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I wondered why were not getting a lot of 2nd dates. I guess the other couples were not as interested in the photo albums and ribbons from field day that we always carry with us as we thought. Hmmm good to know.... Note to self: Stop wearing #1 dad shirt to the clubs. J/K Julie we have kids and really don't much care to have a lot of chat about the ins and outs of our family life.

We meet playmates in a variety of ways... The large majority, we meet on-line through yahoo groups and others. Yeah, there are some no-shows, and some who just want to email back and forth for months. And misc other hassles (e.g., pic collectors). But of the folks we've met that way, the large majority have been nice folks and good playmates. The second largest group we've met are at adult bookstores and theaters. (hey, they're there with sex on their minds and they can't no show) Many of them have become friends and recurring playmates. We usually -- though not always -- go there with L dressed seductively; she definitely catches eyes, and things progress from there. Third largest group is through various clubs and parties. And finally, L occasionally picks up a guy in a vanilla situation and the guy gets lucky. Vanilla situations have included: at the pharmacy while getting her birth control pills refilled; a guy who caught her eye while driving; the captain on a scuba diving boat; the hired help at resorts; misc others. While these are fun for their spontaneity, they're occasional and catch as catch can. After all these years playing, on line groups are still our best resource.

We saw a little bit of this when we first started. We are quite young, 22 and 23, and many people would look at us with dubious eyes. After they saw us a few times though and talked to us and saw we were for real and weren't there for a show, everyone was very nice to us. We do get the occasional email on our ad site from people saying "wow you guys are so young and cute". Needless to say we just delete the emails. We don't care if you have kids our age, aren't we all here to have fun. And we totally agree with Playful1's comments. We love to party with people in their late 30's and 40's. Age is just a number and they know how to have a good time, thats what we want. We just want to have some fun and however old you are doesn't matter to us so it shouldn't matter to them. If it does thats their fault. We have plenty of other friends.

Thank-you so much for all the wonderful perspectives and advice I have been gven here. To clarify my question, without putting anyone in an awkward position: We have received a number of responses to our posting. Some have been from couples that were, shall we say, not what I am looking for necessarily--but the female is ok by what my husband wants. The thing is, I really am not looking for another male for the most part, save for a few specific sexual fantasies that my husband is not interested in doing with me...see Anal. . I really want him to get to be with the women he is attracted to, and am trying to find things in the men that are the other half of these couples, that I could be attracted to as well--but it's not going so well. Mind you--I am also VERY Bi, and finding the women attractive as well lol. I am thinking that going to the parties might just be more productive for us lol. We do want to form friendships with some of the folks as well....wait, that's gonna be another thread, nm lol.