One important thing to remember is to just be yourself.
What would it take for you to let us have sex with your partner, wife, girlfriend ? Think about it..... Would you wonder about the stigma then ? Would you really ?
You could take notes till the end of time...... Won't do much good if the couple you want to play with sees through any bull shit anyhow. Besides, like I say. We found them.... Same with males in a club environment.
We have played with a number of single males. So far we have been selective.... The ones we played with and would again, are authentically themselves. None contacted us first... we contacted them. None tried to bust in on us while we were on-line with a chat and some interesting first liners like "HI" "M or F" " Whats your stats " those don't get far with that kind of intellect.... Common sense wouldn't ya think ?
How did they behave ? Respectful. Just like meeting anyone they might want to have sex with. I don't see any stigma awareness in any of them. They weren't about... "I know most guys "don't get" it but let me prove I am different"
Take for instance the last guy we played with and would again.
We wanted to play, plain and simple. We found a profile that looked interesting. We started the chat with "We find your profile interesting, have we caught you at a busy time ? " His reply. " Actually, I'm taking a break. I'm in the middle of mowing a 4 acre lot just checking my mail and cooling of before I head back out... It should take me a couple hours, and I see you prefer a phone call. Here is my number I have nothing to hide call anytime. I just need to get the mowing done before it rains "
Basically that was pretty cut and dry. No bullshit, see what I mean? We met for a drink and some appetizers. Took us about a half hour to agree we wanted to get a room and fuck... It's not that complicated... We are not about the stigma single males face... We are about the single males that can enhance our pleasure... It doesn't take a whole lot of time for us to decide if we want to fuck. We just need to see he has no hang ups. No potential drama. We may become friends... after we fuck. Sorry if the world see the stigma with single males. We could care less, we only need one... at the time.
Maybe I'm wrong, but so far it sounds like you are failing at getting people to respond to you. Make yourself interesting just being yourself. Give couples a reason to contact you... I know we have no complaints from the men we have initiated contact with So far, given the opportunity, we would play again .