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Wearing protection is not absurd by any means and actually shows your responsible...... But, neither is going without. We think our partners that we go without are very responsible people as well. Sometimes I have to wonder..... suppose you start mentioning you prefer to go without protection to possible playmates and see how many agree. Just for the sake of seeing. What your not seeing... try it. We did... I think what may surprise you is how many people are just agreeing with you. You say you only play with protection and the majority say "Oh yes, us too " Then the next couple they play with goes without. Do you really think they are going to come back and tell you? That is why we say we might go without, depending on the couple and our comfort level. Or would you prefer we just agree with you? Even if we were to tell you we always wear protection...How will you know? Isn't it better to see that we are at least up front and honest. Would that make a difference? Would you never play with a couple just because they went without when you were not there? How can you be 100% sure?

Think of it this way... If you dated a woman who jacked you around, didn't show up for a date, and when she did she brought along another guy and you never got a moment alone with her to even talk, would you be kinda rethinkin dating women? I don't think so If you and your wife had fun, take the fun. Don't over analyze. You probably were had. So what? For the future, decide if you want to accept a situation like this. If you don't, a polite "thanks but no thanks" is all it takes. Let him know that the two of you play with couples only, no exceptions. That's how it works for my wife and I. Couples only, and same room. Else, it's a non-starter and we won't play. The important part here is YOU get to decide, not the person you're meeting up with. To my wife and I, lying is ugly and a complete turn off. We don't care if you don't tell us everything, or even 1%. But, what you do tell us should be the truth.

Interesting that your question is "Were we had?" -- cause it sounds like you had a good time. Now do we think that he was a single guy? Most definitely based on the circumstances. Had we shown up and found it to be just the one person, we would have bailed. That's us. MFM's just aren't are party. But you had fun so that's great. I guess that's one way to learn a lesson the fun way.

The party doesn't start till you want it to.......

First, congratulations on your first experience! Second, performance problems are quite common, even if all people in question are sexy, horny, etc. Check out this thread: Performance Problems You mention the guy was nervous. Sounds like maybe it was his first experience too? Nerves, first experience, having another guy there watching him have sex with someone else, having that person be the husband of the person he's having sex with...plenty of reasons to deflate the erection. Not to worry. Communicate with the guy in question; tell him how great of a time you both had, and you'd like to have another experience with him. Talk with your wife and assure her that the performance problems are normal, and almost definitely have NOTHING to do with how sexy she is. There's no sense in getting worked up over performance issues; just makes it more difficult to erase the problems next time around due to anxiety! Let us know how it goes!