I don't have any advice that hasn't already been offered, but I would just like to take the time to encourage the two of you. You obviously have had some problems, but you guys are opening up to each other and being honest. You're reaching a place where you will soon know everything about each other and there will no longer be an reason to hide. You will know each other fully and love each other for all that you are. Most marriages never get to be as honest as you guys have started to be. You guys should be proud of yourselves. Keep going to counseling. Be patient. Keep being open. Find ways to meet each other's needs that take each other into account. Don't push each other. You've got some healing still to do but it sounds like you're on a very good path. We wish you guys the best and if we can help let us know.