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I can over look misspelled words, but I have a real problem with people who talk or type like they were off an episode of Rosanne. I live in the south and think that there is nothing as sexy as the eloquent southern draw of a woman's voice, but there is a big difference between that and sounding like the lady at the grocery store yelling at her children like an illiterate hick. I actually got an email on SLS telling us to check out his "Ole Lady". It made me throw up in my mouth a little.

I'm not offended per se...but it drives me batty when common words are misspelled. Like supercalifragilisticexpealidocious. Ok, sorry...I'm just entertaining myself there. I know it's easy to transpose letters, like 'teh' instead of 'the'. If you are the one typing it up, let the hubby read it before posting it so he can proofread it. Out of context words do get to me a little. I assume you are talking about words that sound the same, but have different definitions? Like instead of aesthetically pleasing, they write ascetically pleasing? Not to be mean about it, but if you don't know the definition/use of a 'big' word...don't use it. I'm not trying to be ugly with that statement, it won't impress me if you use it incorrectly. I do prefer words to be spelled out and I don't really like receiving an 'text-style' message, unless of course it is an actual text message. Am I picky? Do I critique profiles or email people to tell them what is wrong in their profiles or emails they send? Um, no. That would be kind of rude unless they asked me to do so. Maria

Yes, yes, yes and yes. Call me a snob, but I pass on those who cannot spell or use correct grammar or punctuation.

Ok... now we have a few questions.... (got us thinking, dangerous very dangerous) How many of you are offended by misspelled words? Or words used out of context? Or by "text style" wording (not to be confused with textile... refer to previous question)? Do you prefer words to be spelled out? Should we create a poll for this or is there already one?

Susan here--I've had many mfm experiences that ranged from very sexual to very sensual in regards to the Play style. All were fun. I've had them with regular lovers and and people I'd only recently met. Due to the fact it was always a positive sexual environment, they were all great. I think having the attitude that I was going to have a great time contributed greatly to the experience. When I first started having group play, friends of mine, Tom and Michael would come over threesome weekends. They were both straight. The fun thing was having two men, that I adored, in so many different sexual styles over a weekend. We got a bit addicted to things and had them every weekend for three months until we just had to back down. But whew !

We do vary. for a while I had the higher sex drive. But now we are swinging, she is trying to wear me out.

I think most everyone here gets your point, but in regards to physical attributes Almost everyone has an opinion of what is hot and what is not to them. In my opinion, to answer the op's question your opinion on what is hot does not need to match his. If your idea of a hot woman includes that she is at least a size 20, then your answer to the question, "Are single females in the lifestyle less "hot" than married females?" is still either yes or no.

Now knowing about the ammonia/hot tub, this post probably won't apply here. But it might help anyone else getting into a similar situation.. Right after my second son was born, I got some kind of infection. The smell was AWFUL! I never got used to it, neither did hubby. Maybe because it didn't smell like hot restaurant bread? LOL.. anyways... it was so strong at times that I could smell it through my clothes. I bathed 3-4 times a day, went back to the doc 3 times... nothing. Finally, I switched docs and this one listened to me, smelled me I'm sure, and treated me. But it was months later. Months now, no oral.. waaaa it was horrible! Anyway, our experience is that a very BAD, odd smell is likely infectious in nature, and if you are one to go bareback, might want to pack condoms in the "emergency bag" lol. And not just for hubby... what she has, her hubby has! If it isn't that kind of smell, or urine, then you can probably bet it has to do with diet or her cycle. Other causes can be medications and illnesses. Just as diet changes the taste of sperm, it changes a woman's smell. I can eat seafood weeks on end, but eat shrimp? oooo bad smell lol... Turnip greens.. yuck.... It's not too many foods, mind you, but there are a few. Then there is her cycle.. the closer she is to her period, the stronger the smell. Right after her period, all roses lol... well close! Oh and as for telling them.. I understand what the above links are saying but I don't think it applies here. I don't smell my pus all day long lol, to be desensitized to it. If it is a little "odorous" for the most part it hits me when I sit down to pea. So I have a good many hours of the day I don't smell it, then a nice kick in the nose for a few minutes every several hours. Can't miss it. So if it is a long-standing problem, she knows. And, she should have told you ahead of time - so on that note, I say it isn't worth the stress of telling her. If it's not a long-standing problem, it likely will disappear in a few days.. and why embarass her? Hope that helped some

I'll be quite honest and say I think this is a ridiculous question. You are presuming that there is some generic form of 'hot'...there's not! There's YOUR personal taste and that's it! And the lifestyle attracts people from all categories, all walks of life, all backgrounds... Maybe you just have a thing for married women...like many single guys who enter the lifestyle do...i.e. fantasising about fucking another man's wife.

On one hand, you may not have very much company in this observation. When I was in my late teens/early 20s (which has only been about 10 years ago), I would have NEVER thought to post an ad on anything like AFF or SLS. Why? Because as a younger, relatively hotter/thinner female I had no problems finding fuck buddies/play partners/one night stands/whatever. Am I implying that those who are 'less hot' are in some way more desperate and 'resort' to posting on these sites (or others like them)? Not in anyway. Personally, it never dawned on me to do so....but I had no aversion to meeting people, going out to vanilla clubs, introducing myself, or just having sex with male friends I already knew and were comfortable with. Was my bedroom a revolving door? Hardly, but I still had a good time. Most swingers are here to play with other couples...and you'll see a representation of hot, not so hot and all in between. If Jeff and I split up, would I swing as a single? Probably. Would I have entered the lifestyle as a single female before doing it with a partner? Eh, probably not. If you are looking for the 'hot girls' to go have a good time with, then I recommend going to any number of vanilla dance clubs on the weekends and try your luck picking up women there. I would still say it's a crapshoot, just about like going to a swing club...there are no guarantees that you (particuarly as a single male) will have sex. Just like at a vanilla club. Good luck, Maria