) who happens to have a very thick dick, their inner labia get pulled in and out which puts pressure on the clitoris (which I agree IS the most important part).

 

So what I gather from all of this is that most women prefer a guy who is thick but not exceptionally long and most importantly knows how to use it.

 

By the way, I'm not claiming to be an expert on all things sexual and when I say "most women", I'm referring to women I have talked to, heard about or read about.

[zebrahead7557 15]

Since I am a very visual woman, I need at least the same amount as my husband, 7" but no more than 9". That is enough for allot of positions & oral fun.

[ronkaren 18]

I've never had anyone really big, but I have a huge dildo that I can take, and that Ronnie uses when he eats me. I love how deep and wide it is. If I could find a man with a dick like this wonder, I'd have to have him all the time. Size matters.

[Mephisto 38]

As a few partners have told me " You can't churn butter with a toothpick "

 

 

I'm not sure what they were trying to tell me!!

[janaandjames 24]

Small dick, bad; loose pussy, OK. Is that really how it is? Or are we just too politically correct as a society to insult a woman by calling a spade a spade and asking if the only reason she's a size queen is that she's as loose as a worn-out rubber band? Hell, men get ridiculed just for the sake of it, even if they don't complain about "loose" women! lol

 

I'm one of those loose women ...

 

just always been kinda loose there, but Ii can still enjoy one that inst so large.

[pinquita 15]

I am a guy that has an average penis. I do fine, but I think it is a difficult thing. It can not be equated to breasts size ( penis size). A woman can reduce or increase her breast size, a man can not do anything.

 

The ring will become even when a real penis enlargement procedure really appears. Then, a woman can tell her BF, hey ..go get an enlargement procedure......same way as girls go get a boob procedure.

 

As of now, it is the most awful experience, to find out that a girl needs more. Women will never know that feeling.Weight, nose, breasts, teeth, tummy...everything in that list can be taken care of....but penis size...you tell a man he is small...you are castrating him......sounds hard....but I felt "castrated" a few times. Takes a looooooooooong time to come back.

[strathmore 20]

All this talk about length and girth...

The attached chart, based on various penis size studies, shows penis volume (assuming the penis to be a cylinder) by various lengths and girths. It shows, clearly, that an increase in girth drives volume much more significantly than a similar increase in length.

 

Not sure what it means, except volume tends to fill you up, but it is interesting. Seems to indicate that girth really counts (if used properly of course).

 

Me? I'm a right on average 6" length X a bit above average 5.5" girth for a very useful volume of 14.44 cubic inches.

[DGrey 28]

I much prefer a thick girth over length any day. But, at the end of the day, it's not the size but what one does with it that matters. Any longer than 9 inches (which, incidentally is half of my favorite double dildo) and I feel uncomfortable pressure on my cervix. Kind of takes the fun out of it then.

[Jaz Kansorka 15]

After having had a hysterectomy...size does indeed matter. Over 7 inches and it gets uncomfy for me. Being one that is more easily stimulated and pleased by a master at oral sex, as long as it is not huge, I don't care how big the man's penis is at all.

[shigrl269 15]

I don't think it matters for the most part. If you are really into it, he knows how to please, size is not anissue. However unfortunatley my first time was with a lil guy and he was out for himself only, got nothing out of it. No longer a virgin and not eager to try again!!! So I guess my opinion is it depends on the situation!

[LICouple4u 15]

Size definitely matters to me - on the big side. I'm a petite woman and a man with girth definitely has to take his time with me. I've never measured hubby (hmm, that could be fun to try tonight) so I don't know what he is, but I've sure enjoyed it for nearly 13 years now

 

If a man was very thick, I might actually have to say no.

 

How do you handle THAT when you are already naked?!?!?! Yikes...

[termin8her 15]

I am a guy with 7 inches and average girth, the phone to be in porno stopped ringing a while ago... but enough of that i have found with most women that i have been with that it has been more than enough. If us guys take more time to get to know the female body and what makes them tick she wont care what size you are. There are so many positions that you can try that make your dick seem HUGE to her you just need to invest some time doing some hands on research. Also on the whole women being loose down there, it does suck and blow and the same time that a woman can take a 12inch dildo and go to work to get herself off not realizing that over time she will expand out and then stay that way! Hard to believe but medically it is a fact, so if your next girl says your too small tell her to stop taking dildos the size of 5 gallon trash bins. Bottom line work is involved by both parties to make it great, but men a told to knock it out and women are told that it is a mans job to do that. I say that equal treatment in their workplace means equal treatment in the bedroom. Same job same wage, both need to put forth effort. Wow that took much longer to type than say.

 

Cheers and happy swinging.