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I would like to think we are the exception here. We do play with singles. We are very selective because of all the IF's involved above. To be honest without cutting down clubs. None of our single playmates, were met in a club. Not in a (we have chemistry, lets have sex tonight and find out later way). One male we know actually gave us his ex-wifes email, sls profile, and phone number. She honestly gave him a very good character reference. Their marriage problem/dissolution had nothing to do in the bedroom, swinging or cheating. It had to do with carriers more than anything. They actually do have a supportive/ best friend, attitude. Now they are reconciling and who knows, all of our paths may cross together.... We still consider we played with him as a non cheating single..... The latest single male we played with has been in the lifestyle many years. He is quite honest about this with any and all single women he dates. He just lives on the other side of town and is well known. We are quite sure there is no cheating even with just his uncommitted significant otrhers... Since we have been out of commission over the last few months he has told us of someone he is dating now. There again, he would like for us to all meet..... We keep an open mind. The females we have played with are very independent. They weren't looking for committed relationships at this time in their lives. They were looking for sex and companionship. Thats where we fit in. Our latest single female companion has now became more serious in a relationship. We have all agreed to stop our playing to see where this goes. No, he doesn't know all about us. But we cant hardly expect any single female to just spill the beans about us, its not fair to them. Swinging and our relationship in the lifestyle, is a shocker to most. It deserves to be explained in a positive manner. After all, it took us some time to sort it all out... As their relationship and commitment grows, thats between them. You know, that tell all conversation that should happen at the wright time. And knowing her, we are sure it will. We have to respect that. If we should become closer we will insist their significant others know about us. Not trying to defend all singles here. I don't think its our place. But to be honest, playing with singles has been the most uncomplicated swinging we know so far. Out side of meeting couples at the clubs/house parties..... Thats a different thing for us entirely

I kinda agree with Julie. We like to talk and get to know people first, but sometimes, it works against us. Two examples: We met a couple for a meal at a restaurant. After the usual small talk, the subject got around to sex and swinging, with us doing more listening than actually talking. After a good little while, I was sure we would never play with this couple, and I could tell by D's expressions that she agreed. You know, that some little something you can't put your finger on a lot of the time that tells you "NO WAY" That's the way it was with them, so we never mentioned playing with them. We just left after the meal, and told them we would talk to them later, which we have, but we have never met them again. Second example: We met another couple at the same restaurant sometime later. We talked a good while, learning we had a lot in common as a couple. We all seemed to feel pretty comfortable with each other, so I asked them if they wanted to get a room and play. The Hubby said he always leaves the decision up to his wife. Well, she says it doesn't matter to her, but what does D think. She's ok with it, but then the other wife says it's so late they really need to get home in a hour or so, because they live a hours drive away. So we make a date for the next Sat night, and get an earlier start. This time we go to their house. We grill out, and afterward, we watch some porno flicks with them. We play with our own spouses, and when they get finished, she gets up and gets dressed, so we do to. We have been to their house several times since, and them to ours, and stay in touch by phone and yahoo all the time, and are great friends. We still talk a lot, but we still haven't played with each other, and I doubt we ever will, but they are good friends to have. Sometimes talk helps, sometimes it hurts. We would never just start playing with somebody we had just met until we had a chance to sorta get to know them a little bit, but that's what works for us.....