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I would say she is still having difficulty seperating the whole emotional side.. the differences between love and sex.. Its a daunting task, for some impossible.. When we ran up against this, i just explained it like this, suppose we went out, nice place, dance floor, DJ, or Band, if someone came up and asked her to dance, would she decline if it was Ok with me, and at the end of the night, its still just us.. regardless of who she DANCED with? The arguement was but thats just dancing.. To which I countered, yes it dancing, and this is just sex.. Short term sex at that, like a evening dancing, or a day out playing softball or touch football.. There are no emotional components involved in those, If you can enjoy the FUN in the activity. If you feel comfortable, with the situation and the person.. which can be a stumbling point.. why not go for it?

^THAT^ is incredibly refreshing to hear. I was starting to get really nervous that we would be a shunned minority for wanting to play a little safer! I used to work at a sex store and was the resident "scholar". I read every damn book on the subject of sex that I could get my hands on. I know the risks involved and, frankly, I don't want 'em. I barely escaped herpes infection because TWO different previous long-term partners, whom I trusted and with whom I stopped using condoms eventually, chose not to disclose that they were infected until much later in the relationships - after the condoms had been shelved! Thankfully I did not contract, but I shouldn't have been forced to play that particular game of Russian roulette. Trust is fine and dandy, but people lie, all the time, regardless of whether or not you trust them. If it reaches a point with a couple that we decide to go condomless, I will ask to swap STD tests first. If they are offended (as someone else here stated they would be), then I'll know that it's time to look elsewhere, for people that understand our concerns. Bareback is wonderful! Seriously, I wish I could go all free-love with everyone, but it's not worth the risks, IMO. ~Cream