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I think there's a lot of truth to what your husband says. Many men are much more forgiving of some extra padding, and in fact enjoy it. I think there is a big difference in the way we all look at people on TV, and the way we look at them in a swing club. I'm glad you feel encouraged to improve your body (and get the health benefits too), but please don't put off going out and having fun "until I lose 20 pounds". Life is too short! Your swing partners are going to be with you because they like your body. They will not be playing with you and preparing a list of what's wrong with you, I guarantee it.

Being overweight does not mean you can't be good looking and have a great personality, two things that carry a lot of weight with who we choose to interact with. When heading out to the clubs be sure to shave, get your nails done, get a haircut, use makeup, a little cologne/perfume, dress to impress, have clean shoes. Basically don't look like a slob.

You'll find that larger couples in the lifestyle are more common than you think. I'm sure it varies to some degree by location but we've been to a number of parties where you guys would be average among the crowd. The trick is to not judge everything by one party or one site. It seems like a lot of the websites are centered in different areas. So if you aren't finding couples that fit you on SLS try some of the other sites and see what you can find. Same thing with the clubs. The most important thing though is that you each have to be ok with yourselves. More than size, self esteem will keep you from meeting/clicking with people. If you aren't happy/comfortable with who you are others won't be either.