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Quotes like these have led us to wonder about the things that motivate swingers to choose the partners they play with. Many of you have expressed distain at being desired for a particular characteristic, especially in regard to weight and race. We can understand wanting to be appreciated as a total person when it comes to vanilla relationships, but when it comes to something as uncomplicated as recreational sex (at least it's supposed to be uncomplicated), why should that matter as long as the sex is good? If an attractive swinger wants to play with you because he/she likes your bubble butt or admires your bulging biceps, why would that person's motivation matter to you?

I couldn't help but repond to this thread! I went into the hospital for a heart operation in 2003. They required all kinds of tests including a round of STD/STI tests. I assume because they were going into through the groin area and didn't want any passengers on their way up! I was told that all tests were negative I was clean. Hmmm. Seeing as how our profile name AND profile state firmly that we have Herpes-2. I think you can see why STD tests seem flawed to me. Especially since I've gad Herpes-2 since 1996.

This is kind of an interesting thread and thanks to Julie for bumping it back up. My thoughts on this are that the people that often post their thoughts and questions on this board are the "THINK TANK" of the swinging community. Folks here pose personal and legitimate questions and then others will thoughtfully consider the questions and then offer their honest thoughts on the matter. No one claims to be right and disagreements definately do break out and it isn't alway pretty. Not only that but the thoughts and advice offered are not always what people want to hear. For me what separates this board from all the others out there is that this does not have a hook-up feature and it is not a meet market. While I agree that there are people on here I would like to meet and do believe we would become friends I believe the fact that I will most likely NOT meet any of the people here keeps my thoughts pure and honest. I frequently do post on a local site that we are on but I say things here and offer thoughts and questions here that I would NEVER say on that site because I realize that I will most likely not meet anyone here in the flesh. What I say on our local hook-up site is way watered down and politically correct compared to what I say here due to the fact that people do not often like to hear what I have to say or how I say it and will not hop into bed with me because of that:lol: I pose questions here that I would not pose around people that know me as I do not want to show my own insecurities and hang ups to my prospective bed partners and I offer opinions and advice here that is often not polically correct and I offer what I see are truths that are sometimes down right ugly. So while I may really want to meet some of you the truth is when I pose a question I want your honest and pure answer even if it hurts my feelings or pisses me off. I don't want you to edit yourself or water down your answer because you don't want to harm your chances of scoring the next time you go out. conversely I want to give you the same respect and honor when I you pose a question and I want you feel confident that I am giving you my honest thoughts as well.

Numbskulls, That was probably one of the most personally offensive posts that I have read on this board. You are an opinionated young pup and I’m going to give you a little touch of reality here. I am male, just a hair under six feet tall, and according to the Doc last Thursday I weighed in at 207 pounds. Not bad for an old geezer like me huh? Only 2 pounds over what I weighed when I got out of the Navy in 1986. I can’t leg press 700 pounds like I could back then. But I’m in pretty good shape and can handle an 800 pound motorcycle at 80 miles an hour with a 175 pound passenger and pull a trailer with two weeks of luggage and junk for 1,100 miles in a day. I actually match up with your skinny healthy fit person don’t you think? What you don’t know is that I weighed 335 just a couple of years ago. I didn’t get that big in 24 hours, it took 20 years, and it was not intentional! It wasn’t bad choices or not being in control. It is life. And I didn’t have medical challenges such as diabetes or a host of other medical ailments that caused it. You don’t have a friggin clue what it is like to be that big. Nor, do you have a friggin clue as to how to lose the weight. You can type your BS as a young in your prime pup and make statements that are the kind of things that PREVENT people who are overweight from getting control of things. And the type of statements you made really piss me off. Go live in your Vogue Magazine world and leave people who have their own challenges alone. Because you don’t have a clue and your rude ugly comments are a major part of the problem. All of the diets and all of the gyms and all of the multi-billion dollar exercise equipment industry is there to fleece people of their money and they don’t really give a rats ass if they lose weight or not. They are making their 16 payments of $35.95 for a piece of junk that is an oversized paperweight in their basement, and that is all that they care about. They are paying for “diets” of all flavors that don’t work worth a damn because they don’t address the problem or how to solve it. They just take advantage of people’s low self esteem until they get to frustrated and quit until they pick up the next patent medicine program and start paying out the ass chasing a dream that you don’t and can’t understand. Stepping off my soap box now. I appologise if I violated the board's rules in this post, if I did, I'm sure a moderator will let me know. Have a nice day. S