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Who handles the communications on your online ads?  

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  1. 1. Who handles the communications on your online ads?

    • HE does; swinging was HIS idea
      118
    • SHE does; swinging was HER idea
      45
    • WE equally do; swinging was HIS idea
      68
    • WE equally do; swinging was HER idea
      34
    • HE does; swinging was HER idea
      29
    • SHE does; swinging was HIS idea
      33
    • HE does; we don't remember who's idea it was.
      66
    • SHE does; we don't remember who's idea it was
      38
    • We don't do ads
      36
    • Other
      41


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I pretty much agree with you. I've noticed that whoever's idea it was is usually the one I end up talking to online, too. It was definately my idea, but I knew he would be into it. I orinially set up our profile and did searches and emailed people, but he jumped right in and emails people as much as I do. So now we are both on there pretty equally.

 

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We voted Other because we both reply and send responses and requests AND swinging was both of our idea. It was a mutual decision to join the site. We also talked about it in detail before hand. We know what we both want. I would say 9 times out of 10 we know if the other will be interested but we do not respond normally unless we are both together or have discussed each email beforehand. This is something we do together that is what makes it all fun!!

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I was the first to verbalize an interest in swinging, though Mr. Sweet had thought about it (and figured I wouldn't go for it, silly man). I'm also the one who does most of the writing/chatting. BUT we both review all emails together, and I save and review all chats with him.

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I voted 'Other' in the poll. I manage the ads, initial contacts, and all of the correspondence. We both came up with the idea of swinging. I came up with the idea of our first MFM for her, and she came up with the idea of us becoming a full-swap couple.

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WE equally do; swinging was HIS idea

 

We voted for this one but she opens all messages, he reads them after they are opened. She chooses potential playmates and we discuss them and both communicate with them, usually on-line a couple of times before deciding if we meet in person or not.

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I (the male) do most of the ad/communication work. It just kind of happened. I'm much more at ease writing than the wife is. We went from hotwifing to swinging, but it wasn't really what we set out to do.

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