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We mix our swinger and vanilla friends all the time, but we have NEVER even thought about telling our vanilla friends that we swing. First, I don't see any reason in the world for them to know about our sex life. Second, as someone said previously, it is a guarantee that once a vanilla knows about your swinging, EVERY vanilla they know will know. Gossip is a powerful pull on some people, and that would be about as juicy as gossip could get. My advice would be to deal with it when, and IF, it ever comes up in a conversation.

having been raised in a conservative church, then going thru a divorce after 19 years, I had to a lot of reevaluating of myself,my religious beliefs, and life as a whole, Icame to the following view of religion and my faith. First I am still a believer in what Christ did, and his sacrifice for all of mankind. After reconsidering the scriptures and the lives of the old testament patriarchs, they had no probelm with having sex with a number of people. David and Soloman had a number of wives,and concubines. Abraham was married to his sister Sarah, and he also gave her to the pharoah. Pharoah wasn't exactly happy with Abraham when he found out either. God didn't cut them out of the relationship for it either. So yes I am a christian, I dont go to church, because I think it would be viewed as hypocritical by some to go to church and violate the rules, as the average person understands biblical teaching. That being saidscriptures teaches us to love God and love our neighbor, even as we love ourself. I try to treat others with respect, not lie to them to get laid, respect their relationship, and if they say no, then no it is. If there is a mutual desire to enjoy sex, I dont have a problem with it. primarily there is no predatory sex goin on, and take responsibility for you shared actions , and enjoy the shared pleasures..

You can do whatever you choose, so take my advice as such. But I'm a protective and possessive person and I believe in the primary relationship as the center of all activities. Get out. Get out. Get out. (Of this swinging scenario) If it was me, I'd go so far as to relocate and never have contact with these people again. This woman cannot be trusted, and as another poster mentioned you need to question how your husband could let this sort of thing happen. The good news is that by confessing to you and exhibiting guilt and honesty, he does love you and wants to protect what you have. I'd be appalled that she felt he "betrayed" her... no doubt she was trying to build a little secret fortress of love between her and him. Sounds like she seduced and manipulated him... and once he had a chance to recover from the "spell" he came right back to you. Don't risk it again! His admission is a cry for help of sorts... letting you know that he is weak and will succumb to a woman who uses her powers to persuade him. I don't agree with people who say to stay away from that couple for "awhile." DO NOT TRUST THIS WOMAN WITH ANYTHING. Here's my suggestions: 1) Move away. Use this as an impetus for you and your husband to better your life in a new city. It will be exciting and intensify your bond with him. 2) If you just cannot move, find a way to remove yourself from this couple's life... move across town, relocate your kids to another school, join a different church, don't go to the same clubs, restaurants, malls, etc. Stay away from this toxic woman. And certainly rescind their "godparent" status. I know I'm being harsh, but nothing good can come from this relationship. She wanted your husband and seduced you guys into a situation where she could test her desirability against you. I'm curious to know what your decision is.