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I haven't seen the topic of "reverse dates" brought up on this board and wondered if anyone else had experienced this and if so what are your thoughts and experiences with them. For those not familiar with the term, a reverse date is where you meet, then play, then go out for the evening and do whatever it is that you are going to do ie dinner/drinks/dancing etc. We were not familiar with this term or concept untill we were going out of town a while back to catch up with some old friends and to meet some friends of theirs. While we were discussing plans and itinerary for the evening our friends wisely suggested we have a reverse date since it was going to be such a busy evening. What ended up happening is they showed up at our room early in the evening. We had about 5 minutes of catching up chit-chat and then the clothes came off and we had a hot and steamy encounter. After we all caught our breath we got dressed and then went out for the rest of the evening. I gotta tell ya, it was a great experience and I have to recommend it if the circumstances are appropriate to do so. the rest of the evening everyone was so relaxed and able to be themselves it made for a wonderfull night of socializing. There was no wondering of "will they or won't they?" and there was no tension from everyone knowing what they want to do but noone has the guts to make the first offer. Also, the sex was great because everyone was 100% sober and well rested and there was no glancing at the clock because it's so late and everyone has things they have to do early the next morning. Now I do have to add that these were established friends and previous play partners. It's not for everyone or for every date by any means. But for those established and trusted friends a reverse date may be just the ticket. Have any of you ever had any reverse dates and if so what are your thougts and experiences with them?

I would be concerned about anyone who gets "wasted" to the point where they didn't seem to recognize you. Maybe I'm just susceptible to public service messages but hasn't the CDC and other health organizations been emphasizing that normally responsible people tend to end up with STDs during encounters they had when they were intoxicated? It makes sense that when a person is drunk they lack the judgment to choose partners wisely and don't have the inhibition to stop the fun to use condoms. Baaaaaaad combination. I would worry that your potential play partner's drinking problem might very well have put her at risk for STDs during other encounters you haven't personally witnessed. One of the articles I remember reading mentioned the tendency for the normally "responsible" people to not get tested after a binge lapse because they're in denial that their actions are risky, and to get tested requires them to admit their drinking is a problem affecting their health and their life. So meanwhile they're out spreading diseases while representing themselves as a responsible D/D-free person. Maybe you should listen to your subconscious apprehension about this potential play partner. There's probably a reason your gut is telling you no. Just something to think about.