How Long Have You Been Swinging?

[SwingMonkey 15]

Just wondering how long term this has been for some of you....

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Actively: Since March. By chance: A few years.

[Sin D 15]

Actively = 2 years. We would actually like to be more active , but it is a rural area and the closest club is 155 miles away.

[DBL D 120]

Since 3.21.04.

 

Thanks to J & D, whom we've seen again!

 

4 Experiences in all.

 

Male D

[Elusive BiFem 70]

Long enough to know who and what to avoid.

 

- EBF

[TNT 1,155]

Kind of a hard question to answer....we had experiences over 21 years ago with friends (a single male and a couple)...took a break to raise up some kiddies then got back into it almost five years ago.

 

Teresa

[BradAndJanet 70]

Going on two years for us....

 

-B

[good times 991]

Almost 1 year actively, over 3 years by chance.

[xxoticangel 99]

Since September of 1999. We started out slow with girl/girl and soft swing about once every 6 weeks until the summer of 2000. That was the summer we became sluts. We went over board for a while then backed off for about a year. We consider ourselves regular because we go out about once every 3 months with the purpose of finding playmates. We have personal ads and try to keep outselves flexable so we can meet with others.

[misterbates 3]

Spoomonkey's post about why people take breaks got me wondering....

How long have you been in the lifestyle??

It seems to me most of the people on here have only been doing it actively for a year or two....

 

So How long have you been Swinging???

[Spoomonkey 421]

We've been into this for about a year and a half. Of course, a lot of the earlier months were spent getting comfortable with our boundaries, etc. We seemed to hit our stride last December.

 

Spoomonkey

[ALilOEverything 901]

This last April, we talked about it for years and even played with friends here and there but never actively pursued it until this last spring. I think belonging to these forums have really sped things up in helping me feel comfortable about things. Things that I was once apprehensive about don't bother me as much knowing eveyone else is thinking the same thing or going through something similiar.

[OhioCouple 40]

We are in the two-four year catagory, but not actively for all of it due to other obligations which have caused us to halt during certain periods. We still manage two-three times a year tho for 'getting away'.

[good times 991]

I picked 2-4 years because we first started exploring it about three years ago. But we didn't start really going for it until last November or October.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

We chose 4+ years, but we were tempted to choose "all my life." Although we have been a couple for only 3 1/2 years, our swinging experience dates back to previous relationships. Sheryl started swinging with her previous husband in 1992. Greg had been doing so with various girlfriends (plus one wife) since his college years in the late 1980's.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

Officialy since March. But We did "fall into" a couple MFMs in the past 3 years. But Febuary of this year we started to do some research on the subject to see if it was something we wanted to expand on. It was. We went to our first swingers club in March.

[EvilMJ 65]

We are in the less than a year category.

 

However, when I sat down and looked back at it I realized that I have been involved in swinger activities with previous boyfriends and never really considered it before. Odd, I guess the tendency was always there but never realized. (way too deep for lunch time )

[xxoticangel 99]

We have been swinging off and on for almost 6 years. Prior to that I (male) was in a vanilla marriage that only strayed twice, once while camping with military buddies with my new (at the time) bride. It was more of a gang bang that swinging since she was the only female and there were 3 guys including me. One other time was a MFM with a good friend that was shipping out the next day. The three of us got drunk and ended up in our bed for the night. Other than those two events I never considered swinging until I met my wife.

On the other hand she has been swinging since forever. She had a group of friends in H.S. that hung out together and "group date"ed. They did not have boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. They had sex with anyone as long as they were part of the group. According to her she lost her virginity to a guy in a room with 3 other couples. She continued this trend until she married her ex after graduation.

[Jamie&Kieth 36]

A long time with with close friends, 20 plus years with one one couple and 10 years with another couple and for about 5 years with this other couple. Oh and all couples are married.

 

Both my husband & I prefer making friends and developing a relationship with the people we have sex with. Makes it more personal and passionate and enables all of us to trust ourselves and each other.

[SexyAmy 15]

2 years and still going......

[CuriousInOregon 16]

Less than a yr for us BUT its just so fun It feels like Forever, We are looking fwd to playing for awhile until we have had our "fill" of it any way.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

Hard to answer for us. We have been swinging (99% soft-swing) for a few years, but I don't consider that we have 2-4 years experience.

 

We actually still think we are new. Well maybe not-used.

[24moreos 15]

I have been swinging on and off for years my partner has been 1 year

we are new at this together. and we are having a blast

[24moreos 15]

Life Is A Journey:the Idea Is Not To Arrive In The Grave With A Perfectly Preserved Body, But To Skid In Side-ways Shouting Holy Shit What A Ride

[SanDiegoM4cpl 15]

eight years. in a couple more years ill have to remove the socks.

 

it started with a former partner of mine and i have continued since. in those years i have been on and off with work and location. location and structure have alot to do with me participating.

 

for me i can be in a location with lots of time and ability to meet people but low and behold, they arent there!! other times im in a great location to meet peopl but my work s hectic or my hours shift or whatever throws my life out of equilibrium. for me sometimes the swing clubs work better for me as a single guy. if im avaialble that night i go, if not i dont.

 

i really like couples, but the last thing i want to do is cancel a meeting with them because my work is crazy or im going out of town or some other thing. i understand what couples have to do to make appointments so when i arrange meetings or persue couples i make sure that the sun moon and stars are lined up. last thing id want is to have them send me a bill for the baby sitter, dinner, motel, parking and valet because it was my fault. most people understand but still i do my best to make sure things are rock solid.

 

kyle

[BustyBlonde 15]

off and on for about 12 years. Sometimes the off was by choice, others it was by geography. Some states are just not conducive to a good lifestyle...such as Idaho....someone SAVE ME!!! lol

[Curious2swing 15]

We have not done it yet but are anxious to try!!!

[4Aleixs 16]

About a year now. Mostly has envolved MFM. One MFF. She how has a regular "bf" she sees too.

[bourbonnchristi 15]

We have been swinging off and on for almost 8 years now.

[cj22s 15]

We had a thing with a female friend 3 years ago, but did not actively pursue the life style until about a month ago. We just got together with our first couple this week.

[Amanda69 24]

Female for around 7 years and him almost 2 years now.

[Majikcream 15]

Still waiting to get started. After long discustions, do's don'ts and what not's. We have decided to take it further. Finding the time, and compatable person(s) is not proving to be an easy task.

[catalina8591 15]

Since 2001 - met a few couples and had fun... mainly tourists that we met online before they visited. Then a few biwomen. Then (big mistake for us) got into poly so basically no extra sex for 2 years. Here we are back were it is good!

 

-Cat

[prettylady 221]

I am as new as they come. I want to, god knows I want to. We are taking it slow. Dog want to be sure I am comfortable with the siutation. UMMM! I think, and I do do that sometimes, that I am not going to know for sure if i am ready until we try.

Your friend,

Prettylady

[TwoLittleBirds 23]

No experience actually swinging. AND I've got to say, the poll results make me feel a heck of a lot better about that. The largest group by far, at 40 percent, is "no experience."

Although, to be a little more possitive, maybe the choice should read, "No experience. Yet..."

 

The Hubby Bird

[Tia Vampire 167]

When my boyfriend first asked me what i thought about it, my first reaction was that, this is something that he does and he's trying to get me into it. Luckly this is something he wanted us to do together and learn to do together. We are newbies, as i have read what alot of you say.

[2lookinforfun77 15]

We started investigating the lifestyle and joined a swinger's sight in late August of last year. We had our first experience in October and we've been having a great time since: more to come... we hope.

[Thrax 384]

I've been swinging...or have been toyed with ...for almost six years now. What a short, strange, but interesting trip it's been!

 

Thrax

[SuAndBud 23]

Not long enough - by a long score!

 

3 years but VERY limited experience, where diversity and numbers of partners/encounters are concerned. Not quite so inexperienced where experimentation and fun/satisfaction derived is concerned.

 

Whoever said "Youth is a gift too precious to be wasted on the young" knew what he was talking about (obviously an older person - lol).

[Thkmlkchoclik 15]

Just starting out no exp.

[essexcouple 15]

We've been actively swinging for a couple of years, but we did have a couple of experiences before that. After having kids is the time your sex life needs a boost

[sexyhotmama 15]

We have just started out. We havent had out first experience yet. Hoping to soon! And yes after kids your sexlife does need a boost! The sex is great with just hubby but we need something extra!

[Thkmlkchoclik 15]

We have just started out. We havent had out first experience yet. Hoping to soon! And yes after kids your sexlife does need a boost! The sex is great with just hubby but we need something extra!

 

Yep, this is how we feel.

[mssquirtgun 16]

About 3 months .... We have met with a few couples but have met and made friends with 2 wonderful couples!

[Dooode 18]

Closing in on 10 years.

 

I wish I could've said that 10 years ago!

[telly2 15]

About 8 years off and on.Pretty much hit and miss.Working on it.

[oddcouple2841 16]

We are new to this. My boyfriend has always wanted to try it but I shyed away from it until I told him I missed the foreplay during sex and I wanted to spice up our relationship. He agreed but only as a couple.

 

Since we have agreed to do this, we are closer than we ever have been and the sex is great. We've even found out somethings we didn't about the other one, we either was afraid to ask or say because we didn't know how the other one would take it or react too.

 

S

[GanjaLovers 15]

Were going on 3 months here,been together almost 8 years but had girls join us evrey now and then but we crossed over to the dark side now.

[flkeyscouple 21]

We chose four plus years in the poll, but we've been real active only the last couple years.

 

I wish we had gotten real active long ago, but at the pace we moved along we seem very comfortable with where we are. We missed ALL the drama that we read about on this and other sites.... that's a VERY GOOD thing!!

 

Sarah

[chp_thrill 15]

Still in the haven't done it yet club. We talk about it, but mostly in the bedroom. We have talked about it since just after we met, and it just stays as a fantasy, for now.

Mrs Trill said she would "do it for me", but I refuse to let her "take one for the team". Only when we both want it, and feel comfortable with it will we even try.

As an aside, my ex and I talked about it, she even had a guy in mind. Now they are married, and we never did swing, or agree to her taking on a lover. Guess in the process of selcting a swing partner she fell in love with him, and never bothered with the "messy swinging thing".

So with that experience in the past, am taking it really slow this time, and keeping communication open and flowing. May never swing, but if it happens, cool, if not, nice fantasy.

 

M=cheap, F=Thrill