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It is cheating. You don't have to be in the act of fucking someone without permission from your spouse to be cheating. Far from it. She can cheat on you without seeing him even in person. She's blatantly, arrogantly cheating. She continues to cheat every day. You're nuts if you believe anything she says right now. Certifiable. STOP believing her, and make it so that her lies do not matter anymore. Protect your daughter. ASAP. This woman is taking you down, and taking her daughter down in the process. If you think for a second that she won't immediately go fuck her child toy when she moves out, you're deluding yourself. Wake up. Please. For your daughter's good, if you won't do it for yourself.

You were selfish in the endeavour of exploring an open marriage with reckless abandon. You were seeking out your fun as well, allowing Sif her fun was a part of that. Being selfish isn't inherently bad; if you don't look out for yourself, who will? You were thinking of Sif when you let her have her fun and thinking of yourself when pursuing your fun. All done with disregard for the warning signs that were present and the potential danger to your relationship. Sif has shown that she won't think about what is best for you when it comes to her emotional reactions to things and if I was in your shoes it would be a very long time before I could trust her again. Confronting her with this was the wrong move, in my opinion. You are reacting emotionally to a situation that demands thoughtful logic and planning. You're also continuing to attribute logical thought processes to Sif when she has consistently demonstrated that she will always act emotionally. You say she won't up and move 3 hours away with live with a guy who lives with his parents? I disagree. Based on everything in this thread I wouldn't be surprised to hear you come back and say that she has decided to move into an apartment with him. I also guarantee that she assumes she will be able to take her daughter with her and that you will end up having to support her. That is a guarantee. It is a common perception that women will always make out like bandits in a divorce. This is certainly very common, but it doesn't have to be the case. I highly doubt that she is going to break off contact with this guy. She will probably cut out contact with him for a few days or weeks, perhaps even until after the holidays (or limited until then). She will pick it back up though and I won't be surprised if you come back and tell us that she arranged to meet him behind your back. She will act with her emotions and won't care about the logic of the situation, it's impact on your relationship or what that means for your daughter. Whether you want to stay married and work things out or want a divorce, stop acting emotionally and contact a lawyer for advice. Use that advice to shape how you communicate about the subject with Sif to ensure that anything you do or talk about with her either helps you if things lead to divorce (you may not have a choice in the matter) or at the very least won't work against you. You need, let me say that again...need, to be prepared for what may come. Being prepared will help you to have shared (or sole) custody of your daughter and save yourself a lot of financial pain.