Talking opened a new world

[ExploringOptions 185]

This Forum, posting and now more open talking has opened up a new future of friendship, enjoyment and new look at sex. Even with having sex at a younger age I didn’t talk about sex with anyone. I had ideas what others did, learned sex through my own experiences only slightly talking to friends about sex in a non-specific way. We all had sex and joked about the boys we had as boyfriends. I new when sex was just sex, when sex was good and when sex was great. I never discussed masturbation with friends even when guys freely spoke about jerking off. 
Now I have friends on here and a new friend that have opened my mind to enjoy and discuss sex to find the best ways to enjoy. I’m not embarrassed to speak freely how to have the most pleasure I can. I am lucky that my husband and I see our future sex life the same way talking more about what we like doing. 
There was a post on toys for the bedroom that interested both of us that led us to a toy that made me feel something that I’m now using everyday. I had toys before, I used alone and with others, basic vibrators in different shapes, sizes and for some reason in colors. The Magic Wand we just got is very intense and we are having mutual fun with it. 
We then got a Womanizer, different kind of feeling, it uses air it says and it’s for me, fits over my clitoris and works so quick and intense. I soon realized I need a towel close when I use it. Now I know more about squirting something that may have happened before to me nothing like this. I’m going to do a review on their site. 
Our original post on here gave us nerve to meet another couple with what we thought would just be sex then ended up we made friends who ended up as puzzled as we were. Two silly women and two horny men not sure what sex with others would do to our own relationships. Again we talked cautiously at first afraid to open feelings and wants. I don’t think I could just have sex with strangers I needed to know them first. Just writing this makes me a hypocrite, I had sex guys on first dates and now I waited for a third date with another married person. 
Thank you to everyone who responded to our post and to the messages we received privately giving us advice and encouragement. 

[let's do it again 414]

I think it's great that you like your new sex toy, last year a woman had what sounds to be similar to your new toy. She used it while I was with her and she really enjoyed it. I like these threads because how open people are about their experiences. 

[ExploringOptions 185]

3 hours ago, let's do it again said:

I think it's great that you like your new sex toy, last year a woman had what sounds to be similar to your new toy. She used it while I was with her and she really enjoyed it. I like these threads because how open people are about their experiences. 

I’m sharing because others shared. If I didn’t read about that toy most likely it would not get my attention when browsing ads. I would buy my husband male oriented toys then I think they would only make him go faster not slow him down as he certainly doesn’t need help in the orgasm department. He also doesn’t want toys in his butt as someone suggested. 
In the future I’ll share more experiences as  we reach out to more people. Right now we feel positive with the one contact and they say the same about us. We have no reason to rush to find others we have plenty of time to digest our first. 

[AdamGunn2 394]

Exploring, I (and I think I can say 'we') are so glad we've been able to help you out, to assist you and your husband as you travel this road, finding out what you like and what is right for you. 

 

I don't believe that you are a 'hypocrite', you simply were lost in the mindset you came into this with - and we've all done this - and then by experimentation and reflection you've opened a world divergent from what you had been seeing. 

 

I (we) wish you so much luck and good times in the future. I hope as you mature in the LifeStyle you'll check back here and give others advice that you've gathered from your experimentation ,

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Of course there are some down sides to being in this life:

 

Having vanilla friends come over and not being able to openly talk about the sex we've been having

Having vanilla friends come over and not being able to just get naked while we talk

Now that I think about it, having vanilla friends come over...

 

It's just much more fun to be able to talk openly and freely about anything and everything, sometimes dressed sometimes not, sometimes while playing, sometimes not. Kind of makes us think that THIS is how life and relationships for everyone should be (just most are not prepared to be able to handle it). It almost makes us sad that everyone can't experience the sense of freedom that comes with swinging.

 

The absolute worst part is that we can't just tell our vanilla friends about the great sex we have been having just because people are not allowed to talk openly about sex...which is one of the best reasons for being alive!

[ROCKlandCpl 451]

3 hours ago, GoldCoCouple said:

Having vanilla friends come over and not being able to openly talk about the sex we've been having

Having vanilla friends come over and not being able to just get naked while we talk

Now that I think about it, having vanilla friends come over...

 

It's just much more fun to be able to talk openly

There are vanilla friends that will always be vanilla friends that we enjoy being with in a very vanilla world. We have great friends that we have no desire to be sexual with while we enjoy all the other aspects of the friendships. 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

3 hours ago, GoldCoCouple said:

It's just much more fun to be able to talk openly and freely about anything and everything, sometimes dressed sometimes not, sometimes while playing, sometimes not. Kind of makes us think that THIS is how life and relationships for everyone should be (just most are not prepared to be able to handle it). It almost makes us sad that everyone can't experience the sense of freedom that comes with swinging.

There is so much truth and depth in this statement. 

Each of us has exactly one life to live, an instant in geologic time on this pale blue dot adrift in otherwise (to our knowledge) lifeless space. 

The core question becomes, "how will we choose to live this life--our lives?" 

We think that joyful (personal experiences) and joyous ( events, things, times, places) are important. 

We think not only is the LS compatible with a moral, responsible, and honorable life well lived, we think the honesty, respect, and freedom of the LS might actually be a better foundation for such a life. 

 

[Numex 2,411]

On 7/27/2023 at 8:58 AM, ExploringOptions said:

I had sex guys on first dates and now I waited for a third date with another married person.

People change, personal tastes change over time.  Neither is wrong.