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Mr. Sweet and I decide together who we'll play with unless it's a group situation (then it's every man/woman for himself/herself). But if either of us ever felt uncomfortable with the person the other was playing with, we'd respect that.

Just by virtue of the fact that we play together as a couple and we almost always play with another couple, we pick them as a pair (mutual decision). I don't "decide" who he'll sleep with, but if I got a very bad vibe about someone, I'd share it with him. He'd do the same. We've talked about this...men can spot men who are skeezy, and women know when other women are up to no good or have the wrong agenda. The opposite sex can sometimes be snowed by charms, but the same sex can see through it. We call this phenomenon "men know men and women know women". I think that most of you know what I mean by this. We've very rarely resorted to this - haven't had to. But we both actually want each other to use their same-sex special radar to weed out the wrong people for us.

I would not say that we are picky about each others partners but we do offer our opinions to each other. Attraction is a stange thing. We have both found attractions in others that we would have never thought. I the male am what most people would describe as very preppy, but I have an incredible fascination with goth girls with lots of tatoos. My wife is very attracted to older sophisticated men. So if there are any 50 year old yacht owners with a goth wife then give us shout lol...

Wonderful and tragic is exactly it. In polyamory it's taking the good of the person with the bad. Swinging is seeing only the good, then they go home with their partner back to real life. It's like constant first date behavior. With polyamory you get all the little things, sometimes big things, that go along with that person, their foibles, their idiosyncrasies, their emotional issues. Everything you have to deal with with your spouse, you are now dealing with with the other person too. Polyamory is when sexual fantasy turns into real life, just like in any long term relationship. And like any long term relationship it takes work to make it work.

Depends on what word it is...but usually no, the occasional misspelled word does not bother me. I do have a huge problem with the first word of a sentence not being capitalized. I'm not the best at grammar/spelling but I do try and the occasional mishap in either is no big deal. It's the simple things that should have been learned in 1st grade that drives me batty. Yes...discreet and discrete are words when used in the wrong context will literally make Ted and I beat our heads up against the wall. HATE IT!!! I don't text so I have no idea what the hell all those letters jumbled together are suppose to mean. Even when I am IM'ing someone I spell everything out. I've often said to Ted that the internet and the ability to text people have created a whole new language...one I don't speak or read. See above answer. Teresa

Depends on the quantity of misspelled words, in relation to grammar. No one is perfect. On the flip side, I can be just as offended by the spelling/grammar police. I'm pretty pissed off when I get a PM about one spelling error or poor turn of phrase (from those who are not real-life friends that are teasing me) when, for the most part, I am pretty conscientious about spelling and grammar. In any case, I do try to spell correctly and use proper grammar on our profiles and in my postings on various boards and I prefer to read posts/profiles in which the writer uses the same care. Same as above - an occasional misstep isn't offensive, but 20 of them in a post or profile is annoying to me. All caps, all bold, all red or green or whatever makes my eyes hurt. My spouse is guilty of the lower case as a "style". I loathe that. For crying out loud, he's an educator, and I don't think it's a good "example" at all to his students. He thinks it conveys his informality and his openness to providing help to his students. I think it conveys laziness in using the shift key and belies his skill and education level. So my answer is yes, text style does mean something to me and can annoy or engage me. The occasional well known acronym is not offensive/annoying to me. But an entire profile written in classified ad style is not enjoyable to read. YMMV, of course.