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Well I have to say as some of the others here have...whipping out your cock and laying it across my lap wouldn't get you to a room with me bad form. We always have each other backs so to speak but I have never felt the need to protect Spoo's feelings from cock sizes. Spoo is adequately endowed and has many talents in the bedroom. We usually don't know the "actual size" of a playmate until we get to the room. We go on attraction and personality during the "pre-sex" conversation. We got into the lifestyle for variety...how boring if I only played with men who had the exact same size cock as Spoo's or him with women who had the same cup size, height and hair color as me. I've had close to 10 inches and I've had below average and to be honest it's all in whether or not the guy knows what he's doing with it as well as everything else in his bag of tricks Spoo knows what he brings to the table and has never been intimidated by another man's size. So I guess in answer to your question while I always have my man's back...I don't feel the need to turn down a couple because of the guys cock size. There are too many variables...length, girth and techniques. You may miss out on something by turning down just on size, as well as cause the other woman to miss out on your SO since I'm sure there is more to him then just the number of inches between his legs. Mrs Spoomonkey

I am going to go against the flow here and say that after a meeting of dinner and drinks you should probably expect something within three days time. I am usually in the crowd who says that people get busy - but a meet is a whole other animal. I think we all expect for them to go thusly: 1. Meet 2. Leave as a couple and discuss your impressions 3. Email rather quickly, either excitedly or with a "sorry, but we aren't right" message I know for us, as soon as we leave a restaurant, we are discussing the "next step" - and as a courtesy we write a quick email the minute we get home. Maybe we are weird, but we think a couple needs to know that we either are or are not into them. Granted - if you write us typically we can take forever to get back to you. But a meet for drinks and/or dinner isn't "typical". In "swing-dom" that is basically a gauge of sexual chemistry. Of course you are going to expect (and rightly so) some sort of feed back. Three days is a little on the long side... But - as the others have said - there are other fish in the sea. And, who knows, this could just be a socially backwards couple who just don't realize that maybe they have some responsibility to respond. You could hear from them in a week - or a month... I'd just move on and let things either happen with them - or not. But - seriously - don't let this experience ruin your future experiences! There are good ones out there! We all get rejected - and no one is everyone's cup of tea. I am very sorry this has you down. One of the great things about swinging (that I've observed) is actually how good about themselves it makes most women feel. You deserve to feel that way! So hang in there until you do! Spoomonkey

My advise is to have your wife go with you and express herself that you are having problems and it is affecting your sex life. With her stating that, the doc probobly wont ask too many questions. He will probobly do a blood test on your testoterone levels and give you samples to try to see which pill works best. This is how it went for me when the wife and I went to the doctor.

Sorry to hear you're not feeling so confident right now. We all go through those phases(at least, I do) and it makes it tougher than usual to deal with rejection. I don't think that three days is necessarily a blowoff/rejection, though. People get busy and/or forget. That said, even if it does turn out to be a, "no thanks", there ARE others out there that are way more deserving of your time and attention. =)