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I'm one of those women who are listed as "bi-curious". I've been listed that way for almost two years, and have been with enough women to know and understand the extent of my attraction for women. I stick with the label because SLS doesn't have a better one. Enough said about that for now... now I want to respond to NCfuncouple98's request for advice. NCfuncouple98, I suggest that you follow some of the same common-sense rules you would for a heterosexual play experience, like for instance if something feels right, do it. If it feels strange but exciting and something you're curious about, do it. If it feels wrong or icky or too uncomfortable, don't do it. Trust your feelings. (Use The Force...okay, sorry ) There is a difference in the discomfort you'll feel stretching your comfort zone for an experience you want, versus one you don't want. I would also suggest you be very conscious of whether you are feeling pressure from anyone to be or act bi-sexual. People may pressure you implicitly even when they don't mean to, by simply getting excited. You may feel you would disappoint them by not following through. This pressure can happen without anyone saying a word, and without anyone even "making a move". There's a mushy area between encouragement and pressure, and even people with the best intentions have problems. If you feel pressure, meaning you feel uncomfortable enough to want to pull back, I suggest you think twice about doing anything, even passively. Another suggestion... think in advance about how many people you want around when you first do anything (or everything!) with another woman. If you are really curious, you'll still be curious and have the desire even if only you and your new female lover are there. Your husbands may be straining at the bit to watch, but maybe you want them to and maybe you don't. This is something I wish I had done differently. I'm not saying to never let them watch. I'm saying that while you're still unsure, having your husbands and maybe a crowd of people ogling you as entertainment may not enhance your experience. Whatever you decide you want, you should let them know before things start happening. I hope this helps. I do wish that SLS would add some more labels. I am not "curious" anymore, but the truth is that while I am somewhat attracted to women, I am so much more attracted to men that calling myself bisexual seems misleading to people who have closer to an equal attraction to men and women. I don't quite agree with the argument in some earlier postings that "since you're not attracted to all men either, it is the same thing". Of course it is true that I am not attracted to all men. But by and large, when I am attracted to a man, my motivation and desire eclipse my desire for a woman I'm attracted to. I'm somewhere in the "low to mid-2" area on the Kinsey scale, where 0 is completely hetero and 6 is completely homosexual. I use the "curious" label, but explain it in our profile as best I can. Edit: I just read your SLS profile. My new advice to you is: you should want to have sex for you, not for him. I would not be willing to have sex with anyone who was doing it for their spouse. Big turn-off. Still, if you are honestly curious, I wish you the best of luck and hope you enjoy yourself. Personally, exploring sex with women has been a wonderful thing in my life.