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Ok Ladies, I have a very odd problem. Between September 05- July 06, I had six invasive surgeries on my right breast. They took a lot of tissue out during each, and I had to spend over a month after each one, packing a huge hole with gauze. They took all of the milk ducts and my nipple no longer will get hard. In fact, there is a major size difference now. I had a partial mastectomy spread out, to make it short. It wasn't cancer, although I am high risk, but it came close to killing me. I do have pics from the first, least severe surgery, after that, it just got too depressing. My concern comes from being uncomfortable displaying all of my chest during play. I am a mom, and I gained 65-70 lbs. when I was pregnant, my only option to fix the truly loose skin is a tummy tuck, the consultation with the laser expert explained all of that. How can I find appealing outfits that will allow me to still feel sexy without having to show my battle scars? I kept a low-cut shirt on during all three threesomes and J has already told me that he would prefer for me not to wear so much during play. I want to have fun without constantly thinking about it! I can get reconstructive surgery, but we have had to wait because it wasn't supposed to come back after the first surgery, so we can't be certain it won't come back. I had one of the greatest doctors though, Dr. Macon, the director of breast surgery for John Hopkins.

The notion that swingers (or any people considered part of an "alternative Lifestyle) are any more tolerant and open minded than vanilla folks is a myth. When I stepped into the world of swinging I immediately thought I was becoming part of a bonded group, a group who - at it's core - had an acceptance and openness unlike anything I had experienced in the vanilla world I'd been living. Not so. I realized this within a year after all my reading in forums, not only at the Swingers Board but in other forums on the ad sites we belonged to. With people of every alternative lifestyle you will find they have as many close-minded views, varying opinions, fears, and prejudices as any vanilla out there.