ExploringOptions 185 Posted September 12, 2023 Do others have that One Special friend in the lifestyle that you play with? We decided sex with others could and would be fun, sex with no attachment to enjoy sex and new sexual adventures. Our marriage is secure and our love has never waned before or after our active summer. My husband had a limited sex life before me, a thing he hates me repeating. I was not overly sexual before just more active. We discussed before joining a site that we should experience more sexual variety. How can I be his best if he had very little to compare even if I end up not being the best. If the better is out there I want him to enjoy. Truth I also wanted sex for sex with no pretense of love or relationship. Now the summer of exploration is over that led us to a relationship with the original find. No promises of just them or just us for them, we aren’t forming a poly family we are going to enjoy the special feeling we have for them. Do others have that special relationship? 7 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,065 Posted September 12, 2023 We have been dating one other couple for over 10 years and just in the last year they moved further away. We still see each other...once in a great while, but are thinking it may be time to find to find another couple or couples and form a small group. With Covid and how difficult (but totally worth the difficulty) it was to find that elusive spark for all involved, we have had a hard time getting started again. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post
let's do it again 414 Posted September 12, 2023 Nope, we like meeting new couples while on vacation. Nude resorts or beaches is where we like to meet couples that are interested. Having that special couple is not important since K works such a heavy schedule. Yes, I guess it is good to have someone to socialize with, but for us it adds to our vacations to be on the lookout for a potential swap. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,637 Posted September 13, 2023 Our thoughts from the beginning ~15 years ago were that if we found people whom we had a lot of fun having sex with, it seemed silly to move on from them just because they weren't new to us anymore. We weren't concerned about attachments forming. We've had some great long term sexual partners from this. So yeah, some special relationships developed. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post
ExploringOptions 185 Posted September 13, 2023 11 hours ago, bbarnsworth said: seemed silly to move on from them just because they weren't new to us anymore. I’m keep thinking part of the fun this summer was being free to new partners. This is going against my own post about having that special friend and not needing new over and over then thinking t about the excitement of doing the opposite. No decision has to be definitive. 5 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Shore2Please 610 Posted September 13, 2023 We had that one special friends we played with that were the only friends we needed. They lived far enough away that our meetings were extra special and all the excitement I needed. Everyone knows that every partner is different in how they do or move when allowed to explore. Our new sexual lover brought me to heights in a different way from my husband. Different not saying better. These friends opened up my sexuality exploring a side I never even knew I had. We still have that Special Couple, as you labeled your friends yet we have explored outside of that relationship against my original ideas. I was very happy with what we had with them with no reason to expand until we did. My suggestion is to go with what you are comfortable with. Try to dispose of any guilt feelings which was my original halt. We are not active like others who post we just play when occasions happen like the stars aligning. I found occasional new experiences are indeed exciting. 3 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
AdamGunn2 393 Posted September 14, 2023 Yes, we had a very special couple. After we got to know them well over a few dates, it turned into a swinging and vanilla relationship - we met their family and they met ours, we traveled together, we went on dates that had little to do with sex. But neither they nor us were 'faithful' to each other, both couples felt free to include others in sexy play, with or without the other couple. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
findinganswers 369 Posted September 14, 2023 We have a special couple, the first couple, the couple we were friends with before ever thinking about swinging. The wife is my wife’s best friend. I trust them without question and enjoy being with them socially. We consider them Special just not our sole partners. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
PJ&Lin 188 Posted September 14, 2023 All of them are special and different and wonderful. Each woman is a new feeling and a new way and I look forward to all the differences of the looks, the feeling, the sounds, the aromas and the tastes. Lin has her favorites for reasons that are similar to mine though she will normally tell me some men are just better. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,409 Posted September 15, 2023 Within our closed group of married couples, Daniela has one couple that is special and plays with frequently, both alone with each and FFM. I, on the other hand, have two women in our group with whom I have specially close relationships. One is purely sexual. The other centers around our common interests that our spouses find boring. We have gone on vacations together to enjoy our pursuits, and of course, sex. It has worked well all around. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
David Lovell 160 Posted September 16, 2023 We have a special couple that we frequently swing with. Though not the only couple we play with we possibly play with them 90% 9f the time. We don't frequent clubs or go for casual hook-ups. Does that fit the typical swingers pattern? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
BillyandDebbie 301 Posted September 17, 2023 (edited) We knew the first couple before just like Findinganswers. They will always be our special friends. We have a second special friend too, a friend Deb knew years ago and reconnected with while searching on the computer. We don’t go to clubs it’s not our scene either yet there are times we met others for a casual hook up. Edited September 17, 2023 by BillyandDebbie Quote Share this post Link to post