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God, it's amazing how my views change over time. I had to reread what I wrote back in 2007. Not at all my views now. Admittedly, I'm a flip-flopper. I agree that most prostitutes have no other choice what their profession will be. While I don't have a nasty attitude towards them or their profession, I know I couldn't do it. Now that we've played with several different couples, I get to choose who we'll play with. I don't want them choosing me without recourse. There is nothing wrong with prostitution as long as it's done willingly. I don't have any ill will toward someone who's been with a prostitute. In fact, a lot of married couples break their FMF cherry with a prostitute according to one of the workers at the Bunny Ranch. If this is true, so be it. They are in a controlled atmosphere, where no untoward problems would occur. It's legal and consensual. I would probably be more curious as to their experience with a prostitute more than repulsed. Would I play with them if they'd been with a prostitute -- if they meet our criteria, sure. How many couples do we play with regularly privy us to their entire sexual history? How do we know that someone we've already played with hasn't visited a brothel before they've played with us? We have no way of knowing unless we ask them, and that's just not important to us. There are pros to playing with a legal and legitimate brothel. Prostitutes are at least tested regularly for STD's. They always use condoms. How many people that we've played with can we say that about?

I think the "bite out of the apple" symbol is the way to go. It is the most universally accepted. That is if you think that you really need to symbolize yourself to the population at large. Last year we were with 200+ swinging couples on a week long cruise with 3400 vanilla people and we wore white wristbands to identify ourselves to all the swingers in the group who we had not already met at the pre-boarding hotel party. After a few days I think half the other people on the ship knew what the wristband meant and I actually became a little uncomfortable wearing it. But of course it served its purpose and a good time was had by all. Come to think of it we only got to know people who wore white wristbands. Too busy to talk to the other passengers. Why would anyone have to signal with symbolism at a swinging function among a group of swingers anyway? Conversation is cheap and effective.

And you sound like you were a nut in not listening to her concern, and showing some compassion. But i was not there, perhaps you were and she simply was too freaked out. But your post sounds a bit mean from my perspective. If some one came in wife, i would be freaked out about STD's also.