Spokane,
Going to the club might be a great option for the two of you. None of us are perfect, well, some are, but I don't expect to meet them at a club, they are in Hollywood making movies. Just be yourselves. As for your wife's job, we both have jobs that would suffer if someone learned about our play time. But if they learned about it from meeting us at a club, they would be in even deeper doodoo than we would be if they let it be known.