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Only part of his post was about his time in Iraq. There is also his time in SD/PHX. Sounds like a classic cuckold scenario to me.

As others have stated, you do know who your wife is: a person with a high sex drive who needs variety. She told you this up front. When you married her, like any person who gets married, you take her for better or worse and you can't start thinking you can change her. It's like marrying someone who smokes 2 packs a day, but then laying down ground rules about quitting or cutting down after you get married. The time to ask for change is before marriage, and if you can't handle the reality, don't marry that person. You have a wife who will likely want to sleep with other men on a regular basis for the next 20 years plus. Can you handle that? If so, tell her to come clean, and work out a reasonable arrangement where you can both feel safe. Talk about all the risks, insist on regular testing, what will you do if she gets pregnant and you don't know who's baby it is. Also, find out if there are underlying issues driving her to be this sexual. I'm a highly sexual female, but I can't imagine needing to sleep with that many different people during the week while my guy was away. Maybe a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side, but it's the sheer numbers that makes me think that she needs too much ATTENTION and that is a sign of a self esteem issue. I say that as someone who has been there. From this point forward, though, she has to tell you the absolute truth, whole truth, etc. Your life and that of your child is paramount and you need to know what she's doing, who is in your house, and what she could be exposed to depending on what sex acts she is doing. Is she having unprotected sex? Is she on the pill? Sorry to be a bitch, but are you sure it's your child? If you cannot trust her, then there is no relationship.

Military separations are a bitch! When I was a Combat Controller (we were gone a lot), during Viet Nam, I had a friend who'd get divorced each time he went overseas. Really! They were a very attractive and happy couple but just agreed this was the best way for both of them. He didn't like writing letters and she didn't want to stay horny all the time. That's exactly how they put it. They did this three times that I know of. I was single and had the opportunity to be with her while he was away but they were just too good of friends for me to feel comfortable with it. OK, that said, you're in a little different situation than he was. Your wife was an active swinger and you'd had at least that one threesome relationship. Your's ended badly and that might have made you a bit apprehensive of the lifestyle in general. Now there's really no defending her being deceptful to you but it might be because she doesn't feel she can be totally open and honest with you yet. And, the fact she doesn't want to just leave you and find someone else tells me she loves you and wants to stay with you. If it were me I'd think that I have to decide whether to drop all rules and just enjoy her for who she is or think about separation. Good luck and watch out for yourself over there. Don't let your mind dwell on your relationship to the point of not thinking about your safety.

OK, so I guess it is finally our turn. We had been asked what our ride home was like after our first experience and even though this post is about two weeks late we will be glad to share. We were supposed to meet the other couple at a club but when we got there, a single gal we all knew was there as well so our foursome actually turned into a fivesome which caught us off guard but in a very incredable way. When we got in the car to leave, Eve turned to me and said, "we did it" to which I replied, "yep, I guess were swingers". The half hour ride home was full of smiles as we rehashed the whole evening. We continued rehashing the evening for almost the whole next week. Glad we could share, A/E

Any position is fine with me as long as it doesn't hurt and I have fun & orgasms. But if I had to pick only one, I'd have to go with me on top.