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So true! But it wouldn't be the first time some husband used the line "my wife doesn't like" or "my wife prefers" as an excuse for justifyng his own hangups about who she's "allowed" to be attracted to. "Insecurity breeds drama" and "fear breeds hostility" Who needs more "drama" and "hostility" when we're all just trying to screw? BTW, I love long hair on a man, almost as much as I love a nicely shaven head. (it has to be a nice head, though. Now don't ask me what constitutes a "nice" head because I can't tell you. I just know it when I see it, that's all) Maybe they're jealous, or insecure? Or maybe they just like to pick fights?

Personally, I think the profile name "Ave Satanas" alone shows a certain level of immaturity and an overall willingness to "Start Some Sh*t". And that's coming from an atheist. You'll note that our username makes no reference to that point. Maturity would dictate that you don't throw religion out there unless you want it thrown back. I agree with the others. You are simply too young of mind. Of course you think you aren't, we all thought that before life smacked us in the face. And oddly enough, that happens around 25-26 years of age. You punched a guy because you and your SO hadn't the life experience to notice when to stop. One day, he'll return the favor in one fashion or another. I'm sure he was grateful for your understanding and thoughtfulness as a friend. If ever in doubt in any situation, just remember this....WWJD? That was a joke by the way, you can laugh now. Vade Satanas

I think a lot of it has to do with what you are looking for. If you are looking for a hook up and nothing else - then who cares? But if you are looking for more - perhaps the chance to develop a friendship - then knowing that someone likes you on a one-dimensional level can be a turn off. Personally, we like to think that the people who want to play with us find us attractive first, but they see beyond that and like the people we are. I know - it is a lot to ask for - and we don't always ask for it. In fact, we've come very close at times to just giving up on the whole notion of "friendship" all together. But, if you are looking for more than "tonight" motive is a big part of the equation. Spoomonkey

I alternate between long and short hair. When I get it cut, half the women I know say " I am glad to see you got it cut" and when I grow it out half say "I'm glad you're letting your hair grow again". I figure no matter your hairstyle, some will like it, and some won't. Wear it like you want to wear it. I am in the camp that the husbands telling you that seems more like they don't like guys with long hair instead of their wives feeling that way.

I'm just curious about this. Would men with long hair be a stopper or turn you off as a first impression, with out wanting to know more about me? The reason I ask is, I have very long hair. I keep it braided always, unless a play partner requests me to have it down. I can handle rejection at any time very well. I'm the first to admit if there is no connection its cool. Here is a rejection I just find strange:confused: Its happened a few times where the male half approaches me with, "My wife doesn't like guys with long hair". Is that something that a woman couldn't say to me ? I keep my hair clean, trimed and like I say, braided. It has just been something I don't think I want to change and here is why. My daughter while she was growing up and even now that she has moved across town, would braid my hair for me allot. While doing this ,it was many times she would talk to me about personal stuff in her life, serious stuff. Anything from her period, to who she would marry some day. Each braid to me, has meaning and memories. I wear it actually under my shirt collar most of the time, and even surprised many. I've heard many times "WOW, I didn't realize you had such long hair" Mrs.Fun, I think:rolleyes:, could talk about stuff as well because lets face it, she has the upper hand if the right jerk of the hair is applied:eek:. Its not like I'm trying to be a rock star or even have that attitude. But it just seems strange that its always the husbands who tell me their wives don't like long hair. I just think a woman would be more up front about this. Many times even in vanilla bars, women will walk behind me and tug on my pony tail. Yes I know its a message of ,hey do I have your attention. I mean you know, I'm going to look at who did that. Then they usually just smile and walk on. In a vanilla setting, I would tell my wife what happened.. In a swingers club or meet and greet, I would be telling my wife about the tug, and we would probably be heading to your table:lol: Although its never happened, I could see a woman actually gracefully saying something like "You know, I prefer my men to have a military hair style" thats not a put down or anything and I would just be thinking, that cool. I am out numbered at most places these days anyhow. ITS COOL:cool:.

ncmd_couple I am sorry. I went off on a complete rant, and left out the most important part, my congratulations to you for going from 337 pounds down to 207. I DO know how hard it is. Almost everybody I know either has a weight problem, or knows somebody who has a weight problem. And I know how that can affect a persons self esteem, especially a womans. One more thing occurred to me - you said before that "your wife was a BBW, and she hated it" I don't know you guys so maybe I'm speaking about something I shouldn't, but.............. Here's HER, who isn't happy with her weight and would love to lose some, and then there's YOU, who loves her and (I assume) does everything with her, and who's already lost 130 pounds. Do you see what I'm leading to? Your probably the best person in the world to help her lose the weight. You can be, and should be, her inspiration. Better yet, be each other's inspiration! How did you feel when you lost all that weight? How do you think your wife would feel if she lost 20% of hers? I can see how signing up on a board exclusively for BBW women might make a woman feel good for a while, but it doesn't do anything for how she feels when she's in public, buying a dress, or having her picture taken. Just don't be in too much of a hurry to get on the short bus, that's all I'm trying to say.

There is such ignorance on the topic of weight and such judgment. It turns my stomach! Why don't we bump that thread from about a year ago shall we? Just so we make sure to ostracise all BB people all over again God American culture is so fucked up.