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Thank you I did as you suggested with MS Word i think it helped alot still working on new pics i did post one more of me dressed up at school i think it looks decent would love any extra feed back on it you have all been so helpful to me. I doe appreciate it also any comments the words in my profile or helpful suggestions on what not to or what to add?

Our point of view probably comes from a different place than most who will respond to these questions as we are comfortably outside of the upper age range for at least 75% of the couples on SLS including, strangely enough, those who are the same age as we are (and older..)...said limit being the big Five-Oh. Few things within the lifestyle make us shake our heads one minute and laugh the next than the whole age issue. To the questions: Does this deter you in contacting a couple if you're out of that range? Absolutely. The way we see it, there is a reason that they set their age preferences there - and if it was important enough for them to draw their line there, we should respect that. That's how we view any stated preference in a profile. It annoys us whenever someone tries to convince us to ignore our stated preferences, so we refuse to ask others to ignore theirs. Do you go ahead and tell them you find them attractive even though you're out of their age range? Would we..no. If compliments for compliments sake is your thing, go for it. But otherwise our question would be "To what expected end...?" The best example we would have is that we've often seen profiles of seriously sexy (picture-wise) couples who had "We don't swing outside of our race" or "No Blacks" also on their profile ( setting aside that as an issue of it's own) - should we take a shot that complementing them might inspire them to make an exception in our case? Sorry, we're neither that arrogant or naive. Is your age range set in stone? No, it isn't...because as we have gotten older we've adjusted it accordingly. Therefore, it's very easy to adhere to. Do you meet people out of your age range? This one gets tricky - Our answer is if both of them are outside of our range, no. However, the scenario that we have actually encountered more often is where one of them is outside of our range (SLS doesn't take this into account). That subtle point can make a difference, because in our opinion it changes some of the dynamics involved. A question that wasn't asked here that we have been asked before along these same lines is What would you do if approached by someone whose age limits you fall out of? As this is what we encounter quite often...our answer is always that it depends on their approach. By it's self, it's not a deal-breaker because they are choosing to temporarily amend their preference - but suprisingly it often gets compounded on by other 'things-that-make-ya-go-hmmm..."