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Dude, that's a nanosecond. The big coil of wire in her bag was the microsecond. (~1000ft.) I treasure mine too. I got it at her lecture at the ISEF. I just passed soda through my nose. I think it's a miracle. I need to be debriefed by a priest. (ref. George Carlin) Mr FC4L

My latest rule as to whom to disclose our activities to is "will it enhance our live or their life or the relationship if I tell them the full truth?" If the answer is no, then we are going to divulge further. I have the same thoughts as you - I'm not ashamed and I would rather be honest. At the same time people are strange and I don't want to complicate my life/our life needlessly due to anyone else's lack of discretion. The good news is you can still, if wanted or needed, introduce your two circles truthfully - as friends. That's the truth. Do your vanilla friends need to know every last detail? I've disclosed in full to two friends, and my sister. One friend lives 3 hours away, and looked into the lifestyle for herself but declined to go further because her marriage isn't in the world's greatest place. The other friends (a couple we've known for 8 years) are more than cool with it; in fact, I think not disclosing it would have caused problems (long story). My sister, on the other hand, I wish I hadn't disclosed the rest of the truth to, I think. I'm happy the truth is out there, but I'm not enjoying the judgmental questions and commentary at the moment. And if she decided to tell my dad, instead of me telling my dad if I choose, I'm going to kick her ass. And she could do just that if I piss her off somehow (love that sibling relationship - it's so love/hate!) So, do you think disclosing is going to make your relationship with your vanilla friends better? Or is it just going to make you feel better by being completely honest? I'd think long and hard if as to how it's going to change the relationship, because it will change, for better or worse. Good luck!